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KC_
1 day ago
Pan White/Caucasian Non-binary, 37
Heteroflexible White/Caucasian Cis Male, 39
0 km · Edenvale
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What ever the outcome is,
I was unsure of the procedure, so went with a nicely trimmed bush...
I have to say, that being shaved by a pretty lady was quite a nice experience :twisted:
She shaved me first, and then did the laser treatment... I may *forget* to shave before my next session... whoops :twisted:
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C
So, on the topic of hair removal...
I just got back from my laser session 
The good news is that if the beautician is using Diode Laser and not IPL, it isnt sore (I havent had IPL, but heard its pretty sore!)
The sucky news is, until the sessions are done, I cannot wax inbetween, as it counteracts the work of the laser 
So I will be re-reading everybody's shaving tips from the previous forums, because that is all I am allowed to do in between laser sessions....
And probably doggy style on the day after a shave, as any other position rubs against the grain! :shock:
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C
The good news is that if the beautician is using Diode Laser and not IPL, it isnt sore (I havent had IPL, but heard its pretty sore!)
The sucky news is, until the sessions are done, I cannot wax inbetween, as it counteracts the work of the laser
So I will be re-reading everybody's shaving tips from the previous forums, because that is all I am allowed to do in between laser sessions....
And probably doggy style on the day after a shave, as any other position rubs against the grain! :shock:
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C LOL, K says the wax isn't nearly that hot.
The worst part for him was when I was trying to make a 'handle' to pull the strip of wax off...
That is the part I dislike most when I am getting a bikini wax too...
I got a voucher to try out Laser hair removal, I am going this week... I will let you guys know whether the pain (and money) is worth it...
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C
So, I succeeded in waxing hubby
Base, sack and crack ;)
The scrotum is not that bad when you start at the base of the penis and move down slowly.
Also, him holding his scrotum tight was extremely helpful, and I think drastically reduced the pain factor...
Mmm, I am going to enjoy playing with the smooth soft skin at the base of his hard cock :twisted:
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C
Base, sack and crack ;)
The scrotum is not that bad when you start at the base of the penis and move down slowly.
Also, him holding his scrotum tight was extremely helpful, and I think drastically reduced the pain factor...
Mmm, I am going to enjoy playing with the smooth soft skin at the base of his hard cock :twisted:
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C 
I really enjoy it! I am doing it again this weekend :twisted:
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CMy big question is whether the guys that prefer a clean shaven or trimmed pussy make the effort and shave/trim themselves?
I am not into shaving - regrowth makes sex too uncomfortable for a few days, (thats a long time to go without!)... so I wax, which requires a cycle of growth, so the wax can pull on something next time...
The regrowth issue is the same reason I don't like it when K shaves, cos no matter what position we are in, it is scratchy and uncomfortable!
So we have experimented with different hair removal methods for HIM, because I too do not want to floss when going down on him...
So do the guys on here "groom"?
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C
Hmm, we have had many great conversations with some great guys and couples...
The only people we ever consider meeting with have all been real nice people, who we could have an "everyday" conversation with... As much as I would love to mention them here, I would want their permission to mention their names in the public forum..
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C
It saddens me when people say they want to lock up their daughters until they are 40, but not their sons?
My parents thought they were open about sexuality with me, and for that I give them credit. However, providing me with books that explained everything, and saying "ask if there is anything else you want to know" in a way that means "Please do not ask me ANYTHING" was not enough for me.
So, I knew the basics about intercourse. I heard the word blow job in school, and knew it had something to do with the penis, but had no clue it involved sucking and not much actual blowing...
My point is, teaching children about intercourse alone, and saying things like "be safe" without providing some kind of explanation of what that means leaves kids/teenagers quite confused. On the one hand they are kinda given permission to do "safe things", told there is more to relationships than intercourse, and left to figure it all out on their own!
Being a girl in this world is hard enough, being unprepared when boys make you feel certain ways is even harder!
Girls have very little idea of what pleasure their own bodies can provide for them, whereas most boys have a pretty good idea of what kind of feelings occur when they shake a little longer at the urinal...
That lack of personal understanding mixed with society telling girls you have to do things to keep a boyfriend often results in many girls having sexual experiences that are focused on their boyfriends, and very little experience that is focused on their personal pleasure....
So I guess what I am trying to say, is that I salute the parents like Prezzie and Terry, who give/gave their girl children information, what sounds like more than the typical "stay safe" speech...
If girls are treated differently than boys with regards to their early sex education in the home, then nothing is going to change with the way our girls experience sexuality.
Hope that makes some sense.
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C
We both find the idea of 3sums less intimidating that full on playing with couples.
And as I am bi, both MMF and FFM excite me :twisted:
But the reason we like the idea of threesomes so much is because we love watching eachother. Our first threesome was a FFM, and goodness me was it phenomenal! Both K and I took turns pleasuring her, and then I watched him fuck her.
Wow! What an amazing turn on! The idea of watching each other's faces as I(he) am(is) being fucked by another person is a huge turn on!
PIB, K says I intiated that threesome ;)
We like being a part of each other's sexual experiences, even if its just watching (and playing with myself while I watch)... :twisted:
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C
Thanks PIB!
I didnt mean that *only* the couple sets the boundaries. Of course everyone in the play situation has to agree to the boundaries and respect them. This means that limits are always up for discussion, but if people set boundaries, they need to respected.
For example, if a straight single man is playing with a couple who has a bi man, there needs to be a discussion regarding how much, if any, man-man contact is acceptable. The same kind of boundaries need to be discussed for any and all activities which are anticipated. If you don't talk about it, how would you know that your playmate finds your "taken for granted" activities unacceptable.
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C
My friends who have their clits peirced say that it is well worth the pain once it has healed.
They say that sex is much more intensive.
I am a wuss, and scared of needles, so a clit ring is something I could never see myself having the guts to get.
Let us know when you guys have made a decision, and which peircing you opted for
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C
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C Even though we have been on this site for a while now, we are still newbies with regards to experience.
It seems that everyone has a different definition of what swinging is, but our opinion is:
Swinging is when couples decide to have sex with other people (couples or singles) with both partners in the primary relationship providing boundaries for what activities are permitted, and both partners have consent to do those agreed-upon activities.
Everyone has preferences with regards to whom they play with. Many women on the site, myself included, are of the opinion that the single people playing must be that: single. For me, that means that the single person must not be married or have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Being in a relationship, for me, means that a person is not single.
Maybe my standards are too high? I'm ok with that.
Not everyone is as fussy about playmates as we are. Not everyone dislikes the idea of people playing behind their partner's backs.
Yes, this is a "sex" thing, but keep in mind that most of the married people here are already in commited relationships, and are probably already having regular sex (I know we are!). The swinging is for extra.
We are not all desperate for sex, and if *you* are going to be lucky enough to have sex with me, you better charm me/make me feel comfortable enough to let you enjoy my sexual treats.
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C
It seems that everyone has a different definition of what swinging is, but our opinion is:
Swinging is when couples decide to have sex with other people (couples or singles) with both partners in the primary relationship providing boundaries for what activities are permitted, and both partners have consent to do those agreed-upon activities.
Everyone has preferences with regards to whom they play with. Many women on the site, myself included, are of the opinion that the single people playing must be that: single. For me, that means that the single person must not be married or have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Being in a relationship, for me, means that a person is not single.
Maybe my standards are too high? I'm ok with that.
Not everyone is as fussy about playmates as we are. Not everyone dislikes the idea of people playing behind their partner's backs.
Yes, this is a "sex" thing, but keep in mind that most of the married people here are already in commited relationships, and are probably already having regular sex (I know we are!). The swinging is for extra.
We are not all desperate for sex, and if *you* are going to be lucky enough to have sex with me, you better charm me/make me feel comfortable enough to let you enjoy my sexual treats.
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C
NawtyCat, I *love* your golf analogy!
What you have written about the chatroom format is very true!
We generally stop chatting when the next message after "Hi" is "where abouts are you guys"
What makes people think that because we are being friendly and polite, that we suddenly want to meet up? Why else would the people ask where we are?
We generally do not respond to those messages, and end the chat right there. The impression that person has given is that they are not interested in finding out if we can hold a conversation, only if our bits will fit together snuggly?!?
That being said, we have had many great conversations with people, after which the "so, do you think this will work in person" conversation happens.
Just our observations
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K and C
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K and C PiB, you are not the only lady who enjoys playing with balls.
I enjoy playing with them, pulling on the skin (gently), tea bagging, and all round ball play.
But I am very tentative when playing, as I have been told that I get a bit eager, and the play can be painful for K.
He still lets me play with him this way, as long as I dont hurt him, but I am not about to play with anyone else's balls and sack incase I hurt them!
Joyrider: I thought your comment was supposed to be from a man's point of view. When did you loose your cock and balls, grow tits and a pussy in order to provide the motivation behind women's actions? Are you really surprised that people don't respond to you positively in the chat rooms, and to your private messages, when you make comments like this?
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C
Gerrie, I am still torn between saftey and fun.
From the little I know about HPV and Herpes, I do know that I do not want them! The chances are that you can contract it unknowingly, and years later, when you are very stressed, the infection rears its ugly head!
Think of cold sores, if you have ever had them, they are Oral Herpes. Do you know where you got it from? Probably not, but it could have been as simple as sharing lip balm in school many years ago, and one day when you are extremely stressed...BAM! Herpes!
The idea of having a similar experience with my gentials is quite a deterant! The scary thing is, unless I get tested for such things, I have no idea if I am putting others at risk, never mind exposing myself! Thats an interesting conversation.... "Hi doctor, can I get a blood test for a full STI screening please? Why? Oh, I am planning on swinging and would like to know if I am clean"
writing that out doesn't seem so strange, but saying it to my doctor would be AWKWARD!
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C
