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I have a question. Coming up from Gauteng for the holidays. Is this beach safe to access and walk to as a single older gent? Risk of mugging etc. Please locals, give some honest advice. Also welcome to DM me with advice. Thanks in anticipation

I’ve been alone a few times never had any hassles but I can see why you need to be vigilant. It’s a long walk through bushes and that’s why I only go if I have company

I was there today was great.

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What’s the twitter handle 🙈

So we have a naughty twitter page and we get alot swingers from overseas and local asking would we like to collaborate for dey only fans account

So here is my issue we in the lifestyle coz we enjoy it and it's our discreet fun away from everyday life a way for us to explore our sexual fantasies and we feel doing a only fans collaboration might be going towards porn and almost doing it only for money look we could be wrong

What do you guys on sh think about it would you do it

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I agree , start another group 😘 Am sure there are plenty of us on here

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Believe me when I tell you it's not a few but alot of Muslim couples in the lifestyle which I think is great

I know I just meant as a % of the total demographic of this site

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I want a prearranged guy to flirt with my wife, secretly, without her knowledge, at a place we will agree upon. A eatery with music and a vibe. How do one go around that? Is there any guy with the necessary social skills and charm? She is conservative ,. I want it to be fun for all of us. Maybe later we do mfm. if it goes well

How does this tie in with our current discussion?

There are a few Muslim couples here and there but it’s hard to get into any society unless you invited in. Sometimes they at clubs too.

In the Pinelands Library at Howard Centre.

Having a bill implies sex having a bf implies emotion. People need to define what they are seeking

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Ok so we always hear of couples having a GF but this weekend something very interesting happen a single guy that we regularly play with asked if he could be my bf taking that hubby is not bi and into guys so he would be my bf

Would love to know how the SH community feel about it and has couples had bf taking that the hubby is straight and how did it work out

I mean I could see if a couple was bi how a bf would work for a couple

I’m a total boob guy but I think with boobs it comes down to being proportionate, whilst I tend to favour somewhere between b and c some bigger sizes can be extremely sexy, I just had a look at yours and they perfect everything in proportion to you🔥

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So I was surprised to learn recently that some men and women don't like big boobs and prefer smaller boobs me myself I have 32DD and love them would love to know from women and men what's your preference

Are there any dogging spots in cpt?

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I totally agree with you it is shocking how many men are not circumzied but I guess it's everyone's own preference

Do you not play with guys if they not cut?

Me too🤣

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That's exactly what we talking about it's amazing that alot of people think if you beautiful you automatically sexy

Yes it's a misconception. Also beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I can't believe some of the stories I hear. I think some guys are in it for the quick lay but generally don't last very long on SH.

You right somebody can be beautiful and lack sex appeal. Sexy means having sex appeal. I think there are lots of woman who are not pretty but have loads of sex appeal in the way they dress, walk basically how they carry themselves.

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Anybody else frustrated with the new format messaging platform? We use it on Android exclusively and are struggling to get to grips with it. Many messages show a title heading in the overview pane. But when we open the message - blank.

And the amount of messages suddenly reduced from 1 or 2 a day - to 1 a week (if we're lucky).

Just us?

I noticed alot of the times there isn't any notification for messages but when you go into the messages tab they are there.

What type of venue are we thinking. I assume a hotel room would be too small?

Quote by Chappie
Also my wife ultimate fantasy.
She has been with multiple men at the same time, enjoys rough sex,  but never achieved a DP more on the mens part as she willingly tried more than once.
But before we get tons of volunteers,  she only plays with larger sized cocks.
So if you above average.....thanks. 

 I tried DVP with a couple for the first both guys are large its not easy and especially with condoms. It causes friction. In a threesome setting i did DP though. 

I have had the pleasure on more than one occasion to dp a lady, on both occasions it was their first DP and intense for both of them. One in each hole. I have tried the double vaginal thing but it was a bit awkward as one of us kept slipping out. 

I hate to be a party poopper but SDM was one of the reasons that I stopped contributing to the forum also. 

The whole point behind fora is that it is a platform whereby we as adults can engage in an intellectual manner to be able to debate. It's a conversation whereby we are able to air views without prejudice.

saying that you have to agree with my views or anybodys for that matter but atleast be open minded enough to reason and listen to what is being said. 

It's that narrow mindedness whereby we cannot tolerate the views of others and being open minded enough to understand the point that is being made. 

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Our choice our bodies our lives getting pissed off about it is not going change anyone's mind

 Nobody is getting pissed off. The title is being hypocritical meaning people's profile say they not into it but then they contact those people. 

Secondly that's fine if you do, it's your choice then own it. Its a form of discrimination and it's definitely not the same as sexual orientation. 

On that point maybe site admin should add a tick box for it. It becomes really frustrating opening up profiles, reading them and then 9 out of 10 people have an issue. Tick box will filter all of those out. 

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So we came to the conclusion that if you keep to your own race you are missing out on the thousands of other beautiful stunning people. In any way it is so much more erotic and sexy if you just open your mind and enjoy so much more different cultures. We are very fortunate to say that we are very much part of the real rainbow nation swingers

 Well said

Don't worry your profile is legendary on its own. 

Yeah let's hope so I actually made a good few acquaintances using the forum

Yeah the other issue with the clubs is a general lack of hygiene. I get it's a party place but some clubs seriously need to brush up. 

I also think the more upmarket or exclusive the club the more classy or sophisticated it will be. But yes definitely agree....... 

I visited a new club in Midrand and they actually had like a social area which was quite nice. 

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For me it's about body smell.......I make a point of hugging a person when I first meet to engage their smell.  The smell of clean skin is a huge turn on.  Body odour of any sort a huge turn off. 

 You should smell me then 😉

I started chatting with the female of a couple in the chat room. After which she gave me her number and asked me to her. 

Following day I her, hi I am so and so.  I been blocked ever since. 

Yeah even so many couples have it on their profiles but once you engage they don't really have a problem. 

Or they would open to Indian folk but not black or vice versa. My thing is there are beautiful and ugly people in every race. So yeah.......