I assume that most members do not read these forums. Probably only us few regulars posting and commenting (I think). If I am lucky then a few females will read here and answer. I think speak for a lot of members that would love to hear the answers... Maybe we all doing something wrong and the answers can help "improve" us...
What exactly are you (single ladies) looking for on this site? You gals have ads saying you are looking for "adult fun" with couples. You have ads that blatantly explain how "horny" you are. Ads that say you want to be used and abused like a slut. Ads that say you are open minded and will try anything. You have pics on your profiles of your lady bits spread open so wide we can see what you had for breakfast. Pics of toys inserted in your privates. Pics of penises in your mouths. Etc... Basically adverting to the world that you want to have sex. Lots of it! In weird and wonderful ways... Gang bangs, threesomes, one-on-ones, anal, oral, etc, etc, etc...
Most log on every few hours or every few days. You read messages (it shows in the sentbox). You view profiles of those that looked at you or sent a message. Basically, you are active on the site... So the question again- what do want here? Every last one of you so far (not most or some) do not meet or arrange meets. You say want sex but clearly you do not. For the 1 in 100 that answer a message, you let the chat die - nothing ever comes of it. What on certain profiles puts you off?
What must a couple or guy or even another lady do to get your interest?
Is this site a playground for you? A way to pass the time? Entertainment? Curiosity? Please tell me (and the rest of us).
Don't take this the wrong way - it is pure curiosity as to why people join a site intended to lead to meets and possibly playtime but they do not meet or play. I am told that single females on sites like these are hard to find so there is even a name - Unicorns! But you girls are on the site... You do exist and you are members. Surely 20 contacts should lead to atleast one meet? I am not alone, many couples on here complain about exactly the same thing. Ladies will not respond to messages and will not meet!! What are you here for? Please tell us...
well i must say this in an interesting one , we as a couple have been looking for a lady to join us mainly for FFM , but all the single Ladies we have mailed , and like you say one can see it the mail have been opened , have never bothered to even say a "no thanks" , so yes a good question raised i think
I think the question can be asked for every one on the site, single women, single men and couples. This question been asked on other sites as well.
Taking the chatroom sometimes there are two rooms open that mean more than 125 members in the chatroom and there are members for much longer than 1 month who never said a word or even greet back with a icon.
But open your cam and see how quick they are to view your cam. Go and look after people looked at your cam, or your chat in the pool how quick they are to send you the standard mail, telling you how nice profile you got.
The same as been said its only good manners to say thank you but no thanks.
One person ones said only the thought of see real people fucking is a turn on.
I also think a lot of the members sitting at work and steel the boss time and airtime not doing there job for witch they paid for
@ Adonis...I had to smile and AGREE with the remark that most people are naughty and using their work computers for some naughty stuff....but as I know, it can become dangerous and it can get people fired aswell.
Back to the question...
Me why am I here...
TO PERV of course!!! And try to keep my naughty mind active with SEXY stuff, otherwise I will just be a dried up old prune!!! ermmm become a prude.I am a prune already. :twisted: :sad:
Well.....let me put you all in the picture. .....
I'm a bi woman, in a serious relationship with another woman. We want to try this lifestyle, but she is very hesitant.
That's why only my stats are on the profile and no pics as yet.
I'm here to check things out, she's very shy and not as cheeky as I am.
What I've noticed is that some people don't read the profile, they check the stats and pics and then make wild suggestions.
I try my best to answer all mails, but some guys just don't get the message! !!!
As a new member I've experienced that you are not accepted easily, it's almost like a clique at school, especially in the forum!
That is why a lot of people just read and don't comment on the forum!
It has even been hinted at that I'm not who I say I am, but another profile owner's fake profile!
As for the chat room, the people keep quiet because the regulars don't take notice of you.
@VampEC1
We might seem like a clique and yes it is true people stick to people they KNOW to chat to in the chat room, but if you are patient and keep up saying hello and just chip in and start chatting to the peeps in chat, You will find they will answer back and in the end you will seem like one of the clique one`s to the other new people.
But you will soon notice the peeps come and they go...just a few people really stay the same. So Stay a little longer and try.
As for the forums , we oldies get tired of the same old same old and we log on and sometimes comment or take some time out for a while. I miss the so called Regulars we had a year ago....they just log in now and again commenting now and again...But it is always nice to see their names back...
Men will be men, they take chances with all the ladies on site, it is not only you complaining about them NOT getting the NO THANKS messages. In the end we just get to ignoring them writing us rude or one word messages, or sending cock pics as an is when they again start moaning we do not ever message back... see it is an ever lasting circle I think I mentioned an infinity circle somewhere...well it is the same with mails... we try, they try, we reply then ignore and they do the same we all moan about it at some stage or other.
But you are more than welcome here in the forums....if it belated from My side, I do apologize. BIG grin.... *WELCOME to the dark side* !!!
I'm here for what I ask for in my profile. I prefer being straight forward, so there's no confusion. I have a high libido as well as an insatiable desire to please and be pleased. Want a friend I can chat to, swing with and be intimate with all on a regular basis(FWB) And well after some good and bad... I finally have had an amazing time with a couple and think I'm going to stick with them for now. Still looking for a male partner though.
Oh wow SofistiKitty, Glad you found *your* couple!!!!
Puss and Vamp and Kitty... You guys are forum regulars. All the forum regulars are genuine people. You are all honest in my view and you guys will meet. I know you all answer messages back. I am curious about the other few hundred that join and waste everyones time. I know you all are who you say you are. I do not to meet you in person to know. You can just tell when someone is telling the truth. I am a very good judge of character.
Heres an example... I mailed a lady about two weeks ago. Asked her if she would be interested in chatting and then possibly meeting at local lounge for a drink. Explained what my lady is looking for and that we have no expectations. Just a night out and what happens, happens. I am very polite and friendly in my messages. Anyway, no reply as expected. I mailed again on Friday afternoon with a similar message but this time asked nicely for a reply. Apologised for my persistence but warranted it with my interests in her profile. I read her reply this morning. Told me that she answered my message from before and said that she is now in a relationship and therefor cant play in the day... Erm, who said anything about daytime??
That's the ones that make me curious. They have no idea what they want but they are members... I simply want to hear from a few why they join sites like these but never plan to follow through with what they say they want to do...
Hi everyone!
Nimfie here :2fingers:
We were on another site before this one, it didn't cater for couple profiles. We each had a profile but was very clear that we were a couple looking for other couples or single ladies. The reaction to the lady profile was astonishing, 1700 views and countless messages in the first week! I am by no means a model or a babe in my opinion.
The point is that of the female profiles there are only a handful of genuine ones and those profiles get bombarded with genuine attention and of course the chancers. So I think somewhere they just get fed up and either don't respond or make up a story or become nasty.
Hi Stamina, here's my 2 cents worth on your original subject:
As VampEC said, fantasy has a lot to do with it. As I see it and have stated before, unlike the male of the species, Woman's most prominent sexual organ is her brain, so fantasies play a different role than they do for us men: when we have them, we want to realize them; when they have them, they generally want them to stay that way, ie fantasies. So, 'single' ladies will readily place profiles/ads/etc on this and other sites with no real intention of actually experiencing this kind of thing in reality! The response they get from just alone all the horny guys out there is enough to get them off all over their PC, without ever having to deal with a real person, what a win, call it 'sexual gratification without reciprocation'!!
the central scrutinizer
Actually I think you may have just cracked the code there!
Lee, as to your dilemma, maybe you should compose a questionnaire for your 'prospective prospects', maybe a along the lines of:
1)Where was Murgatroyds Empire located?
2)Who wrote the song 'Ride my face to Chicago'?
3)Is what you perceive as solid matter really solid or mostly empty space?
4)Is your dick an extension of your mind or an independent entity?
5)Do you view a blowjob as a compliment or a requirement?
6)Do you see sexuality as a shortcut to spirituality or just a way to squirt your jizz all over me?
7)Is the fact that my brain is combined with such a hot ass pure coincidence or a capricious act of the creator?
etc,etc
contact me if you need more help!
Regards
the central scrutinizer
I was just thinking Stamina. .. I think about M and I and what we look for and how different we are. I don't know what you would call it, but he seems to have less requirements?
I think men might have as a group been genetically designed to shag anyone that will let him shag her (sounds awful but trying to simplify a bit).
I on the other hand (coz I really can't speak for all women), require more. .. like a guy has to qualify.
Now I'd like to say, I'm not being difficult, really I'm not.
I really want to enjoy these experiences, otherwise this whole thing only benefits all the other parties and I get average pleasant dalliance at best. Which quite frankly is less than pleasing and if I am not going to orgasm I would much prefer that to be with my husband who will please me in other ways and I can enjoy the spiritual closeness if not the exploding fireworks.
If I want to orgasm, I need to be TURNED ON, and in order for that to happen I need to be hot for the guy. If he's an idiot, arrogant prick or an arse. . Well not hot. . Not for me anyway. And I should point out that you'll see that the size of his equipment isn't at the top of that list of eliminators.
So I require a guy to be physically attractive to me (quite rare in just a looking-round-the supermarket context even, unfortunately) AND be able to converse and be nice and polite and congenial .... I know. . Friggin tough standards to meet.
But apparently most men just like potential playmates to have all the working parts. .. and that's it.
It seems to me that men in general have lost the ability to engage, appeal to, attract and seduce women. .. I think THAT'S what women are looking for. ..
Instead. .. Disappointingly... what we get is:
"Hot arse! Lets fuck!"
*sigh*
Since I created my own profile, I am now chatting to a lot of local people that were not interested in our couple profile. They do know that I am the female from the couple profile and I will not play alone.
My thinking is this: most people we have met on here, as well as our own couple profile, the male of the couple normally writes the profile and answers the mails and does the arrangements. Maybe if you are communicating with a single lady profile, you should let your lady do the talking? I do think the way we write gives away much more of who we are than we realize. The other reasons (fantasy, getting fed up etc) are still valid, but maybe this also plays a role?
As we progress in this lifestyle and in life, our wants, needs and requirements can change. So maybe Stamina, if a profile that you contacted without success is still around in a few months time, try again? That person might be more open to try new things by then.