@ Voyer1105  I remember this about you!!! 

@ stred  Oh boy,  yeah, us humans remains a curious group.....I know I went to google immediately after 2some4fun`s comment.

@ pantybict   Nice comment, I know lots of people love rimming,  receiving or doing, and for sure cleanliness is a given!!!

I am not so sure how vouches work these days. In my active time before, I rejoined last year(thus I lost all my vouches when I left) we all had to agree on vouches before vouching and the people who you vouched for or who vouched for you could check and disagree and the mods removed that vouch if needed.

I think I only have BDSM pics left  in my *play* session albums..... NOW I know most will run for their lives should I ever decide to post these...and YES, I do have consent to post them, those I do not have consent for, I do not post ever...I do not know about you guys...but once I started to really enjoy MY play session, all thoughts of any pic taking flies/d out the door!!! Thus the best pics are NEVER taken!!!

The year is 21 days old already, from my side I am slightly too quiet, I know, not sure what to discuss anymore to tell the truth.

But give me a chance to catch up to all the new years palaver`s going on currently and I might sit and browse and maybe find something that triggers a memory I would like to share. Or talk about. 

BUT guys come on, the Fora is busy dying here...you can at least try and add something we *others* can get to chow down and show some teeth and that we can discuss for a little bit, even if we disagree about stuff.

HOW about it????  or even if you just say HI....

I would never say that someone who post pics of themselves, is wrong.... it is only to tease or entice others, I am sure. 

As for posting play session photos , most are also just to tease, but sure, it could indicate that you are willing to play for real, depending if the people in YOUR photo`s agreed to be shown to others.I would think it is *OTHER* partners shown in your play sessions and not only you and your hubby. 

BUT to really KNOW that someone is someone sincere and willing to meet up and play, is to vouch for them under your profile and on their profile. Then again you do also get people who does not like to let others know whom they play with.

Aaahh... Ms Sofistikitty  We did have a nice lively discussion  on this subject in 1917 did we not?? I remain with what I said then, Pasting some of my comments then in:-   Yes, we ladies do seem to be more hornier *then* than on other days. But due to society once again everyone thinks it is dirty.  

Back on topic.....I have *forgotten* that I even ever had those *red waves* thank goodness!!!! 

WOW people it is ANOTHER year and it is 9 days towards 2021. It was a nice quiet Xmas this side of the computer. and a nicer start towards a new year. I for one DID not make any new years resolutions, nothing I want t change at this stage. NOT that I EVER kept to any new years resolutions before. 

I hope everyone had a nice xmas, and have a GREAT 2020 with a lot of playtime!

Hmm   no one is brave enough to say if they did go to check out their *pussies*.....

Thanks Henny55 for being brave enough to say what you like.

Ahhh I for gotten  to add a NUMBER 12 ...  Here goes.....

12)  If your partner needs to *open* your labia`s with his /her elbows...instead with his/her 2 fingers while doing a cunnilingus.

Heck lets do a 

13) If your partner directly goes with a harsh fist-ing instead of opening you up slowly with his/her fingers first....

@ Proddster..... Sorry dear, I want to say you on your own may/might get an invite by a couple someday, (hopefully) but I am sure it will never happen with your straight friend whom you have a platonic friendship with...just cause 2 single men does not make for a swinger couple!!! You will most likely find more action if you both go out and find 2 single ladies who will join the both of you in a same room situation.    NOW if you were a gay couple...who were looking to join another gay couple..I am SURE your chances will increase 89% to really experience the swinger lifestyle! OR naturally your chances will increase 99% being friends with a lady whom is willing to go with you to play with other couples, as that makes the situation more equal......

And I do believe that  if you and your male friend could go together to a swingers club where you might also find way more action than here on site, as that of a couple of single male friends, wanting to join one couple with the intention to try to SWING......it is more like a gang bang really!!!!! What you might be looking for.

As for your question as a SINGLE male having a chance here on SH...yeah sure there is a place for YOU......just make sure you read up on how to behave towards couples in the MULTI Fora`s about this topic...of being a single male.....

And ONCE again...as a SINGLE person  we can not really claim to be a SWINGER...we can just say we do like the lifestyle.

@ 2some4fun    and............................ I JUST had to go Google!!!!!  OMW  what the F*ck.....!!!!  ...Stay away everyone else!!!!!!!

How do you know if your pussy is too big? I have seen lots of porn and most seem to have a little thing...comparatively that way, to us  *normal* ladies. So okay most porn stars have had  some or other labia plasty (plastic surgery on the labia`s)  to have a *designer pussy*.

I've had many conversations about women over the years with male friends. From the age when you/men/boys first start to see girls genitals  beyond just staring at a pussy picture and boobs to actively playing with a LOT of ladies.

Never, not once, not ever, has anyone said *She was so hot, but man she had a big pussy, I just couldn't do it, it really turned me off.*

As most guy`s would tell you.  There is generally only one thing they care about when it comes to a vagina. That you/they have one. There may be likes and dislikes about hair and hygiene but when it comes to the vagina itself, it only matters that it is there!!!!!

So ANYONE  what would you qualify as too big ????? Most women would say they have way to LARGE pussy lips...(could be the labia majora`s or minora`s)  I am not  talking about vulva`s or clits...or depths of a vagina or how loose it has become after the few births of your kids. 

So I have these questions.. answer them and let me know what you find.

Take a mirror, hold it underneath your genitals, or lie flat on your back with your legs in the air wide open and look into the mirror towards your PUSSY.............. which ever you find easier!!!!  And look at/check out your pussy!!!!!!!!!

1) Does it obscure your navel or knees?

2) Has it ever been trimmed for *Locks for Love*?

3) Does oral sex echo?

4) Have you lost any sex toys larger than 8 INCHES  in there?

5) Will a penis touch two sides at once?

6) Has anyone ever suggested sheers and a valance to go along with your meat curtains?

7) Has anyone ever damaged an eye ear or tooth on your clit?

8) Do you have to roll anything up to fit it in granny panties?

9) Does the tattoo on your labia minora say *Welcome to ?Province, Have a Nice Day.*?

10) Have you had anyone actually come to bed with a board tied across their butt?

11) Does your play partner have to use/wear some penis extension just to reach inside your pussy?

If you can answer yes to six or more of these questions, maybe your pussy is too big; otherwise, F***king forget about it.

You are normal.....

As for PrEP to prevent HIV  I am sure it is better than nothing...BUT to think you have to use it daily for 7 days before and during and after a play date(it is fine fine) if you only PLAY say ONCE every 2 months..or longer..  but how safe is it to take daily for the rest of your life if you play at least ONCE a week if not more?? Just asking. 

@ Dalton246  If you google dental dam it will give you a LOT of information and how to use it...it however is something we ladies use and hopefully people who like rimming,  and if you do not have a Dental Dam handy when playing...some cling foil works just as well!!!

@ hunguncutdad   LMAO...*sure* one would use a condom when all ALONE with your self and your left or and with a threesome with your right hand....*giggling*

I HOPE people know that we do not ask or expect a couple to use a condom or dental dam when they play, only when they play with someone else...

@PoohC  Going totally of topic here.... I have to say I had to smile about the turtle excuse...BUT DO NOT disregard such an excuse when you do receive it....

This little story is not about a Turtle  but a Tortoise.  I had a few tortoises when IN my early 30`s and they seem to grow in number when people decided (and knew I had a permit) to *save* them. Which I disagree with,... taking a wild animal out of the wild to make a pet is a NO-No in my books...but that aside...  Keeping my friend`s one tortoise (a little rooi pensie)while on holiday, I once got home to it (Tommy) sitting/lying and floating gently on/at the bottom of our pool, I rushed out to save Tommy, but alas the poor thing seemed dead...BUT I persevered and pumped it forelegs a few times blowing air into his nose (no water coming out of its mouth) to no effect at that stage...I wrapped him in a towel and put him on a hot water bottle covered and hoped for the best. After a few hours, LO and BEHOLD.....the poor dear lived...started breathing and moving around. I have to also say Poor old Tommy appeared/was brain damaged (accordingly to my opinion)...Tommy never just walked anymore...he ran...and he really was either head over heals in love with one of my very LARGE mountain tortoises as he always seemed to try and crawl into her shell or he was trying to live in her shell. Oh, as per usual I also had a permanent boarder with him as My friend felt we could not take him from his obsession.  Just so you guys know...all my tortoises went to the World Of Birds a few years ago. You will/can still see him chasing the way bigger tortoise when you look closely...JUST know his name is Tommy.

@ redbruce...Laughing this side of the computer....Yeah, welllll................. at least the meal did not go to waste....who knows what might happen (maybe) when you come to CPT one day, once again....!!!!Chances how ever is very slim, I know!!!

Also a topic that comes up frequently. 

Let me tell you guys this, YES, I also stood up guys....I once remember going to meet someone in Cape town...Now I have a slightly *OFF* weirdly mindset, as to those who knows me will concur to this fact.  While driving to Cape Town, I thought I would like to play a joke on the guy...slipping him a *Thong/Panty/Knickers what ever* while greeting him for the first time...just to see his reaction. BUT as I did not have a spare with me, I decided to go buy one at Century City shopping Centre as I drove past it on my way to our meeting place. I was running a little short on time so I was in a hurry, LONG story short, I smashed my poor little car and needed to get help.....as I am not really a gadget fundi I never use my cell phone or even carry it with me, s o I only could get hold of him when I got home  HOURS later!!!!  AND I KNOW he also thought I was standing him up. In my dazed state I did not even think to send him a picture of my little accident.  so YEAH,  I am also guilty to standing people up....and Yeah I also get stood up a few times....sh*t happens...life is life...

Going off topic a bit..I dislike my cell phone and NEVER whatsup with anyone..I prefer meeting in the flesh first..ONLY then if I like the person and he likes me...we will make a date to play.....

I already said this numerous times, why does one really need to label your sexual orientation?? I went from bi-sexual to pan-sexual....and now a-sexual.......but is it really needed? We tend to evolve as we grow older en experience more and more.

I have found that most of us when we are in a situation where we are enjoying some intimate playtime, we do not really care if someone touches us on places we do not like..TOUCHING and GRABBING MY HAIR and head is a big issue for me!!!  but I get grabbed by my hair often enough during sexual interludes....(or used to when I was still active) I would think men would also overlook some touch or stroke when actively enjoying something...with out loosing his *sh*t* about it....JUST as many profiles already said in every posting of the same nature.

I also found over time females are fickle...they like to say they are bi (anything from curious to actively) BUT once their hubby vocalizes their own interest in trying out anything with another guy....WELLLlllll...poor bloke gets blasted from here to who knows where. I have heard this personally far MORE than what I would like to mention. 

Goodness me, I always wonder if the females are so insecure about their own relationship with their hubby, that they forbid them to even try this and explore further?? to worry they will *loose* them to another male????  Now I know most men will choose a BJ from other gents, instead of a female,  they just do it better than what we as females does it.  Their touch and grips and swallow reflex is so much better than ours.  JUST the same as we ladies are better with other ladies really if you think about it. We just do what we like being done to us. Same.... Same thing really, and Yeah, ask any gay male who is into anal (not all gays do anal) penetrating anally is really more intense for males,  (that is why I always tried to keep up with my Kegal exercises).

Back to the topic asked... YES!!!!!!   I liked to watch Male ON Male....I liked to do peggings, I just like anyone who is open about their sexuality. 

I have been once. BUT it was years ago!!!! A few years just after it started actually. We went with friends,but me not being a person who likes living in a caravan or tent it was so so. But the events was great. Nowadays It is huge with lots more, I believe. If you guys go, ENJOY!!!!!

Hope people who recently attended the events, will give you feedback.

Making fantasies a fact is something I always tried to accomplished for some of my partners when I was still active in the BDSM scene. I remember the one time, I had my one sister and a lady friend from another swing-site over to ensure my sub. for the morning had a few ladies to *please* He said it was fun. My sister giggled all the time and left early!!! It was just to funny for her. walking around with a riding crop slapping his genitals when he drew near her. (He of course was only wearing female lingerie and heels at the time)The other lady enjoyed herself!!!! I still wonder what my neighbours thought though....(smiling this side of the computer).

As for PoocH`s fantasy...... Now why have you never enjoyed that fantasy as yet?? It is really easy to make a reality!!!

@redbruce  Now why is the Kruger NP something you would enjoy??  I would think driving in Town is more of a rush!!! As there is way way more traffic and oglers to enjoy this kind of scenario. 

@ hunguncutdad  I have heard the term mangina before, it remains funny though. As for Imodium I never heard or knew that men take that to ensure that the rectum remains clean. I myself will NEVER use Imodium unless I have diarrhea, and for someone who is constipated frequently that is totally a NO-NO in my books.

@ 2some4fun   Oh YES, there sure are.....If you start out for all the wrong reasons. 

@ hunguncutdad  Even if PREP is 99% sure that 1% says it is not safe. For me that is. 

No condom or Dental Dam means  NO play... I always say you know who you play with...BUT YOU NEVER can be sure of your PLAY partner and WHO he plays with,and who they play with, to me it REMAINS an unsure circle of unknown partners. ANYone who would disagrees with me, I feel is is unsafe. BUT they are welcome to their own opinion of course.

Thanks everyone for participating in this fora, It is nice to read everyone`s comments and experiences.

My family and close friends always knew/know about my sexual exploits/adventures. My eldest sister was a real prudish lady at one stage of her life, thus it was strange to find her profile on a swing site and a BDSM site I am on. (this was after her divorce many, many moons ago.) Once she opened up to me about her sexuality and interest in the scene asking advice.  I told her I found her profiles.  We progressed further and once even gave a known friend of mine a sensual massage naked, I left when they wanted to engage sexually, (that was a little to strange for me to play voyeur) She since passed away. BUT she had fun times while it lasted. This is/was not the time I had someone come over to give us both a sensual massage...two different situations.

@hunguncutdad  Nice to get a comment about this from a gay gent!!!  I would just think eating cum anally is really like a vaginally creampie, not so??  Please do enlighten me if I am sitting the pot miss somewhere along the line.

I myself are NOT a fan of rimming, receiving or giving....I think it is something to do with my mindset of people not really being really clean even after a enema or douche...as you know bowel actions/movements are  involuntarily, and always present, and I am NOT talking about incontinence, not at all.  Due to this natural phenomena, couples are not encouraged to switch from anally to vaginally during sexual encounters.  EVEN after a good cleansing of the anus and rectum.

I know rimming is JUST stimulating the OUTSIDE of the anus, but in my own experience that NEVER stays just OUTSIDE...one tends to slip a tongue inside the anal tract, Saying this, I also have to say, doing a rimming with lube with one`s finger is fine. I my own book that is....and YES  YES  YES...the anus do have a lot of nerve endings to enjoy...for me though  NOT with my mouth or anyone using their mouth on me there....except maybe if they also use a Dental Dam.

I gave myself a lot of labels while sexually active from Bi-sexual to Pan-sexual to Nowaday`s A-sexual.... BUT if one really sit and think about it does one really NEED a label? I think hunguncutdad says it really well. One is who you yourself see yourself as and of course how you feel about yourself. 

I also like LustfullSA`s wife motto...Try everything at least twice before deciding if you like it or not....It used to work for me.

@PoohC  I  really should not say YOUNG people, but more young couples just married. I myself started out in my VERY early 20`s and all for the WRONG reasons aswell.

Thanks for the comments guys, seems most people are shy to comment here, I also think some might think double penetration is just to kinky!!  

I am smiling this side of the computer, Thoughts on going soft.... I can just think how that will happen too VERY 2 straight guys...just remembering how sometimes the one guy had to help with re-inserting the *other guys* penis when it slips out  unexpectedly...NOW I am sure you guys will go *SOFT* when that should happen.....