The beauty about vaginas is that they stretch when adequately aroused, enough to fit a fist!
There is always a bit of excitement when playing with a well-endowed guy, as I am always curious as to how much will actually go in!
I have a wonderfully tight vagina, and can squeeze just one finger out of me if I wanted to, so allowing myself to be stretched is always nice!
Again, the beauty of a vagina is that it can go from holding onto/accommodating a thick member to being able to hold onto a finger within a matter of a minute!
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Pan White/Caucasian Non-binary, 37
Heteroflexible White/Caucasian Cis Male, 39
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I agree with Lee and PIB1 on this one.
Rather have the tests done privately, and get the full STI screening, including herpes, HPV, syphilis etc...
In addition, getting the test done by a doctor, should be followed up by a professional counselling session if anything comes up positive.
The fact that the home kit costs R25 and the full STI screen costs about R1000 or so when done through Lancet, I would not trust the home kit as much, as I wonder what is not being tested for, and what it picks up....
Just my 2c.
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What kind of sexual dysfunction are you referring to?
In many cases, due to the exciting and nerve-wrecking nature of swinging dates, it often happens that penises are not as hard as they usually would be, or that vaginas do not lubricate as much as they normally would.
This is a common experience among swingers, and depends on so many factors.
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Seems like there are more big talk guys then those who follow through.
There are a number of decent guys on this site. I think it's more a case of learning how to identify those that are not big talkers. I believe and it has been my experience (with guys, girls and couples) that the fantasy is more appealing than the reality.
I my self, have met and played with some great couples from this site
*wink @k_c
Just my 2c worth
mmm, I think its time for a repeat playdate! I used to be a regular contributor. I used to comment on all the threads.
Now I just comment when I have something to say which has not yet been said.
While I am at it:
I believe that some old topics should be discussed when a newbie or even an oldie encounters a difficulty again. Yes, I am referring to the race discussions. A lot of people are hurt or confused by the racial stuff that goes on, people saying they don't cross the colour line, but sending them messages etc. I think that everyone should be able to have a voice here. If you don't like the conversation, or have nothing positive/constructive to contribute, than move along. The thread will die on its own without negative comments. Or it will thrive, because some people will feel that they *are*actually allowed an opinion here.
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Bones (forensic science)
Castle (crime)
Criminal minds (crime/psychology)
Grimm (fantasy)
How I met your mother
Spartacus (for all the hot bodies and shagging... Matt likes it for the swords play!)
The mentalist (crime/psychology)
The originals (vampires)
Once upon a time...
Lee! You have reminded me of the other series we need to watch again!
I have selected them from your list.
I still need to get my eyes on Masters of Sex! It looks fantastic!
PIB1 and Lee, thanks for the lists, I just need to get my hands on some of those, they sounds great!
Well, our close friends know that we are in the lifestyle, some people know I am bi... which apparently makes me kinky? They can't wrap their minds around it...
As far as being proper in vanilla spaces... I have no idea!
The other day I was told that I make sexual comments with such a straight face, that it takes people by surprise. I say things about sex, the same way I speak about sandwiches or jerseys... I don't stop talking about penises or clitorises or orgasms when the waiters come to the table, and apparently that is 'gutsy'?
I have been confronted with awkward questions in front of my family about my beliefs in monogamy... so I guess, I am not completely open about my lifestyle choices... (I was talking to someone at Friday night dinner about the fact that some people swing, and some people are polyamorous... and she asked quite loudly if we are monogamous. The whole table when quite... so I awkwardly said, Yaaaa)
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I have no idea how I give head....
I LOVE eating cock, but since I had an STI scare last year, I now only suck K without a dome on, which is my favourite!
I nibble, suck, lick and pull on everything from the head to his balls....
With out other playmates, I am getting better at sucking with a dome on, now I just need to learn how to put a dome on with my mouth!
The guys we have played with have complimented me on my head skills, even with a dome on... so either
1. My enthusiasm makes up for the dome, or
2. They give unsolicited compliments to boost my ego
I always ask the guys for direction, like, tell me if you want it harder, faster, less teeth, more teeth....
I sadly have not eaten enough pussy to comment on my skillset there... just enthusiastic and always willing to be directed.
If any ladies are willing to help me to improve my skills.... PM me ;) :twisted:
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Erm I volunteer to teach you the dome with your mouth thing. Hehe
I will take you up on that offer Sofistikitty!
Can we practice on K? :twisted:
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I have no idea how I give head....
I LOVE eating cock, but since I had an STI scare last year, I now only suck K without a dome on, which is my favourite!
I nibble, suck, lick and pull on everything from the head to his balls....
With out other playmates, I am getting better at sucking with a dome on, now I just need to learn how to put a dome on with my mouth!
The guys we have played with have complimented me on my head skills, even with a dome on... so either
1. My enthusiasm makes up for the dome, or
2. They give unsolicited compliments to boost my ego
I always ask the guys for direction, like, tell me if you want it harder, faster, less teeth, more teeth....
I sadly have not eaten enough pussy to comment on my skillset there... just enthusiastic and always willing to be directed.
If any ladies are willing to help me to improve my skills.... PM me ;) :twisted:
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We joined looking for an mmf.
We have had a few since then, some were great, some were disappointing.... I suppose that is how the 'normal' dating game works out anyway....
We are now looking into couples, but finding it extremely difficult due to my current lack of enthusiasm which is in part due to an overload of work stress at the moment. The idea of making a date, and putting ourselves out there at this point in time is not exactly appealing. That said, if a wonderful couple which gets my motor running lands in our lap, we might find some energy to meet up....
I stay for the occasional forum thread which catches my eye, although I can easily go two weeks without logging on....
Just my 2c
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SDMR, you should probably avoid the shops when K and I are shopping ;)
If we have to stand and wait in a que, we use the time as best as we can!
That includes kissing, with tongue, and ass holding...
Kids see this stuff all over tv, without the love aspect attached to it. If they see us, it might give them something to think about...
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I'll know we will be friends for a long time, within minutes of meeting each other... like when I met KC.. I knew we'd be great friends by the time we had ordered our drinks at the restaurant... and I could swear that he was sitting there thinking "oh my god! There are two of them!" It was so great to make friends with such like-minded people!
Lee! I had the same feeling when we met! I think K enjoyed our chats as much as we did, or at least watching our conversation jump all over the place! Can't wait until we are in the same city again!
For us there needs to be a connection of some kind, not only on site, but in real life. Physical appearance is important before the meet, but often, once we are face to face, and there is a mutual connection, the things I'm not usually attracted to disappear as their personality comes through.
If there is no connection, it is not so much of a turn off, but just a lack of interest!
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Waxing and Laser are my preferences!
Shaving just doesn't work for me, and my skin is too sensitive for the hair removal creams.
I went for Diode laser hair removal, which worked wonderfully on my mons, but not as well on my outer labia... after 6 sessions of the diode laser hair removal, there was no further improvement... and I still have a few hairs that need to be taken care of!
I just haven't had the time or energy to look for a new laser therapist nearby!
Any recommendations near Linksfield/Edenvale?
I also wax K, which is great fun for me! The only problem we have is that the scrotum doesn't wax as well as the rest of the area does.. But I am happy with our current results 
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But as everyone else here has said, it needs to be done carefully!
Personally, I can have some fantastic orgasms through anal sex, esp when it is combined with clit stimulation!
As for K, he has some very intense orgasms when I insert a vibrator into his bum, and then ride him :twisted:
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Quote by LeeEC
Dude! I disagree about the camera making a penis look bigger than it is - quite the opposite actually - I hooked up with a fine fine young specimen here - having seen MANY of his cock shots! - and was completely thrown when he pulled out that tool! It was freakin HUGE and I really had no clue what I was getting myself into, the pictures came NO WHERE NEAR accurately displaying his accurate size... That's why I prefer 'full frontal' pictures to "dick pics"... then you can at least judge the relative size...
Lee I had the same experience! From his photos he looked shorter than average, and nothing too exciting... But in real life! His penis was huge! Not very long, but really really thick! I had to Really relax my jaw to get it in my mouth.... :twisted:
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I'm glad I am not the only one who went from logging on more than once a day, during any break I could, to catch up on the forums... to "maybe there is something interesting online today"
The LeeEC, this is definitely NOT what you signed up for!
The only reason I am really here at all at the moment, is because of the friends we have made.
Oh, and we HAVE had some really great sexual playdates with some cool people from this site! So, we are proof that when people click, and actually meet up, there is great fun to be had! (Before I am told that I am sour because I have had no fun here)
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What happened to the interesting, respectful conversations we used to have?
This used to be my favourite website, where there was always some interesting conversation going on... Where people could disagree with each other's opinions without being told off.
Nowdays, that is just not happening. I know I haven't been contributing to the forums lately. I have been popping in every other day or so, but there has been nothing for me to say...
There were some interesting topics brought up earlier, but they went cold pretty fast 
Anyway...
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Anyway...
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C um... Joyrider, using two condoms is more likely going to cause breakage than only using one.
It is also important to check what kind of lubricant we are using when we play with condoms, as silicone based lubes deteriorate condoms, increasing the likelihood of breakage, and also of viruses and bacteria getting through the condom. Always use water-based lubes when using condoms
Also, did you know that if you have silicone toys, the silicone-based lubes also destroy the toy? Something I learnt recently...
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Also, did you know that if you have silicone toys, the silicone-based lubes also destroy the toy? Something I learnt recently...
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So what are your good reasons (that you give people or use in private) to turn down a shag?
I won't Shag someone if:
* They turn out to have misrepresented themselves, particularly around their own relationship status.
* They are rude, obnoxious or in anyway derogatory to me or women in general.
* They are actually cheating
* I look at them, and I don't want to shag them
* They are younger than my son or older than my father (a guideline, as yet unbroken)
* They bear resemblance to any male relatives of mine - (super off putting and distracting) - also qualifies in the " I don't want to" category
* they are very inexperienced in swinging/sex, I'm too impatient to teach - besides I've done my fair share already.
* they aren't prepared to be watched :twisted:
Lee, your list looks like our list.
Except for the *younger than our son* thing ;) I don't have age issues when meeting ladies, but the bracket for men is not more than 10 years older than K...
We don't mind meeting with newbies, as we are still relative newbies ourselves when it comes to actual, physical, experiences... as long as we are not expected to *Show anyone the ropes*
That being said, we do prefer meeting people who have a little more experience... but that is hard, as most people with more experience are much older than us, and I have an age issue...
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Quote by SDMR
an interesting idea . . . . . but I have to wonder about the colour choice (seems a little "young") I guess I always just kinda associated the colour RED more with sex than black
I doubt too many guys could pull off wearing a red ring without getting flak from our vanilla workmates and peers. Black seems the logical choice really
We are all different and we all perceive things differently, that being said, I don't think guy's could pull of a black ring without the Vanilla flak. Males wear Gold and / or Silver (colours) well that is my own point of view anyway. A lot of younger kids wear black everything, can you imagine how many new swingers would make mistakes . . .
Well, some silver rings oxidise to black depending on how your body reacts to it... So, if anyone looks at you strangely, you can say it IS a silver ring... but has oxidised... :lol:
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The problem with telling people that their problems are not important, or no longer deserve discussion, is that you are invalidating their experiences.
Fact: some people are still racists, and the way that they approach profiles of other races, is horrible. Their is often a lack of respect.
The rest of us, are decent people, and race is not an issue to us, but if we tell our friends to stop talking about their experiences, than we are saying that their problems are silly/not important.
Just my 2c.
Attraction is such a complicated thing...
But the way I get approached often puts me off. Especially in the chatroom, where so many people seem to be unable to have a simple conversation...
I say "I get approached" because K is often with me, but I am the one online.
People who think that drunk photo's/ pictures in pubs/while drinking are their best adverts...
Recreational drugs eliminate people immediately.
I have a thing about the age of the men we play with, they can't be more than 10 years older than K, or too young in their 20s either...
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LeeEC! Those reviews are best not read with a full bladder or in public!
I don't mind either way, as long as there has been recent grooming.
The 2 day stubble is the worst though! That is part of the reason I started waxing K, as an alternative to him shaving.
1. it is smooother for longer, and no sharp regrowth
2. Avoiding sex when the shaving regrowth is stubbly is just *not* possible :twisted:
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