I am very open about who and what I am...that would be my family and their kids, MY friends,and some of the neighbors and their kids, now if I say kids it is because they are sooooo Young like in their 30th`s....they grew up infront of me...so they will always be kids in my eyes.
BUT not to all the world that would be at my JOB there I am most certainly very professional and totally a a few select people think they know reality they do they have and will always know I am in a gay relationship.
I am also agnostic so church people does not worry me.
If I would walk down a road YOU would never even think I am involved in anything sexual. Weird who ME?
You will see the most ordinary boring lady really.
I once made myself a chain skirt and top, best times when it is quite at work, that means after 24:00, they saw the outfit and liked it,and off course wanted to know why I made it, when I said it is to wear to a kink party, they looked at me with big eyes, Nowadays they will sometimes come and ask advice to what to wear or and if I had something to lent them if they are going to parties *risque* parties accordingly to will also rush to share with me if they had a girls night and had a sex toy demo....giggle and show me what they bought or got as a freeby...I really just have to smile if they ONLY knew!!!!!!
What if it becomes world known I am kinky???
Currently it is just my Job I care about As It will be red carpet and dismissal I ONCE I retire next year I would not care ONE BIT who knows.....but I will of course put up a hell of a fight and take them to court should they ever dismiss me on what I do in my private life, then the world can know for all I CARE.
I am also not famous to really attract the paparazzi....
I THINK MOST PEOPLE keep their swinging lifestyle secret (kink wise as well) as even people who have their own business and jobs...are likely to loose clients,jobs and contracts really fast when it becomes newsworthy. (not that people will not fantasize about it)
I know one couple on PE who was outed by a jealous person and they mentioned on ZN that they are closing their account as things have gone they also mentioned they lost a lot of clients....More than what they could really afford.
I also know people who work with kids are the most likely to crucify a swinger or openly sexual person unjustly, just cause most people always see the bad first and never the good.
Hey, just added a poll!
I'm lucky, I think, I work in a community that really celebrates wierd. One of my senior lecturer friends has pink hair. Until recently at the same university, the assistant to one of the deans was a 30 plus jewish, lesbian, shaven headed, who had about 70% of her body tattooed. .. including her scalp!
Bring different and anti-establishment here is a really good thing. .. Of course this does not mean that everyone feels this way in the whole town but hey. .. There's a place here for strange and it's awesome.
Dit is 'n saak wat seker baie antwoorde het. Ons bly in 'n klein dorpie nie dat dit ons rerig skeel wat die gemeenskap van ons dink nie. Dink nie eers die dorp weet rerig van ons bestaan nie.
Die werklike vriende wat saak maak se mans weet van ons leefstyl, maar die vrouens sal hulle beste panties bevuil, maar hulle almal lees 50 Shades of grey, skeinheilig.
Wat ons wel bekommerd van ons leefstyl, vriende het nog kinders op skool en dit is die kinders wat ons respekteer deur so diskreet as moontlik te kuier. Die kuier kan net sowel vanilla wees maar die geselskap is baie openlik.
My eie familie vermoed ons is nog in die leefstyl,want moes darem al 'n hof interdik teen my kinders kry om hulle te stop om foto's van ons, wat hulle wederegtelik verkry het se verspreiding te stop.
My skoonfamilie sal ons van die aardbol verban.
It would explain to some of my friends the real reason for me knowing so much about sex and *weird sex*
I did confide in a close friend once about being in the lifestyle after she disclosed her having had some girl on girl fun before. Of course neither of us would tell anyone at work, even though we won't lose our jobs over it. We have a few lesbian ladies at our company, and although our boss has openly said he does not approve of it, he can not judge them on what they do in their own time. As long as it does not affect their work. He himself had an affair with a lady at work and it was, and still is sometimes, the main bit of gossip in our company. Sooo I guess I'd just give them something new to gossip about if it were to come out. But for Mr E being in a much more senior role, I would never want it to get out at work.
A gent Mr E works with actually knows since he was also on the site when we first joined. luckily he mailed me a face pic first before we exchanged anything more, mmmm lets say embarrassing. He off course is very jealous of us being in the lifestyle and we prefer keeping things professional with him, so no play. (Although he is darm sexy and I sure would not mind having him over for some fun! :twisted: )
My family possibly wont be to shocked, since my mom advised me one of the best things for colestrol is to buy me a vibrator and having an hour of fun!!!!! Like, mom! I was expecting advise on which FOODS or such helps lower it! My in-laws, no clue really, but guess they would not be to impressed.
Not known to be in the lifestyle but rather as being very naughty and this has led to being seen as the person to ask confidential questions and evan a widow asking for release
So LeeEc, let's see a pic of you in those fishnets then . . . . please ! ! ! ! ! !
Seems like LeeEC is not biting on the stockings pic then . . .
Oh well,
In this strangely named Vanilla place (?) I am one who comes across as calm, grounded, not interested (aloof) and generally very well mannered and behaved . . . . . .
I assure you, that is not so much the case in a private setting . . . .
Well I'm a good girl , but always get approached apparently I ooze sexuality(dunno how or what that means) but like people say I have bedroom eyes. My friends know me to be daring and confident but have no idea that I'm into the lifestyle. Family always seem to come to me for advice (even though I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity after all of my cousins)
Been told I look naughty by strangers so I'm not sure if I blend in well lol. But I'm a good kitty I swear. Ay sometimes being "sultry" is a bad thing.
Well, our close friends know that we are in the lifestyle, some people know I am bi... which apparently makes me kinky? They can't wrap their minds around it...
As far as being proper in vanilla spaces... I have no idea!
The other day I was told that I make sexual comments with such a straight face, that it takes people by surprise. I say things about sex, the same way I speak about sandwiches or jerseys... I don't stop talking about penises or clitorises or orgasms when the waiters come to the table, and apparently that is 'gutsy'?
I have been confronted with awkward questions in front of my family about my beliefs in monogamy... so I guess, I am not completely open about my lifestyle choices... (I was talking to someone at Friday night dinner about the fact that some people swing, and some people are polyamorous... and she asked quite loudly if we are monogamous. The whole table when quite... so I awkwardly said, Yaaaa)
and I'm a friggin biker chick. ..
Ok so, I admit I've been known to get very involved in religious churchy leadershipy things but really I think you'll find even then I tend to ruffle some feathers (usually wearing leather! )
So how "proper" are you back in the public eye? Are you a little wierd, or completely open about your kinkiness like PIB?
Or is your swinging alter ego the best kept secret in town? Would you be the scandal on the front page If your swinging activities were discovered? Or would people just roll their eyes and order another beer? 
), but not really "out there" either. I'm generally a sort of quiet, steady, easy-going personality, some might say reserved, but always honest and genuine and keen to step out of my comfort zone when I can and try something new, sexually or otherwise (like skydiving 
). I don't try to put on a mask or a show, I just try to be myself, no matter where I am or what I'm doing.
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BELATED welcome to roving _scot *come and join the DARK side of Swing Heaven.:rose:
