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joyrider
Over 90 days ago
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 53
Bi-curious White/Caucasian Female, 53
0 km · KwaZulu Natal

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Quote by amethyst
i think its also a hint towards guys that only want the lady.
I wonder if any couples have experienced this?

 

yes you are very very right in what you said here.

some of the guys play with the cpls like once or twice for fun (as a 3som). then the guy thinks now he can play with the wife with out the husband been present. that is why we use the word happy married. we play as it is fun but once the invited guy thinks he can play with out the hubby been there then it is no more fun but only complicated.

joyrider

in it for the fun not the complications

well i have not taken a virgin yet and i guess at my age will never get the chance tobanghead

hi guys and ladies

well like i said before once i and by wife again we will use the ruler and i answer was not nice to see

i have lost 7mm from the last time we checkedbanghead:fuckinghell:

icon_biggrin funny enough i was wondering the same thing i think the next time i am by the wife i am going to let her check with a rule as she was the one that to the reading last time

Guys what do you prefer a good Blow Job or the plan Sex


Joyrider

Ladies what do you prefer: A good long muff OR to have a finger play with your clit and love hole Or just plan sex.

Remember now ladies here is you chance to help us guys to give you what you like the most

Joyrider

hi every one

after reading this posting i started to think and started to wonder the following, when swinging how many times a month is called exceptable or should a person only have a once every 2 months an incounter. how does it work for the other swingers out there?


joyrider

for me it is a cucumber and a carrot biggrin it lets me think of a mans pennis
Good topic For me I like to kiss a lady in the neck when she has scent on. For me any scent on a lady smells nice. I think it is maybe the ladies that are way more sensitive to smell and that may bother them.
Quote by KC_
Long penises do very little for me, and require extremely skilled Listeners, as I have found the listeners to be the best playmates, as they take direction when it is offered.
Men who think they are fantastic at sex usually disappoint.
They seem to think they know how to play, and refuse to take direction. Even take it as negative criticism and get all mopey!
Well guys listen what was said here!!!
Myself I love it if the lady gives directions because then I know she is enjoying it more, than just worrying about my own enjoyment
Well you know just before you shag a new lady and she for you. 9 times out of 10 the lady always grabs you dick first. I am sure it is to size the guy up and if the lady says sjoe your big it is at that moment that should know. Handle her gentle, And it is at that moment do a good job of the foreplay so the lady is nice and wet and ready for any thing. But even if she is ready i let her lay in missioner position with a pillow under her bottom. This way you can change you angle of attacklol.
Hi everyone and thanks to those that had the guts to ask the question to their partner. And yes it is a shock a big shock. it feels like your whole world has just fallen apart, but the 1 good thing by doing that is you know you should go right back to the begining. When you met one another, and do that which you have not done in a long time. For me it was something stupid like just kissing a lot more during the shag session. And now i rock her world again, jipee. come on guys who else has the guts to ask their partner out of the blue the same question and post your findings. Or is there now only 3 to 4 people on the furom?
Hi there everyone. I have not posted anything on the forum in sometime, but now I think I have found something for everyone to chat over. Now the thing is first think of what I am saying and what I am asking before putting a comment. Right the other day we were standing at a braai when one of our clever friends brought up the following subject: rocking each other’s world during sex. But the subject went something like this Right you a happily married clp been with each other for some time. In other the words the perfect match. Now every now and then you ask your partner after a good sex session, how was that on a scale of 1 to 10? And your partner gives you an honest answer every time and says 8 or a 7 but never a 10. Meaning you have never got your partner to reach a 10. Would that worry you, because if you can’t make your partner reach a 10. Because their answer is always a 7 or 8 out of 10. Remember now think of it this way your partner rocks your world just about every time with a 10 out of 10 for your but you don’t rock their world with a 10 out of 10 every now and then. And it made me think a bit. The feeling for me if my partner has to say o it was an 8 out of 10 would crush me. How would it make you feel? Needless to say there was many different answers that came up like well she is still with me so I am doing something right. And when the question came up like what? Everyone went from pillow to post with their answer. Now think about what was asked then answer the following. How would you feel to find out if you don’t really rock your partner’s world and why do you think your partner is still staying with you? Or is it better not to know the answer?
Quote by bbw
Honestly, I have a gripe.
How come when men talk to you, they will tell you,"I love eating pussy "
That is one of my criteria, in my profile
I am one of those woman who can only orgasm through oral stimulation.
Every single man I have met up with, wants a bj, sex and when they have done the squirt ... everything is over and they are as happy as pigs in Palestine and I am thinking ... what the fuck: I have just been treated like a whore ...
They don't reciprocate... what is this chauvanistic piggish attitudes?
They will give half attempts of like 30 seconds and use their finger for stimulation or they will say: I love to fuck ... fuck is better than this ... yead dude, for u ... yes, not for me...
Yes, sir a vagina has a aroma to it, even when clean or even when it has been douched.
I have news for you gentleman, guess what .. Your penis has an aroma, even after washing it... it still has a smell you expect me to put my mouth there, suck you, like you want and yet you cannot get yourself to satisfy me?

hi there to all,
i am a married man and when we look for a cpl the first thing i ask the guy of the cpl is how long do you take before you cum and can you give a good muff. and the male always says he is good and the wife confirms it. but when it comes to play with my wife the guy does a half a job and if he last about 10min before he cums it is long. now because the lady says her hubby is good i then make sure i do a real good job. and to do a real good job it takes about 90 min. by that time my wife and the guy sits like piet snot waiting. and then my wife feels she got the short end of the stick, which is not fair
so now what i am going to do the next time round when we meet the cpl i ask the lady is she bi or is she intreasted in bi. the reason for this is the next time if i am still going then my wife can join us and i can please both women at the same time.
i hope that will help my wife so she dont feel she got the short end of the stick
Hi every one, I see there is a new thing which comes up which is called f Like share which is connected to face book. Can someone please explain what is it and how it works. Joyrider
for me age is just a number when it comes to the ladies :twisted: Joyrider any age is go for me (just not under age)
Quote by MagicLady
Well I'm not trying to offend anyone either. But quickies is all that I have experienced so far from this site. Guys can't last more than 5 min and forget they are there to please a lady as well. Hubby is still busy pleasing the lady and I'm left hanging cause the guy is now done.
So guys if you want a quickie pay for it.

SHAME MagicLady this is joyrider i know what you mean, we too have been with cpls where the same has happened. and from my point of view it makes me then feel guilty because Joy also gets the short end of the stick just like you and i find it not fun at all to know the guy is over with in 5min and i am still going on for at least another 35mins. from my point of view it leave a bad taste in my mouth. if i see that has happened then i usually try and finish as quick as i can. because what use is it if i enjoy myself and she cant.
Joyrider
Well lets see according to me there are a few signs, but remember not all ladies are the same. Okay some ladies can get can get very loud when they cum, Some ladies eyes get like a real shock look in their face, Or it looks like their eyes roll backwards, Or they really grip you hard any where on your body I mean like a vice grip hold with their hands, O and of cause some ladies leave one huge wet mark one the bed by the time you are done, O and don't forget you can feel the ladies inside their virginal walls also get like contraction feel around your dick. But I must say for myself even when I get the ladies to go throw 5 out of the 6 which I have spoken about then I am happy, because then the lady has that wonderful glow in her face after the sex session and her eyes. Her eyes let you know when she really enjoyed in it, her eyes has that relaxed, sparking, happy look. This is a look that a lady can not replicate believe me. Once I get that look then I know I did my job right and only then I am happy. But then again that is only me. Joyrider O my word that look
thank you for the info just more reasons why we just dont just into bed with any one
let me understand something! because i disagree with what you say and what you want. now i am racist because i am white. let me put it to you this way i have adopted a kid but the kid is not white. i look after the kid i cloth the kid show the kid love extra. now if my kid wants to use drugs or do something which i disagree with. now i am a racist? or i have a very good friend for about 15 years now one day we have a disagreement because he likes the taste of black label beer and i like castle beer. now we are both racists because we disagree about the taste of the beer? shame dude grow up this is not 1950 it is 2014. not everyone will not do things the way you want them to do and not everyone will agree with what you say. life does not just about one colour, it goes about respecting your neighbor like you would want them to respect you.
When it comes to penises, size does matter — at least for some women. Women who are more likely to have vaginal orgasms say it is easier to orgasm with men who have longer penises, according to a 2012 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Though it's not clear exactly why, a longer penis may be better able to stimulate the vagina and the cervix, study co-author Stuart Brody, a psychologist at the University of the West of Scotland, told LiveScience at the time. In a 2013 study detailed in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, researchers reported women said the ideal penis size varied with a man's height, with a larger organ looking better on taller men.
Why do you want to swing?
This is a question only you yourself can answer. But nine times out of ten. One of the following is your reason.
You are thinking of it is because your partner has brought up the subject
Or you both have fantasised about it, but please realize a person's fantasy is just that because in real life things hardly ever work out the way you have fantasised about.
Or you are wanting to please your partner and that is why you are considering it. This is how most couples get into the life style. So don't feel bad about it.
Or you both just want to add some spice to your relationship. This is a nice reason why you doing it and it works.
But if you thinking of swing because it might be a way to try and save your relationship. Then forget it because swinging can either bring the two of you much closer or drive you even more apart. You see swinging is built on trust and if you don't have trust in your relationship then it will also not work. Then rather forget swinging.
You see the reason why trust is so important is you need to be able to trust that not one of you will walk around behind each other's back, because swingers do not play behind their partners back and they will not usually play with someone that is cheating on their spouse and the reason for this is true swingers do it for clean fun without complications.
Clean fun without complications is the best fun you can ever have
Joyrider
lol :lol: good to hear the old timers still find the time to be spontaneous. i just hope in my old days i can still do it as a young man :twisted: :lol: Joyrider old never means cold ne :lol: :lol: :lol:
a posting like this breaks my heart. and yes the lady has a point we as swingers should also sometimes try and help with advise. i know the saying says sometimes you got to be cruel to be kind, but that saying is wrong. in a case like this where we can see someone needs help or is asking for help. we as swingers should try and stick out a hand and help by giving advise, but not get too involved in the problem its self. on some sites there is swingers that help new swingers. help them to understand what happens and what does not happen emotionally wise and to ask them is that what they really want. and the reason i say this is not every cpl is the same. because like you ladies have said in many topics. the reason why you started to swing is you wanted to please your partner. and some ladies also want to do that but they dont know how to deal with the emotions. we should be here to help and guide new swingers so that they too can enjoy the finer things of life. well maybe that is just us as a cpl that has this mind set. joyrider communication in swinging is the main corner stone wink
I saw this under the dogging section :sad: why did you not let us knowbanghead Ramsgate couple having sex tonight looking for someone to watch (10-Oct-2014) will be at ramsgate lagoon tonight at 8 (10-Oct-2014)
I walked it to 1 of the goverment clinic's and there they give them away for free Joyrider wink lol :twisted: