Good answer lizaan!

So we're not the only ones who has a "things we want to try in 2017 sexually" list...right? Let's hear it...who is planning to do what with whom? 

We're planning our first social event hosting at our place end of January...definitely want to plan a club visit later this year...exploring the voyeur side, she the exhibitionist side...more groups...more FUN!

swinger. swing·er. noun. The definition of a swinger
is slang for someone who lives an uninhibited lifestyle. A person who
engages freely in experimental sexual behavior is an example of a swinger

So yes...that would include single people.

Wolfman...lol...I admire the tenacity man. 

I would almost go so far as to say people don't actually put in any effort in opening a profile and checking what they want/don't want...

And if someone contacts you although your profile states you are not interested in said checklist, it means they didn't even bother reading it first.

So...basically he interviewed 19 guys who are still bullshitting themselves into thinking they are "straight"...? Sad. Getting/giving a blow job from a straight looking masculine guy while your wife is at home doesn't change the fact that you just might be bi-sexual. Admit it, make the relevant choices and go on with your life...

Good read hey....

Not sure this will change people's perception on the issue though. People seem to be pretty much set in their views concerning this, and other single guy (using the term broadly here) issues. After all the fuss we had, our profile still states we are open to meet guys, unfair to judge everyone because of 2 idiots. Same applies to couples. 

But yeah...good read man.

Yeah...lets lump everything into categories...seeing as though it's been working out great. 

Sigh.

Not at all zodiacsa...like we stated in the original post, we have met AND played with single guys we met on here...not all toast, lol. 

I think it boils down to limits...personal limits. The guy you mentioned might be open minded from his perspective...sharing his partner, having a threesome, or whatever...but still has his own set boundaries and limits. I don't think that makes him less open minded than someone else...or does it? Sexual preference is just that...preference, and thank Thor that differs from person to person. We've had a few MMf threesomes, but the need never presented itself with me to pleasure the other guy-cause I'm straight, lol. I think it really is as simple as that. As far as why a guy would want to get with a bi girl...why the hell not, if she has no set preference between a guy or a girl? 

The first rule of Fight Club is...you do not talk about Fight Club...

Responsibility? Sure...I get that. But-in hindsight- she did immediately explain it was a mistake, and apologized. But...some vindictive bastard still decided to share the screenshot without at least scratching out the group and the members names. I'm thinking Margaret will pay for her mistakes for a while...and the original sharer just might not. Not very fair...

I personally think she should start taking ownership of it. Hell...do a talk show, lame Huisgenoot article, radio talks. Take it back and be proud of the fact you still do stuff like that...in the right group though.

So unless you were digitally crippled the last 2 days...you had to see the Margaret Van Wyk incident. Poor, POOR Margaret posted a rather naughty pic accidentally to her daughter's hockey group on ...somebody took a screenshot...and she became the hottest thing on social media since Caster.

Despite the hilarious memes...this got me thinking. 

Has anyone else made the same mistake? Has a pic in a wrong group or something similar actually outed your lifestyle to friends and...Thor forbid...family? How did you handle it?

We check...and double check...before we post anything. Lol...because of Margaret. 

You said it mark1965...and you are open about the fact that you are with someone. But just in the past month we chatted with 2 seperate "single" guys. Guy 1 wanted to constantly arrange daytime meets...huge red flag...and guy 2 admitted in the first chat he is actually with someone. 

Lol...like we said, pointless hassle. But..we're nice and big, and accept the fact that we'll just have to keep on looking. 

Mrs. Localcouple always claims she can instantly figure out if a lady is really bi, or just saying she is to please the hubby into the classic FFM threesome...and that's the way the lady kisses. If it feels forced or awkward...meh.

Lol...guess I'm lucky in the sense that she was bi even before we started dating, kinda skipped the curious part completely. But...in agreement that it's really sad that people on here should fear being labeled in a way.

Road trip with regular pit stops...?

Genius.

Flagg got a big smile...lol...our work here is done.

Lol...we get it Mike_Pta. Been on the site close to 5 years, met some amazing people. This was us venting...at best.

At least it got the forum talking again, lol.

PS...if you're ever in Bloem we need to have a beer and a long discussion concerning the many facets of Deadpool ;)

I think our original statement with the rant got lost...we get that's there's nice guys on the site...but married, sexless marriage etc. 

But...don't lie about it then. Simple as that. We got way more strict with our validations concerning this, and we're ok with that. That still doesn't justify (not that it should) not pitching for a meet, or trying to corner the lady into a private meet...be it single or married. Single/married guys need to understand the couple is just as weary or nervous, and just as respectfull to your needs...the same as theirs. DaveW gets it...he always does

Boils down to mutual respect for needs and preferences. We never, EVER want to be the reason for turmoil in someone's relationship. We're here for the fun...had loads...and the friendship...made plenty.

Agreed...the activity feed is just way too busy now, not liking the new layout at all! But...guess we'll get used to it.

But you don't hide it Dave, and that's the big difference...you had the balls to be honest about it on your profile, you're not hiding behind the "single" label. Boils down to what Mike_Pta said...it does seem that the single guy can also be classified under the mythical beast category, like girls, lol.

Thanks Ptamootcpl

Well said Davew...the door does swing both ways. But, like I stated earlier...we ARE interested in meeting a guy for a long standing, semi regular basis type deal...its just a hassle in getting there. Lol...so basically just a useless rant, we had another single guy mailing us this morning with the great opening line that we wants to kiss me all over, but his wife (single with a wife?!) isn't into swinging.

That means he didn't even bother reading our profile, and his profile is false due to him actually being married. Two hits in one go, lol.

Agreed Ashlee...we did make contact with some seemingly genuine guys this past week. Fingers crossed it works out, lol.

Sad but true Lizaan...

So...we might be kicking open a hornets' nest with this post...but hey, the forum is here for ranting...right?

Background...we've always been ok with meeting single guys. But after the past 3 experiences we had, we just might scratch that off our list...sadly so. We know there are some cool guys out there, we had the pleasure in meeting a few of you.

But...it's just becoming a hassle in meeting you. The guys with the constant winks...no pics, with someone and no "about" section...is just getting too much. And yeah, our profile is very clear on the subject...but hey, who reads profiles anymore? Some guys can't be bothered in even adding a location.

Our last meet with a guy...after we had a really cool drinks meet 2 weeks beforehand...ended up in him asking if he could meet the missus alone.

Our last 2 adds on the site didn't end up any better...one was for the elusive silver fox...where we ended up with a stack of replies with the trusty dick pic and not much else.  So...we decided to approach a guy in our home town, who took offense that we approached him. Really. This was after a very well worded...we hope...mail, introducing ourselves, and explaining what we are looking for.

Add 2 was a official invite for guys to join as at one of our regular parties we attend, and sometimes co-host.  We received almost no responses...we validated 2 guys, 1 wanted to attend...but unfortunately couldn't.

We get that couples pull the same stunts...BUT...we are aware of the stigma that sticks to single guys on sites like this. We were actually willing to ignore that...but it seems we might have been mistaken.  It's sad that some guys are almost willfully ruining the chances for other guys...