So Mike_Pta thread about SA's Porn habits got me thinking.
When I joined this site, I joined in the "hope" that I would be able to meet with like minded people, after-all, living outside of the "Big Cities" has a rather extreme limitation on ones options of where to meet with said like minded people.
It was within the first month or so, that I very quickly realised that my chances were going to remain slim to none, even with the help of the site. However I stuck around because of all the other benefits.
One of which (for me) is looking through the galleries. Now I have to say, if I looked (or measured) like the majority of the people look in the galleries, I think I would have a totally different approach in the real world. (this is a sort of round about kind of compliment to the people in the galleries)
A large number of the woman pictured in the galleries, are extremely attractive and clearly have no or very little self confidence issues, they would surely be exposed to attention in the real world which, as we all know could easily lead to "connections".
A large number of the men in the Galleries, raise the question as to just how accurate the so called "average penis" size actually is. (and this got worse after it was suggested by others that pictures make it look smaller) So with the knowledge that size does matter, confidence surely abounds.
So, despite that relatively useless introduction, my question remains, "Why are you here" ?
We joined looking for an mmf.
We have had a few since then, some were great, some were disappointing.... I suppose that is how the 'normal' dating game works out anyway....
We are now looking into couples, but finding it extremely difficult due to my current lack of enthusiasm which is in part due to an overload of work stress at the moment. The idea of making a date, and putting ourselves out there at this point in time is not exactly appealing. That said, if a wonderful couple which gets my motor running lands in our lap, we might find some energy to meet up....
I stay for the occasional forum thread which catches my eye, although I can easily go two weeks without logging on....
Just my 2c
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C
We are here perhaps out of frustration, and have many time to sit and read all the treads making no sense
Well why are we here mmm good question!
Well we joined because joy wanted to arrange a single lady to play (have fun) with us as a cpl on a long term relationship. Well needless to say we have come to the conclusion that there is NO lady or ladies out there that will do it.
O and before I forget, I wanted to feel how another lady would feel like too.
So we had a change of heart. We then went for cpl's. Mmm. Found 1 or 2 cpl's, and let me tell you, I had the chance to feel how another lady felt like, and all I have to say is, it was not as empressive, as I thought it would be. Ever heard of the saying there is no place like home or the saying why go out for takeaways if you can eat first grade steak at home.
Now we are here still looking for cpls and ladies that is genuine, as we can count on our one hand a few genuine cpls and ladies. We all have our kicks out of the fun with cpls and ladies, so if we get asked this question again, we are here to spice up our love life.
Joyrider
Still hoping that one day we will find that lady that will let me say WOW that was great, being with us.
I am primarily here for the "dogging" connection on this site. I heard about the concept of dogging, and was fascinated by it, having been a confirmed voyeur for a loooonnng time.
I wrote and posted a story on the site a while back, where I described why and how I became involved with this site. The following is taken from the introduction to that story....
"Feathers at the Lake – how I became involved.
This all happened before I was a member of this site. I had Googled 'dogging', which led me to the UK's SwingingHeaven site, where I had been reading all their dogging stories. Then I saw that they had a sister site here in RSA, and so I checked this one out as well. Relatively few members at the time (<9 000), and very few stories posted, but at least there was a 'Dogging' page on the forum, which I could monitor and see what was being discussed. So I started following what was happening here at home, reading the local stories and the forum discussions, without being a member (yes, it's all totally visible and accessible to non-members!)."
The story goes on to tell about the "Feather Club" event at Germiston Lake, initiated by Thailand and SexySlut. Yesterday was actually the 2nd anniversary of that event!! That's where I got hooked, thanks to those lovely people!
And the story pretty much ends with...
"I left the lake and went straight back to my office, logged on to the SH site, and immediately registered my redbruce profile, and have been here ever since...."
This site provides me with opportunities to connect and meet up with many varied and interesting people who have similar interests to mine, and so I use it to promote the concept of "arranged dogging", which seems to be the safest way to enjoy the "rush" and "naughtiness" of dogging, while minimising exposure to the potential risks that can result from outdoor sex with the possible intrusion of an "undesirable element" (mugger/ /groper/thug/law-enforcement officer!). I love meeting and chatting to other people about our naughty experiences. Sometimes there is sex involved, often there isn't....
I had my first swingers experience when I was single years ago. But the couple I was with we were very close and it lasted quite long. Anyway I met a guy friend that told me about the site(I'm always curious) so I joined and was hoping to have more experiences with great "chemistry" with other couples and men. Also to have new and other experiences(inter racial, bi sexual)
So far I met some really cool people on the site, but also I've had disappointing meets lol. All in all I guess I got what I came for . Hoping to meet a regular friend with benefits or couple friends with benefits. Better quality then quantity
Well I joined in my honours year at uni. Before joining I hadn't been in a relationship in 2,5 years or couldn't get past the 3rd date thanks to my studies etc. So in a way I was getting frustrated and also missing physical contact.
So one night I was playing around and I found this site and I figured I would check it out. In a way it looked like a great fit for me, I was looking for sex but not a NSA one night stand, I was looking for a friendship but not a fixed commitment so when uni got hectic I wouldn't stretch myself between 2 commitments. So I gave it a shot and 9 months later I'm still here but more just to check out the forums instead these days.
Effectively pure dumb luck and coincidence is why I'm here.
.i had found myself recently single and dating but my heart wasn't in to be out there again dating just felt wrong .searching for voyeur and dogging info i stumbled on to first i was a lurker (like most) and eventually started inter-acting.i have met some great people here and have knocked a few things off my bucket list .
Why I joined?? To be the pervert that I am.
Why am I STILL here...Now that is a good question....
To remain being a pervert....:happy::evil2:
This is my first post, being a shyish person I prefer to read than post.
So I figured one has to start somewhere. So here goes.
We joined the site after we had a soft play with some close friends. And it sparked the curiosity inside me.
How I got hold of the site on the internet is beyond me , but so happy I did.
It didn't take long before our present partners contacted us through the site and arranged a meeting.
Arranging the first meeting must be the most nerve wrecking thing of all.
We met and so the fun started and a year later it is still going strong, we have become good friends and good partners.
Apparently what we found is very rare according to some, so we are extremely happy and hope it continues.
So at present i use the site for browsing the forums and looking at all the beautiful pics.
Hello everyone. ....
This looks like the place to be :-D
Why am I here? Well....My partner wants to swing and is trying to convince me.
To be quite honest I'm struggling to wrap my head around this.
Is swinging not like cheating? Maybe you can enlighten me?
VampEC1
Well.... long story short..... I (Nimfie), lost my sexual appetite, Pieman got frustrated, put a single profile up on another site, arranged a few meetings for himself.
Luckily he couldn't cheat on me, confessed and after I almost murdered him :taz: we decided to try the swinging.
We had a lot of ups and downs until we met our permanent playmates and now we having a ball!!!
We as a 4sum are looking to explore further together.
Pieman is surely lucky you,nimfie, only nearly beheaded him and not leave him....Lucky man!!!
@VampEC1
All I can say is swinging is NOT for everyone, and if there is NO rules before hand and NO OPEN communication before even trying this, you will surely fail.
Swinging is also not a way to *save* a wobbly marriage. It is for enchanting a already STRONG GOING marriage.
a couple must be very secure in themselves to really enjoy the lifestyle.
and the Nimfie_Pieman couple and their buddies are LUCKY to have met up as early in their swinging journey as they have, it does not happen to many couples for ages sometimes never!!!
Only advise I can give you.....think and chat and CHAT and chat again until both of you are secure in WHY you are going to try this lifestyle.
Thank you so much for the insight!
You have given me something to think about
, and hopefully meet some interesting people along the way. You seem like a great bunch of people, and I hope I can make some friends. :cheers:
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