Let's assume we are all aware of the statistical averages of vaginal depth, capacity and let's also assume everyone here has some sexual experience with a vagina (smiling this side of the computer)
Now for you guys who do not know this, I hope you all know already and that I am just prejudge mental here.
A uterus and its cervix has a certain tilt, depending on the lady, some tilt, to put it plainly, backwards/front wards and to one or the other side ( anterior/posterior /lateral and medial for those more up to date with medical terms.)
Then you have a little space below a cervix which is called a fornix.
Men who says they have a Large and bigger penis should be the ones having this complaint from us ladies....STOP thrusting!!!! you are hurting us...if you use your penis as a battering ram you are no fun!!!!
The guys who says they have an average penis might have the same complaint if the ladies uterus and cervix is shallow and her vagina depth is not to they fare much better at pleasing their lover.
The men who says they are small, well they should have all the fun really, they can thrust away and bang the lady to kingdom come with out hurting her.
That is where gents must learn on how to GRIND and not thrust....a thicker penis is HEAVEN!!!!! They give the best stimulation in my Humble opinion.
Some times your cervix is gonna collide with the head of a penis. He is thrusting hard from a certain angle, you're slightly shallow (vaginally, not in character) or maybe he's just slightly bigger than average guy.
Now that we've gotten that out of the way, here is my questions.
For the men
First of please go bang your elbow on a wall hard!!! The same pain you are going to feel is nearly what it feels like for us ladies who has our cervix`s banged!!!
Ever had a lady stop you due to your banging her cervix? And what did you do to prevent it happening again.
How did your penis head feel after a hard pounding on a cervix?
For the women
Which one are you(like of dislike) and what do you do to help or hinder the collision of his penis banging on your cervix?
Do you also feel the same effect when someone thrust his finger into your belly button?
Question anyone can answer
What sexual positions is best or what you use for a large penis to prevent such a hammering taking place
Did anyone ever notice if your lady or yourself do not feel the *pounding* on a cervix when the lady/you is/are menstruating?
How would you go about it to make your lady/your own cervix, used to and be able to *take* a pounding??
Give hints and how you went about it.
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Penis size versus Vagina size
Well you know just before you shag a new lady and she for you. 9 times out of 10 the lady always grabs you dick first. I am sure it is to size the guy up and if the lady says sjoe your big it is at that moment that should know. Handle her gentle, And it is at that moment do a good job of the foreplay so the lady is nice and wet and ready for any thing. But even if she is ready i let her lay in missioner position with a pillow under her bottom. This way you can change you angle of attack
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. Thanks to the 2 people whom did comment.
You guys know that when women are together we do talk sex ,yes??
Feedback on what my lady friends usually say about cervix pounding when it does come up...... it is usually a big NO NO as it is really painful.
Most women do NOT like it at all. You of course get the exception but they are few and far in between.
At one ladies party we all took a mirror to *look* at our fannies, now you guys know a fanny is not the best looking thing there is, put on some uncontrolled hair and you have a night mare vision.
Now to really know your own vagina we were told to also feel it and explore it, We went home to do this as most of us did not want to do it in front of everyone... when you insert 2 fingers and you push backwards and upwards and if you can feel your cervix/uterus, this indicates that you have a shallow vagina if you are unable to touch your cervix/uterus this will indicate that you are more inclined to a deeper vagina. (lucky you).
Most of the ladies with shallow vagina`s will tell you guys that they prefer *cowboy style* really....being on top, allows for us to grind more and you can manage the depth of the penis.
If you are married to someone who is really large (in length) I think ladies get used to being subjected to a cervix pounding.
Some will advise ladies who has this problem to use a longer *dildo* to pound the cervix from light pounding to stronger poundings to make the cervix used to the contact. I am talking from another ladies mouth on this issue, so how true this is, I would not know!
One lady also said, she noticed that her cervix is less painful during her menstrual cycle and she can then enjoy the pounding more.
Orgasminator
This is a good point to remind each other that everyone is different and why it's important to get to know your partner. Learn her kinks and favourites and use it to your advantage to get her screaming.
Also I like to take it slow at first, build the tension and excitement. Advantage being you increase the sexual tension and additionally you avoid hurting her through pushing too hard at first.
Sex God
Like Redbruce said, I have also experienced different things with different partners. As for preferred position, mmmmm, again totally depends on partner, but a lady on her tummy is always a great way to start.
For me, thickness is definitely preferable to length.
The only thing about a big penis, is a personal "challenge" to see if I can fit it inside me pleasurably.
That usually involves NO movement from the other person, while they are on their back, and me taking me time to lower myself onto them.
Long penises do very little for me, and require extremely skilled Listeners, as I have found the listeners to be the best playmates, as they take direction when it is offered.
Men who think they are fantastic at sex usually disappoint.
They seem to think they know how to play, and refuse to take direction. Even take it as negative criticism and get all mopey!
But penis size is really not that important to me (apart from extreme length, which i avoid...)
I have had great fun with different size penises, and great disappointment too.
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Long penises do very little for me, and require extremely skilled Listeners, as I have found the listeners to be the best playmates, as they take direction when it is offered.
Men who think they are fantastic at sex usually disappoint.
They seem to think they know how to play, and refuse to take direction. Even take it as negative criticism and get all mopey!
Well guys listen what was said here!!!
Myself I love it if the lady gives directions because then I know she is enjoying it more, than just worrying about my own enjoyment
Puss, you do raise interesting topics. This is a contentious issue in my marriage. My wife has a tilted uterus and even slightly deeper penetration in the missionary position becomes unbearable. She reaches orgasm easily. However as soon as I'm getting to the point and wants harder, deeper penetration then all goes pear shape and the whole experience becomes a downer. We have tried numerous positions without success, or rather it works as foreplay or play sex but as soon as we get to the climax then.. Interesting I've never felt like I'm hitting something or banging the tip but I can feel and see how she tenses up when I start to speed up. Not sure how to have the same sensation of deep penetration without really doing it, maybe a donut sponge to fill the gap or act as a buffer?
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@JDfun
Thanks for your participation in the Forum.
I see you mention the missionary position as the main culprit, Seems you guys have tried other positions, How about one like entering from the back lying snug behind your loveys back,her one leg backwards over your hip. I know the gent can not penetrate that deep from that position.
And as said by me and KC_ by letting your lovey *on-top* Or *cowboy* style your lovey is the one who determines how deep she takes you
Why not try that nice donut sponge and tell us the results??
Anyone else has some ideas on how to prevent too deep penetrations??
Thanks for your reply, I'll rather say missionary is the only option left and excludes any gymnastics ankle behind the ear moves. Doggy is especially a no no I find for myself there are a number of what I call foreplay / sex play positions - like the position you describe and as part of love making and the allover touching / being one is great but I find it difficult to actually achieve orgasm in those positions.
Maybe contributing is the fact that we never really have what I would call a night of passionate sex as she likes it short and sweet and does not enjoy anything longer than an hour.
I appreciate all the ideas, please keep them coming.
HMMMMMmmmmm JDFun, heck your lovey is surely in need of a few differences in your foreplay to lovemaking nights.
If I may be as bolt, why not surprise her with a night of passion? the theme here is surprise!!!! If you have kiddies sent them for a night away at friends or that the house is cleaned (not wifey doing it) and sent out for some *takeouts* EVERYTHING should be done before your lovey gets home, IF she works like the majority females (if she is a house wife...well then you need to take her to a nice Hotel after a night out to dinner and such,just go prepare the room to specifications......before you take her there.)
Low lighting is advised if at home nice smelling candles (vanilla is usually nice) Just put out of the way in case it gets turned over to prevent disaster.
The bed only covered in a nice clean sheet. some music that you both like softly playing in the back ground.
Get some almond-oil or grape-oil for a nice massage and add a few drops of mint in it or vanilla extract in it(note few drops like say 3 in a 100ml oil) put it in a bowl for easy use.
Have a few english cucumber slices in a separate bowl to slide down her back and between her breasts and down her front. Use 2 slices to to put on her eyes to keep them closed.
Have ready 1 big clean bath-sheets or towels one to cover her and you can wear a sheet over your genitals and hips.
Have ready and handy some hairbrush/paintbrush & a feather & a slinky piece of material or a soft scarf & a real rose and have a few petals strewn over the sheet on the bed. Think of anything else you would like to side over her body and have it ready and handy.
When your lovey gets home,meet her at the door with JUST an apron on or a towel around your hips. Now is also the time to tell her you are going to spoil her feed her and give her a nice massage and that the night is all about her....NOT you.
Invite her to sit and sip a glass of wine while you serve the food.
Try and feed her little juicy pieces of food with your fingers, sit as near to her as possible and touch her frequently and kiss her on her fingers and lick of juices that is lingering on her lips.
NO talk about work or the kids or any problems......ask her about how she is feeling and make light talk and give her lots of little compliments....
Once the meal is finished make her sit with her last wine and watch you do the dishes(there should not be a lot) as it was take anyway....or have her go to take her bath now....
Where you have ready and waiting in the bathroom..some bath salts/oils and her favorite bathrobe but she has to disrobe in the kiddies room or in the bathroom!! she is NOT to see the room. she can finish the last of the wine while she baths.
You can even wash her if she will allow it, at least her back....run a razor down her legs and under her arms if she is not a waxing kind of lady. s she is smooth all over. You can also dry her and take her to the room (all phones must be switched off and all doors locked)
Now you start off with a nice body relaxing massage using the oil you prepared, give special care to her hands and feet take YOUR TIME do not rush through this procedure. Keep the areas you are not massaging covered with the bath sheet or towel.
Once you have her relaxed, heck even if she falls asleep let her... but do wake her up...you can incorporate & play with the feathers and brushes between the massage areas.......
Once you start the front (you should by now have done her legs and arms and everything else except the front and her private parts)you are going to get on the bed, sit with her legs draped over your own legs opening her up too you,you can have her head on a little pillow so she can watch you, NOW you proceed doing a BREAST and YONI massage!!!!
And I hope that she loves this whole evening that once you start with the Yoni & Breast massage that she is very horny by now....BUT you are NOT to have penetrative sex with her at all!!!! Just the massage......
Now all that is left is you doing YOUR research on massage techniques and the techniques on Yoni and Breast massages.
I am very sure your efforts will be greatly REWARDED!!!!!!!!
You can of course also do the very opposite and instead of doing a massage give her a nice shadow strip tease show.......
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