@riley   I watched most of those movies you mentioned and each movie was nice in the year of their release. Some even risky for those years with a lot of frowned upon sexual interludes. As for 50 Shades of Grey and follow ups...NOT really to my liking...only thing I really liked was the playroom. More of an envy of the playroom, if I am honest. Anyway I think with all the available porn from soft to hard core, it kind of influence anyone`s perspective of what is sensual and sexually erotic. I think lizaan has it correct to say amateur is the way to go these days if you are into sexual movies.

I went and browsed the item...it looks like a nice toy for the ladies.

@FriendsWithBenefits   It is true, once you engage in meeting ONE FWB more regularly than a few times, feelings and emotions do come in play and every person involved should be aware of this and communicate and really have MORE than ONE other play mate....it should help with preventing those unwelcome emotions from developing. 

Ermmm... why ask anything, if you know the answer is yes...JUST do and take whatever.

LOL  @ PoohC   See, you may have been the *middle* snack in the MMF with out realizing the Why....cause you just enjoyed yourselves.  Now you and the other M might just enjoy Mrs. as the snack and you will enjoy the other Male as a side in the future.

As for the gangbang......heck if you do not ask for it the *RIGHT* way you might just end up with a daisy-chain of males and poor Mrs. as a side dish....

There is 2 other post posted, where we discussed Sex Addicction. One was posted on the 16 July 2019 and the other was posted on the 29 July 2019, if anyone would like to re-read those, it is currently on page 4.

I would like to know if something NEW has been discovered that we did not previously cover. If JimmyChoo would kindly give us the name of the book I for one, might like to read it, to learn new data if any is available.

I will however repeat myself for  the newest posting...(although not answering the question itself)

I do believe that any person becomes addicted to something (even chocolates)...one does not go out with the idea to BECOME addicted, it just happens...BUT once it becomes a problem to/for you and your daily living and for your family..then it is true addiction....and you would need help to over come it.

What I always read in the in any of the fora`s posted, the people commenting, is not really addicted, they just enjoy what they do....it has NOT become a problem for them or their family or their enjoyment is NOT influencing their jobs and lives. So keep on Ejoying yourselves .....accordingly to me.

As for an answer to JimmyChoo`s current postings question:- NOPE it never became a problem for me. But I might be *addicted*,using that word in a VERY loose term, to being a sexual being.

Seeing as no one has any food play in their history, Anyone hosted some interesting Dinner dates?  I frequently hosted some interesting dinner dates for our friends in my youth.  One such stands out...it was a Mystery Dinner, sounds boring believe me it was NOT.

Setting and dress code was black and white, not formal though. I made up a nice menu...and had 2 friends help me cater and serve. Everyone had to PAY to be able to enter the house...by solving a riddle or telling a JOKE everyone had to laugh not you had to eat a dried mopani wurm...which NO ONE wanted to digest.(Not even Me) So Jokes was the norm..

Giving Each person a menu and pen and a list to what they wanted served as an starter, for dinner, and pudding Tea/coffee afterwards,when seated in the lounge with a wine/beer/soda/water before we went into the dining room.  Sounds NORMAL???  NOT REALLY...

NO table settings was present.

Each person had to choose which utensil they wanted for each dish...and each dish they wanted to eat first, end end with...All this BEFORE you started ...so you could NOT change your order in the middle of the dinner.

For instance..EVERYTHING was named something different.

A Knife was skoonma se tong

A Pudding Spoon was named big grave digger

A Teaspoon was named heuning bytjie.

A Fork was named duiwels gereedskap.

Food was named..  Peas where Padda oe Meat where a choice between chicken and leg of lamb.. chicken-chasing flies, leg of lamb- gathering the wolves.  One of the puddings was Chocolate mousse and it was named gathering clouds. The baked pudding was warm and hot.... so you never got the gist of what you are going to order or receive. 

Thus all the food was also named different names and if you chose coffee instead of the starter...You got the coffee first also if you chosen the pudding first that is what you started out with...if you asked for a fork with your pudding that is what you will be eating with..if you asked for the knife with your coffee...well that is what you were served with...

We all had fun...and YES there was a few ladies that got really upset and verbalized their displeasure...but they were far in the minority...and they had to drink a shot of Tequila everytime they moaned.

So...guys  tell us about some of your special dinner parties.

I also hosted...some oil wrestling parties...some massage parties.....DragQueens to perform for my lovey at our house....just to name a few.....

Share some of your interresting  fun times..

@ mosquito  I am not sure,  are you talking about a rotary beater or just a wire wisk? and I, for the love of a naughty mindset, can not think how to use this item in a naughty way.

I received quite a few private mails from gents who love the feeling of lingerie sexyness against their privates, and about how sexy they feel, and the best of all  their lovies also like it!!!  HIGH Five to all you guys, you know who you are.  Sadly, some also mentioned a few ladies who FROWNED upon/about this little pleasure the men induldge in. I think it is their loss!!!

Makes me think back...... I was a army brat and I do remember that my father used to wear some stockings and later some pantyhose UNDER his uniform during winters!!!  Who is old enough to remember that?? As apparently this was quite common for the guys to wear during winters. I do not know if he wore them with his long-johns or just that with his usual briefs.

Thanks for all the replies guys. All of you gave me a lot to think about. And all your comments have a lot of positive merrits.

@Bosman  You are right, but sheesh this is making me feel really old right now.

@kevin1  Sad to hear that the lingerie does not come in your size...ermmmmm, tongue in cheek ... just how *BIG* are you?? sheesh....scaring half of the ladies, except those who DEMAND *thick and long ONLY need to make contact*!!!  LMAO... I know I know, I have a dirty mind set!

Well, I am sure if you should ever get to buy some nice lingerie, taking selfies and posting on here, you will get a LOT of comments and mail from ladies.

Nyotaimori is usually translated as "female body presentation" or Less erotic sounding..."Pilling stuff on top" 

Nyotaimori is considered an art form.   
I myself think not only a female body can be used...MOST certainly a male body is more suitable. Which reminds me of the time our female Dining out group went to Beefcakes here in Cape Town. I paid to drink an alcoholic Shot off a HOT SEXY YOUNG male server.... YUM!!!!

In traditional nyotaimori, the model is generally expected to lie still at all times and not talk with guests. 
The sushi is placed on sanitized leaves on the model's body to prevent skin-to-fish contact and on sufficiently flat areas of the body off which the sushi will not roll.
It is considered DANGEROUS and POISONOUS to set fish directly on skin.

Most female *plates* are cleanly shaven and bathed and washed  before sushi is placed on the flat areas of her body. HOWEVER it is preferable to place the food on sanitized leaves...Like bamboo leaves, or banana leaves.
To eat,chopsticks are preferable but when agreed beforehand, one can use just your mouth.
I also know that sometimes fruit pieces are used instead of sushi.

However We Kinky or Playful people do love to play with our bodies and food. 
I have some GREAT memories of playing with food...ONCE (many, many, many moons ago) on a yacht I was, with a few others, used as a pudding bowl.  

Now my question to you all are, HOW do you like to play with your food?
I know the usual tin cream and syrup/honey or squeeze chocolate condiments is NORMALLY the food most people use when they play...BUT what about the poor saps that DO NOT LIKE sweet things????

What do you USE??
Did any of you guys EVER walk and thought to yourself, "WHAT a wonderful thing this item will be when playing in bed with someone", while shopping for your groceries??

I am not playing anymore but most things still trigger my naughty thoughts. Whether I am grocery shopping or in a hardware store...heck. even in the pet stores.

Do share your foody play times with us all.

@ Shaybytheway....LMAO  Yeah,yeah, writing does come with a lot of mistakes...I just hate to be *that ONE* not being able to spell!!!  Thanks for correcting me....

I remember a few years ago  one could go back after posting something to correct mistakes..Now a days SADLY, I DO not see that option anymore. 

@mosquito...LMAO at you aswell...OH boy...that diary (not dairy) is kinda...rough.

Makes me remember the time I spent on a farm.....and YES in a dairy...to MILK cows by hand, nothing fancy like the milking machines was available on that farm. And it takes some skill, let me tell you guys!  BUT being kinky, Just think what such a *milking machine* will do for some gent....much better than trying to use a vacuum cleaner...

@ tc_pike29  Nice to know...I think MOST people writing their *story* likes the rush it gives one to remember it.... I know I also kept a dairy and sometimes I like to re-read and ruminate about some of the more racier times in my life...

@kevin1   Nice one...did your lovey LIKE it though or did you both just laughed??  Have you checked the male sexy lingerie??  

@Mrs kevin1    HINT>>>HINT>>> Chirstmas is coming...and maybe a Birthday....

I know I like seeing males wearing some NICE sexyness... I can just drool over a nice package surrounded and outlined by nice silk and lace...NOT to say anything about their sexy bums....ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, drooling here just thinking about it...

I also think having more than ONE profile on a site is enough. I always feel when finding a person having more than ONE active profile per site as dodgy. I can fully understand if someone has a new profile after leaving but re-entering a site. My Bigest surprise was when I created my re-entery to SH was that I could RE-Use my previous nick. If you do forget your nick I think there is a option to ask that they sent you details for it using your email. I also know you can rename your current profile if the need arises.  Me, thinking about those really yucky profile nick names that is really out there.  I also find someone who uses a outlandish nick to be dodgy...Like *groot p**l * who has a nick like that?? 

Eish seems being Bi-sexual and Pan sexual and A-sexual and what ever makes people feel okay to say something...BUT not the wearing of Lingerie. Even if it is male silky/lacy Lingerie....

I wonder what/how the ladies would feel about their men wearing such sexy lingerie...and what they would think if their hubby is caught wearing her lingerie??

I love sexy lingerie, who doesn`t is the question really. Now a days my sexy undies are no more though. But back to Sexyness... I loved the feeling of soft silk, Lace however is also sexy but it is scratchy if not combined with silk....I love leather as well do not make a mistake...the smell of leather, the feel of leather, and the sexy look you have wearing leather. 

Wearing sexy lingerie when NO ONE knows what you are wearing is a BIG turn on for me.

But the BIGGEST turn on is when I KNOW a gent is wearing SEXY Silky LINGERIE!!!!

Who is brave enough to acknowledge that they sometimes wear their lovies sexy silky/lace Lingerie??
I know, NOT all the male genitalia fits INTO a sexy thong, but what of silky boyshorts??? OH and NOPE, sexy LINGERIE does not go with a HAIRY anything.....whether it is a penis and testicals or a sexy pussy....wearing silk or lace and some hair is showing is NOT sexy to me!!!!

Now to see a SEXY male but in a silky thong....or some silk straps over his buttocks outlining the nice bubble of a sexy butt.  Or to see that nice sexy V a male has just before you see his package ....OH BOY - OH BOY!!!!!!

Okay gents,  before you go biting my head right off....DID YOU GUYS KNOW that there is a WHOLE range of SEXY MALE silk and lace LINGERIE???  Which is a PERFECT fit for your cock and balls??
Now just go google and press that BUY little button...and surprise your lady love with your sexy ness!!  I DARE YOU!!!!  
But if you are too shy.... TRY on your ladies sexy lingerie especially if it is SILK , just to feel that softness and see how sexy you look

Just wondering here...Why stop if you can do something while driving...Just saying.

I used to LOVE being totally "Nekid" downstairs.....Yep, cleanly waxed every 3rd week. Nowadays I like some covering....so closely trimmed is it for me these days.

I also know there are some ladies who feel that they are NOT a girl anymore thus preferring the whole natural look. I also know a few ladies who insist to being all natural as in HAIRY EVERY where....and believe me there ARE men who loves this!!!! and some even insist on the lady going all natural for them....

You should know that closely trimmed with your hair trimmer is really a sexy look...so in-grow hair, and itchiness of newly sprouting hair is NEVER a problem and YES you will also remain LOOKING longer...Just saying..

@ Nellies   I went to look at the link you send   ermmm NOT sure it is the right one....the one of the CARROT???? I had to laugh......Really?????  Oh,  okay.... I know food makes for GREAT toys....Just thinking of ginger for one  (Figging) but really, she died of using a carrot???  I had such a "lekker" laugh...Tanx.... Then she should stay away from ALL store bought toys..HA,HA...

@Whatsa69  Any BDSM play should be considered dangerous...and we who is (or was in my case) in the game, know to teach safety to all newbies. After all SAFE-SANE-CONSENSUAL, IS A REALITY.   Just play safe and ENJOY life really....

@ Whata69    Ice play can be dangerous and burn , YES ICE can burn a person.  Remedy to prevent that is to WET your ICE cube/dildo or sound BEFORE you insert it into a vagina /rectum or Penis!!!!  As ice STICKS going in "dry" into a vagina/rectum or penis, and that is what gives a person severe ice burns.

I made my Ice dildo`s with an empty toilet or hand paper cardboard roll, depending the length you need. You insert a nice rolled down condom INTO the roll...fill it up with water  and freeze, BUT before it freezes solid...take it out and bend the front to your own specifications before putting it back into the freezer to freeze solid. (extra fun is:- if you make an  ice-lolly dildo to suck out of your lady..or if you are into anal play, out of the rectum. ONCE TAKE NOTE again, sweet ice might make your lady itch or give her a vaginal infection.  Fun is also inserting a  FEW (or as many as you can or want to)ice cubes via your warm mouth into the ladies vay-yay-yay.

Sound play is a PENIS dilatation play....so YES, you can make an ice sound with a THIN LONG balloon (those that makes nice animals)...same as you make an dildo, just by filling it up with water and peg it to something to HANG down into the freezer to freeze up.  JUST remember BEFORE inserting ANYTHING into your penis /urethra, STERILIZE -STERILIZE.... I know some gents is shy and won`t order or buy Sounds as they are expensive, so they tend to use from knitting needles, pens, anything that is LONG and thin to insert into their  penis... and once again THAT is just DANGEROUS as you can do some really BAD harm to your penis and urethra and cause bad infections!!!

I know of one gent who loved to insert those little play gun pellets (plastic yellow pellets) into his urethra, and then to drink so much water that  he had to pee...and then when he did pee, the pellets would shoot out into the toilet...DANGEROUS due to infection and pellets remaining in the bladder.

@ Charlieme  I have to smile about going shopping with a dangling *outlined* bottle in your pants.....I can just think what the people thought  you walking around with a nice stiffy....also makes me think about those guys show casting their penis girths  comparing it with some coke/beer can or bottle..... 

@ mydream   Sadly,I really do not like to read Afrikaans,even though I am proudly Afrikaans. English just has so many ways to describe something erotic.  Thinking  back...I think I read and liked the novel  "Dis Ek Anna" by Elbie Lotter,  around, I think 10-15 years ago...I also cried a lot....  BUT,  BIG BUT......My Dining-out group raved about an Afrikaans book "n Pawpaw vir my darling" by Jeanne Goosen...goodness me, WHAT a lot of drivel......to me at least...it really makes out that the Afrikaans people are all slightly *backwards and common* I disliked the book.  BUT this is me.

@ mydream    Nope...not possible for me, (sadly)...BUT  it sure give some nice butterflies in one`s stomach.

@ haveusbc   Sadly I have to agree with you. Sex in this day and age is still something for most people. Only as we grow older and realize what life is all about and we relax more, sex is a more open subject. Sadly I also know that there is most probably more than 70% (if not more)of all marriages where sex decline to maybe once a month, sadly sometimes even less and then only in the dark and only in the missionary position......

@ haveusbc    OMW    I am just soooo jealous that these new toys are available NOW that I do not have to buy them to use in some CBT (kinky) playtime....( I did have a toy fetish...mostly to make my own though) The one masturbation Fleshlight have 3 suction strengths,vibrates and heats up!!!!!!!  Now just to add some heating lube to that...and you have the perfect little torture device to use on some helplessly tied up guy, while you sit back with a nice cuppa tea...WATCHING!!!

There is the one toy You can use remotely...NOW I know that does not sound new...but to use it on a guy surely is NEW!! These newer toys surely looks streamline and attractive...reminds me of the times I used some remote bullet vibrators inserted into the gents rectal passage with a anal plug and made it vibrate while I had him go shopping....(me just strolling behind him) LOL and now I am thinking of my little *butler* vibrator I LOVED using anally to stimulate that little naughty nub inside a gents rectum.(the prostrate) Oh, fun times...really fun times.

I hope the above answers you haveusbc.

@ swingfantasy  Boy oh boy,  just wait before rushing of and buying a penis pump...just look at the what else you can use for stimulation.  and Just a thought,  wouldn`t a pocket pussy masturbation/stroker not be MORE of a use,than a penis pump? I am sure a Fleshlight would give you way, way more use and pleasure than what that penis pump would.

I just googled the Newest male masturbation toys and Just WOW!!!!!...there is wonderful new toys available!!!

@ Charlieme  Welcome to The Fora..... Thanks for participating in the above discussion. And NOPE, I would never have thought to use a baby bottle for suction, just shows we all can learn new things.

Interestingly enough, I had to go google the NUK baby bottle as I had no idea what it looked like, ( it sorta looked more flexible and softer than the normal baby bottles I was used to see my sisters and their girls use for their babies).I can see that it would take a nice girth. I am not sure, do you heat the bottle and then depress the bottle while slipping it onto your penis (like I do with with cupping cups) to get the desired effect? Or just  depress and insert your penis? And why would you like to WEAR the bottle for the day?? Does it not harm and make blood rush to the surface of your skin?? I must say as a BDSM player, I would be to scared to leave a suction device unsupervised for longer than 30 minutes which in itself is very long.

@ PoohC   Eish seems only we are slightly kinky here and the rest of the profiles on here are sorta scared of the more risky games....

Oh well, their loss.  

Just a thought for all those guys who says they are having a slight decline in penis function..... Maybe invest in a Penis Pump...even If I think it is a waste...as PoohC says it worked for him.....It might just work for you as well