Dear Kinkys
The idea is to keep searching. All people have their own preferences. Respect it. You have to exercise a lot of patience in order to achieve what you want to. It does take time due to the fact that there are so few members that are willing to go interracial.
Let's face it, the vast majority of couples in this lifestyle are white couples who have their preference of not going interracial. Who knows, these preferences may evolve someday.
Plus, I have seen this site and many other sites grow significantly over the past few years, and then the pool is growing bigger.
So hang in there. I know it must be frustrating at times, but all the fun will come with patience.
Vee1
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Vee1
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Straight Other Male, 50
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Quote by MattLeeEClee. You go ahead and post pics. Sexy feet are always welcome. Did you ever watch the movie Boomerang? Ever since that movie I like checking out feet and I love sexy feet.
Please please please....
I so REALLY wanted to post hundreds of foot pictures for the footsie thread
As for the forum, we will do a makeover. Although sex gets everbody's attention, it is definately not the only thing.
Quote by jack99dude. You are lucky. Did you meet anyone from this site? Or did you meet randomly?
Well, just a small update.
I have spent the last week at te south coast and I met and played with numerous white women. So about a previous comment about areas playing a role, I don't really agree with that anymore. Especially so because there were women from the free state, natal, and the eastern cape I had fun with.
We live in a open democratic country, yet everyones minds across all colours are still stuck in the past. That is due to our attitudes and way of thinking and also what was passed on to us by our ancestors.
This all needs to change. That may be hard.
However, we are not all that bad and we do try.
In this world there are worse countries than ours.
So come what may, let's leave the past in the past and move on.
Be yourself and have kindness and respect, and you will have whatever you want. Nobody is being opressed or suppressed.
A funny thing happened with me. Well the wife thought it was really funny and laughed at the look on my face. We were having se, and after a lonf foreplay and doggy style, I turned her over and we did missionary. We decided we going to cum shortly, so I started thrusting harder and faster. Then the darn thing started. I got a cramp in my right leg from my buttock to my knee. This caused me to straighten up my leg while I was busy getting the wife and myself to climax. I was going like the energiser bunny. Half in pain and the other half almost ready to cum. The wife started laughing as she saw my face and felt the movement of my body, as if I had been shcoked with some electric current. We did cum and as soon as I could I jumped of the bed to start walking off the cramp.
There are really 3 things that tickle my fancy:
1. Feet- oh gorgeous feet. I love sucking on toes. It does drive women wild.
2. This might sound a bit corny. I love seeing a woman with nothing on except a pair of white socks. I love it.
3. Lastly, I love womens underwear. Carrying it with me everywhere. Oh to carry the scent of a woman with me. It is a real turn on.
Quote by MattLeeECLee and PIB. I fully understand what you are saying about writing up your profile and taking time to do so. But what I am trying to see, over time and with getting comfortable with this site, a users wants, needs, requirements evolves. However, the profile descriptions do not change accordingly. Hence why I asked the question. I do take the time to read all profiles, and have seen that profile descriptions do not change for many users.
Once again, I agree with PIB, what is on our profile is EXACTLY what we expect.
I for one (and it does seem rare) took the instructions seriously and actually made a point to write exactly what we were looking for.
But as PIB says, most people don't seem to bother to read anymore. In fact as we go, if I have some experience that changes how I feel about what we are looking for, I will go and immediately add to our profile write up.
Personally I too think that not taking the time to write anything beyond the random and pointless "looking for fun!" line, is doing yourself a disservice. I am serious about meeting up with Real people who are not simply pic-trawlers. And I often don't bother with profiles that basically have so little in them that the profile could belong to any random person you pulled off the street.
I don't understand why you wouldn't just tell everyone exactly what you want. If you're genuinely IN this lifestyle, you should be able to simply tell people what you want.
It is kind of the point! AND I suspect a lot of people would have much better "luck" finding playmates if they were just bluntly honest in their profiles up front.
If you are just looking for pure NSA sexual encounters and colour/age/disease/drug status/looks/friendship/location/marital status/repeat connections etc aren't aspects you are concerned about - then just freaking say so.
But then also when some one says they are concerned about one or some of those issues then respect that and acknowledge that if you can't comply then they are not a good "match" for you. And move on to the next profile.
It drives me completely nuts when I go to so much trouble to be clear, concise and extremely honest about what I want and the idiot mailing me doesn't even read it - makes me want to hide all my pictures so you have beg for them !
But then I am twisted like that....
Makes me want to add "I like to spank all my single male connections til they bleed"
Or
"single boys, hope you like big dildos... I like to test them on my boys before we start!"
at the end of the profile just to prove they didn't read it!
Ever wondered, why you joined on this site? What made you think about swinging? What are your expectations by being on this site or any site for that matter?
I am not talking about what is written in your profile. Sometimes a description on a profile may not reveal the true expectation.
This is an open invite to all users, singles and couples, on this site to share their comments. Speak your heart out if you want to.
It would be interesting to know. Maybe improve our outlook on each user and maybe give a better understanding of the user and his/her/their expectations.
Quote by MattLeeEC. I bet this guy does not get any action. He probably only a wanker. How can one not respect a woman?just goes to show how he grew up. Not learning respect from his parents. I would never ever do anything like that. And I spit on those that don't have respect.
Man alive! What a bluddy brilliant post PIB - I suspect it would really pay off to have your forum posts linked to your profile in some way - as is on other sites of a similar nature..
The best way to get my attention is to treat me with respect and be an interesting, intelligent person.
You said it sista! I'm right there with you.
Can you believe this conversation:
Complete Stranger: Can we meet?
*having viewed said profile*
Me: Thank you but I am not attracted to you
Complete stranger: I have a big dick
Me: So? I'm not attracted to you.
*he did rather resemble a walrus... Walrus seem inexplicably drawn to swinger sites*
Complete stranger: but I have a big dick. did you look at my pic?
Me: I don't care if your dick is the size of a sperm whale's dick. I am not attracted to you and will not meet with you or chat to you anymore.
Complete Stranger: Bitch.
Nice...
LeeEC
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Doll... I am a woman.
My posts have always been clearly signed LeeEC
And Voyer... you are, as ever, the voice of reason.
If u say so. Well watever the case mind ur own business n so will iI would prefer to see a oil/mud wrestling session with you ladies. Let's maintain the peace.
Quote by MattLeeECdear Lee
Hi all
As you know (wave for dogging) I have commented that I don't know what the big deal is. But then I come from a very "non-racial" background, and while colour isn't a "thing" for me - I really couldn't care less about the colour of your skin - I do find that I am more attracted to people who share my way of thinking - and therefore behave/or approach me in a way I find acceptable and appropriate, so for me the issue of cultural compatibility is probably more important. However I know this is something of a thrill for my hubby... I know he secretly would like to do a black chick... Guys don't reallly know how observant we can be
On the other hand I also know that if you try and "sell the idea" to me based on the "interacial thrill" I'm already put off, I want to be desired because I'm sexy and good at it and tasty and desirable not because I'm white. That's a bit random for me. So maybe try not to make such a big thing about it, perhaps assume that everyone else might not actually be into it because you're a particular colour but simply because you're hot.... or sexy or charming and since you are they will get the hot, sexy, charming and you get your white chick fantasy...
Also - tried to post this earlier after Jacks first comment, but my connection bugged out; I think a lot of singles set themselves up for diappointment; because you are single it doesn't factor into your process that couples often have families and children and two schedules to try and arrange play around. Propositioning people more than 200kms from you often means it will simply never happen even if you all want it to because logisitcally it's just too complicated.
Singles should particularly indicate their willingness to travel to their intended playmates, their willingness to make long-term connections (most couples are looking for long-term playmates - which is obviously a lot easier if you're in close proximity) and keep in mind the difficulty in terms of short notice meets for people with children.
hope my comments are helpful :)
Thanks for your sometime in the future, if I am in your area, I will contact you. Even if it is for a good old meet and chat.
I would like to mention that since being on this site for quite some time, I often get disappointed with most profiles where colour is mentioned. And through my experience, I have noticed that location does play a role, when it comes to open mindedness. However, I do enjoy the site, and if there is a profile that would enjoy me, I would like. I am always patient and seeking. Someday, sometime I may find what I want with whom I want. Just wish that all people could be open minded. I suppose this country still requires many years of patience to develop this openmindedness. Have you been to Mozambique? There colour is not a big issue, and this is a neighbouring a vast difference to SA.
Quote by Dogging
Have been with a few white ladies. It was all great experiences.
However not from this site. People are scared.
Vee how many have you met from this site? i would guess zero, i get upset wehn i see people on their profile say we dont cross the colour line and we stick to a same race, hate it you are quite correct. Also couples will string you along until a certain stage and then drop you. That is bad. Some also use you to find out further information and then its over. Communication ends. I have been on this site for quite long and I see the race issue happening everytime. One other thing to ponder, and maybe why jack has much success. This race thing varies according to your location. It will vary from town to town and province to province. Say for instance, mpumalanga as an example. The smaller towns, it is more prevalent. Due t fear of anyone finding out or also the small town old mentality is actually causing that.
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@Bikerboy...erm does spanking u count?? Lol like what u said
Thank you Sofistikiity, and yes it does
Vee1, i thught "bones" were what we were all here for, or is that "boner" :wink:I don't think "bones". As I said you could get hurt. I think for the ladies, "boner" would do.
Hi all.
I personally do not like to go for the skinny types. Bones can hurt you.
I love women in all shapes and sizes, except skinny. That may be a health issue that they are dealing with.
As far as supper models are concerned, show me one that is beautiful and drug free? They are forced to put their bodies under pressure due to the fashion world protraying that their dress designs are better shown on skinny ladies. Many years ago, models were never so skinny. They had good figures. What happened?
Besides that and coming back to everyday people, have you seen some of the derogitory remaks on some of the profiles such as "no fatties", etc? We know its their preference, but you don't have to be a idiot about it.
Another thing: what about a thin guy? Many women look for a thin guy, but do not realise the pleasure that you can get from a "fuller" guy.
I am not the athletic type, have a few pounds extra, but am able to enjoy a good sexual relationship with women.
One of the porn stars to date, is quite popular and he is not thin. Yet he is famous all over the world.
Its time for a serious attitude change. That is what is needed.
