So you're looking at profiles and responding to mails. Besides the obvious "They were rude", what disqualifies a profile for consideration? Is it age, marital status, ethic group? Something on their profile? Something missing off their profile?
I wouldn't say it's a definite no, but if a guy is under 30, married and swinging alone, over 50, has very little write up on their profile or a complete lack of pictures or ONLY pictures of his bits, these things all make me cautious.
If a couple reveals that they are in fact not married to each other. Or the woman never interacts with me or seems less than thrilled at the prospect; these things make me concerned.
On the other hand if the female of the couple is the active member online, that tends to bode well.
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The nuts & bolts: What disqualifies a potential?
There are a myriad reasons why we'll look past a particular profile.
It could be their lack of a write-up, attrocious use of grammar and spelling (mistakes are easy to forgive but some don't even try!), tacky pics, I could go on and on.
What it is exactly that secures the "nod" is difficult to define except to say that something contained in the profile has to tickle our fancy.
I'm not saying we're full of s#!t but if the front door looks abysmal or is simply non-existant, we ain't gonna come knocking.
No profile pics, no write up or ads. Also like tactless pics, over exposed public pics are a put off for me personally. Also people that want pics of the one partner only. When a couple have no rules or "into anything and everything" scary shiet!
And when and if we start emailing or chatting and find out the persons into recreational drugs while playing is a big no no. Then also when a couple want "sexy" or "kinky" pics but refuse to send face pics. Age is sort of a deal breaker 25 and over but not over 50. Also if a couple doesn't respect out rules.
Attraction is such a complicated thing...
But the way I get approached often puts me off. Especially in the chatroom, where so many people seem to be unable to have a simple conversation...
I say "I get approached" because K is often with me, but I am the one online.
People who think that drunk photo's/ pictures in pubs/while drinking are their best adverts...
Recreational drugs eliminate people immediately.
I have a thing about the age of the men we play with, they can't be more than 10 years older than K, or too young in their 20s either...
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The only time that age is a factor for me is when the people / person is (are) under 25.
When the first line contains the words "please send pics"
when the profile is clearly an incomplete mess. (straight person looking for a straight person of the same sex, but same sex action will not be tolerated) like Deviants said, mistakes are easy to forgive, but clear preferences HAVE TO BE RIGHT from the word go.
And then of course there are those profiles where I just get the so called "gut feeling" that they are screwy ... . . .oh, and of course the single person who say's you must provide venue. (yes, people do have situations where they share a house, but say that first, otherwise one tends to get the impression that you are not so single)
Quote by jackd1112
ok guys, im going out on a limb here, please have a look at our profile and tel us what youd change. me the man wrote it and can sometimes seem rude.
I don't think you're spelling ie grammar are great and you could remove the whites only thing and politely tell people you are not available if they approach you.
Other than that, I wouldn't say it was rude
