You right somebody can be beautiful and lack sex appeal. Sexy means having sex appeal. I think there are lots of woman who are not pretty but have loads of sex appeal in the way they dress, walk basically how they carry themselves.

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Anybody else frustrated with the new format messaging platform? We use it on Android exclusively and are struggling to get to grips with it. Many messages show a title heading in the overview pane. But when we open the message - blank.

And the amount of messages suddenly reduced from 1 or 2 a day - to 1 a week (if we're lucky).

Just us?

I noticed alot of the times there isn't any notification for messages but when you go into the messages tab they are there.

What type of venue are we thinking. I assume a hotel room would be too small?

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Also my wife ultimate fantasy.
She has been with multiple men at the same time, enjoys rough sex,  but never achieved a DP more on the mens part as she willingly tried more than once.
But before we get tons of volunteers,  she only plays with larger sized cocks.
So if you above average.....thanks. 

 I tried DVP with a couple for the first both guys are large its not easy and especially with condoms. It causes friction. In a threesome setting i did DP though. 

I have had the pleasure on more than one occasion to dp a lady, on both occasions it was their first DP and intense for both of them. One in each hole. I have tried the double vaginal thing but it was a bit awkward as one of us kept slipping out. 

I hate to be a party poopper but SDM was one of the reasons that I stopped contributing to the forum also. 

The whole point behind fora is that it is a platform whereby we as adults can engage in an intellectual manner to be able to debate. It's a conversation whereby we are able to air views without prejudice.

saying that you have to agree with my views or anybodys for that matter but atleast be open minded enough to reason and listen to what is being said. 

It's that narrow mindedness whereby we cannot tolerate the views of others and being open minded enough to understand the point that is being made. 

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Our choice our bodies our lives getting pissed off about it is not going change anyone's mind

 Nobody is getting pissed off. The title is being hypocritical meaning people's profile say they not into it but then they contact those people. 

Secondly that's fine if you do, it's your choice then own it. Its a form of discrimination and it's definitely not the same as sexual orientation. 

On that point maybe site admin should add a tick box for it. It becomes really frustrating opening up profiles, reading them and then 9 out of 10 people have an issue. Tick box will filter all of those out. 

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So we came to the conclusion that if you keep to your own race you are missing out on the thousands of other beautiful stunning people. In any way it is so much more erotic and sexy if you just open your mind and enjoy so much more different cultures. We are very fortunate to say that we are very much part of the real rainbow nation swingers

 Well said

Don't worry your profile is legendary on its own. 

Yeah let's hope so I actually made a good few acquaintances using the forum

Yeah the other issue with the clubs is a general lack of hygiene. I get it's a party place but some clubs seriously need to brush up. 

I also think the more upmarket or exclusive the club the more classy or sophisticated it will be. But yes definitely agree....... 

I visited a new club in Midrand and they actually had like a social area which was quite nice. 

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For me it's about body smell.......I make a point of hugging a person when I first meet to engage their smell.  The smell of clean skin is a huge turn on.  Body odour of any sort a huge turn off. 

 You should smell me then 😉

I started chatting with the female of a couple in the chat room. After which she gave me her number and asked me to her. 

Following day I her, hi I am so and so.  I been blocked ever since. 

Yeah even so many couples have it on their profiles but once you engage they don't really have a problem. 

Or they would open to Indian folk but not black or vice versa. My thing is there are beautiful and ugly people in every race. So yeah....... 

Firstly interracial isn't a thing other than skin colour. We all have the same parts physically, albeit in varying proportions and we all have the same emotion. 

I have never been one to let the person skin colour dictate, it's always been about the chemistry. 

If I am attracted to the person and we have great chemistry then all good. But I will never not give somebody the opportunity to engage purely based on the colour of their skin. Having said that it's seems as if there is some about it which I don't really understand. 

I have to agree with Ash, it tends to be mood. You take the time to tailor a message only to receive no reply at all. 

Worst still is getting a reply asking for pics then absolutely no response thereafter. I digress. But yeah if you have spent 2 hrs typing wonderful messages to absolutely zero response you start getting frustrated. 

You can only vouch for a friend. That would mean that people are accepting friend invites from people they don't know. 

Yeah I agree PIB, LeeEC, KC were all very good contributors but there was a good few who would find fault with everything. So narrow minded that they only saw their own point without being open minded enough to engage. 

It was actually via the forums that I met up with both Lee and KC. 

The days of LeeEc and KC. 

It's so hard to decipher because other people's view is that you shouldn't pester. Take no reply as not interested.

I was once told to change my relationship status to having a girlfriend because woman preferred guys who weren't going to get attached, yet most people don't want to play with married men. 

?

As well as what we get exposed to and what also then becomes normal. 

I agree with most of the points and it's common sense. However despite doing all of the above, very few people actually reply. Let alone those who want to see albums, then never get a response. 

I agree. I have been blocked just by viewing a profile that appeared as a match in my feed.

I didnt even message or wink. It happens but i choose not to waste my energy by dwelling on it.

I don't see how that is related to the forum? 

A few years ago before I left SA, I used to frequent the site quite a bit. The forums especially was a great place to interact and exchange news, reviews and analysis. There were great contributors such as PIB and LeeEC just to name a few. There were many others and there would always be replies to certain topics (including Mr SDMR and his very staunch personal views - no offence).

Since I am back I started visiting the site again and to my dismay the forum has died along with many of the other features and more importantly the couples.

The amount of unknown profiles is testament to the above. What I would like to know is why?

Is it because of the fakes on here?

As a guy is it because nobody ever responds no matter how good your mail/message is?

What would it take to get this place going again?

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most of them make me laugh....and often very badly written ....perhaps english is not there first language lol

 Their.

For once i agree but its habit. Similarly upmarket, educated, professional, as per local couple makes no sense but i think these words are postively connotated in the lifestyle.

i think its also a hint towards guys that only want the lady.

I wonder if any couples have experienced this?

Hi All. A good few years back i visited Sandy Bay when whether permitted.

I just wanted to enquire if anybody knows how safe it is these days particularly if you just one or two people. To clarify there were a few security incidents reported some time back on that 15-20 min walk.

Any feedback would be appreciated.