Since I created my own profile, I am now chatting to a lot of local people that were not interested in our couple profile. They do know that I am the female from the couple profile and I will not play alone.
My thinking is this: most people we have met on here, as well as our own couple profile, the male of the couple normally writes the profile and answers the mails and does the arrangements. Maybe if you are communicating with a single lady profile, you should let your lady do the talking? I do think the way we write gives away much more of who we are than we realize. The other reasons (fantasy, getting fed up etc) are still valid, but maybe this also plays a role?
As we progress in this lifestyle and in life, our wants, needs and requirements can change. So maybe Stamina, if a profile that you contacted without success is still around in a few months time, try again? That person might be more open to try new things by then.
Well.....let me put you all in the picture. .....
I'm a bi woman, in a serious relationship with another woman. We want to try this lifestyle, but she is very hesitant.
That's why only my stats are on the profile and no pics as yet.
I'm here to check things out, she's very shy and not as cheeky as I am.
What I've noticed is that some people don't read the profile, they check the stats and pics and then make wild suggestions.
I try my best to answer all mails, but some guys just don't get the message! !!!
As a new member I've experienced that you are not accepted easily, it's almost like a clique at school, especially in the forum!
That is why a lot of people just read and don't comment on the forum!
It has even been hinted at that I'm not who I say I am, but another profile owner's fake profile!
As for the chat room, the people keep quiet because the regulars don't take notice of you.
Yes Stamina, we all waiting with bated breath to hear about your experience :twisted:
At the moment I'm reading Emma's Humiliatuon by Hillary James (BDSM)
And of late I've read a lot of this forum.
I find it interesting that one of the people who are against talking about politics on here has just made a political comment on one of the dinner guests that was mentioned?
And PLEASE I'm not standing up for anyone or attacking anyone!
Merely observing.
I would love to have dinner with Pink, she is sooooo hot! :inlove:
So Stamina, has the penis healed?
And when is this massage going to happen, we'd all love to hear the details....
And that makes SDMR's scenario he painted earlier all the more scary Stamina!
I contribute BECAUSE of you, Stamina & Pieman!
So the rest need to get on board or start their own threads..... my opinion
The statement was made this whole site is a joke, that includes PE, Gauteng etc.
It was also said if you want to swing seriously you should join a club for that.
So if you suggest that you should have investigated if there are clubs like that accessable to all on this site in all provinces.
Otherwise not be as outspoken to say the site is a joke!
By the way SDMR, luv your new avatar!
Scorpio69, please do enlighten the rest of us?
I've lived in PE most my life and know of nothing of the sort!
So please do tell or are you just BS us all????
You guys are really passionate about this topic!
I like passionate people, I'm one myself, gets me in trouble though, as is evident earlier in this topic!
How about the do's and don'ts of swinging?
No doubt it has been discussed before, but it is site related and informative.
You not alone on this one sofistikitty, I've had the same problems.
You just need to find someone that can keep up!
If you can find a girl that can keep up, you're in for a treat!
(Pity you're straight)
If this is the welcome a new comer gets here, I will rather not be part of it, thank you!
You don't need to do anything "on my behalf".
As for standing up for any particular person, I would do the same for anyone else.
Lastly, how could you say anything to or about me?
And do you have to for me to have an opinion?
No need for that Mr SDMR, you had your say, I had mine.
Is that not what the forum is for?
Stamina, please remind me not to get on your wrong side !!!
Well, I'm new here, have read a lot of the forum posts, so I feel I kinda know the regulars.
I'm actually offended by the insinuating tone of Mr SDMR here.
You say the "essay" Pieman wrote. From what I have read, you also write essays.
You say you not sure if it's based on experience or research, I do hope that you and Pieman know
each other, for you to make such accusations? I don't have a problem with "banter" but this has another "feel" to it.
"Self proclaimed firearm wielding hollywood movie type mentality swinger" as you put it, a bit harsh aren't you?
So you are saying if anyone has a strong opinion, all that posted on this topic, including you, can forget about possible meets?
Mmmmmm seems like sour grapes to me, because the others agreed with Pieman on the "Anything goes" part of this discussion.
Thank you so much for the insight!
You have given me something to think about
Hello everyone. ....
This looks like the place to be :-D
Why am I here? Well....My partner wants to swing and is trying to convince me.
To be quite honest I'm struggling to wrap my head around this.
Is swinging not like cheating? Maybe you can enlighten me?
VampEC1
If Admin does not delete our profiles and we do get a chance to contribute more, that will become evident.
To those who understand, thank you.
To those who are offended and angry, I do understand.
Vamp
I was about to go on that tangent of proving that you are genuine! !!
You and I have exchanged some PM and I would love to chat to you more.
What I wanted to say is that some (please note: some) of the regular's profiles don't offer much more information than mine, except for a hidden pic, and they are not doubted. Seems if you have a strong opinion you are not genuine! I do not expect everyone to agree, it's just the way of disagreeing.
Anyways back to your question, I think a lot of woman are just fantasizing or are doing it behind their partner's back maybe?
Maybe just knowing they are of interest is enough of a kick? Or just chatting is enough for them?
But then I feel their profile should reflect that. .. .
Let's just say you definitely won't be left wanting kitty.......rather purring with pleasure 
