Men on any sex site assume that just because I or any woman talk about sex toys, write erotica and participate in a sex positive community that I/we,as women are promiscuous.'This is a stupid assumption.
Being sex positive, writing about sex or using sex toys does not necessarily mean I/we are promiscuous.
However I want to make the point here that even if I am promiscuous, I do not owe anyone a date, a Fuck, a blow job, naked pictures, cyber sex, does any other lady for that matter.
I am pan-sexual, I am not ashamed of this.
I have fucked many people in my life.
I love writing about sex and discussing it.
I love putting up sexy photos.
While I will often be patient with very personal questions, in the spirit of talking openly about sex, I do get creeped out and annoyed when someone seems to be insinuating that I would want to do any particular activities with them.
There's a fine line between curiosity about the various sexual things I've done and hitting on me in a creepy and overtly sexual fashion.
Strange men who would just send one line messages of *I wanna lick your Pussy*or something more degrading.
I can not help but think that rather than curiosity these men is looking for masturbation material or an indication that I would let them do these things to me. (I mean, if you read my writings at all you would know the general answer to these questions. Plus there's already plenty of masturbation material here.)
I don not mind if someone gets off reading my accounts of things I have done. I would be stupid and naive to think people do not do that. But just because they had a hot little wank session thinking about me/or any other lady here, does not mean I want to
A) Know/hear about it or
B) Make it real with anyone here.
Being on any sex site does not mean I have to Fuck everyone who's interested in me or everyone who asks.
I am a human being first and foremost and I have the option of turning down any and every potential sexual partner for whatever reason I deem appropriate.
I do not owe anyone a cyber sex session just because they are turned on by my pictures or words.
I tend to get really annoyed when someone tries to cyber with me without even asking if I want to.
Most of the time when I am online I am either at work, or relaxing, and totally not in the Mindset to talk dirty with a complete stranger.
I would appreciate being asked if I am interested and for you to take my *no* graciously and back the Fuck off.
I am not a fan of cyber sex. And should I actually talk sex with you one time, does not mean I am obligated to do it again.
This all seems to go back to the sexist idea that women's bodies and sexuality are public property. Let me clarify for you:
No one has rights to my body or sexuality unless I give them permission.
I reserve the right to take away permission from anyone at any time.
If I say no, I mean no – not *try harder.*
The best way to get my attention is to treat me with respect and be an interesting, intelligent person.
Just because you promise to do things to me that I usually find erotic does not mean I will let you.
I am more creeped out than turned on by some completely strange person talking about what they want to do to me sexually.
It makes me feel like the future target of a sexual assault, not sexy and desirable.
Just because you feel like you know me from reading my erotic and personal memoirs does not mean I know a thing about you or have any reason to feel comfortable or safe talking dirty with you.
The men I Fuck are chosen carefully.. I do not owe anyone a Fuck just by virtue of being on a sex site.
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Being Promiscuous.
VERY well put, PiB! And I am sure that you are speaking for many other ladies on this site as well! - at least one other that I know of... As in all relationships, whether long-term or casual, it has to be about RESPECT for the other person, and this should be especially so in the case of men relating to women. Well said!!
Man alive! What a bluddy brilliant post PIB - I suspect it would really pay off to have your forum posts linked to your profile in some way - as is on other sites of a similar nature..
The best way to get my attention is to treat me with respect and be an interesting, intelligent person.
You said it sista! I'm right there with you.
Can you believe this conversation:
Complete Stranger: Can we meet?
*having viewed said profile*
Me: Thank you but I am not attracted to you
Complete stranger: I have a big dick
Me: So? I'm not attracted to you.
*he did rather resemble a walrus... Walrus seem inexplicably drawn to swinger sites*
Complete stranger: but I have a big dick. did you look at my pic?
Me: I don't care if your dick is the size of a sperm whale's dick. I am not attracted to you and will not meet with you or chat to you anymore.
Complete Stranger: Bitch.
Nice...
LeeEC
The best way to get my attention is to treat me with respect and be an interesting, intelligent person.
You said it sista! I'm right there with you.
Can you believe this conversation:
Complete Stranger: Can we meet?
*having viewed said profile*
Me: Thank you but I am not attracted to you
Complete stranger: I have a big dick
Me: So? I'm not attracted to you.
*he did rather resemble a walrus... Walrus seem inexplicably drawn to swinger sites*
Complete stranger: but I have a big dick. did you look at my pic?
Me: I don't care if your dick is the size of a sperm whale's dick. I am not attracted to you and will not meet with you or chat to you anymore.
Complete Stranger: Bitch.
Nice...
LeeEC
Very well said PiB think most of us ladies, single or part of couple, wish we could forward this to everyones inboxes!
@LeeEC single dudes complain at the rest of us being rude, but they push until we are!! Glad I have not yet had such a conversation and thnx to all those who respected my 'No thnx' reply!
This is why i have adjusted my profile, guys and some couples automatically think that if u fem on a sex site u "looking for it" they cant understand why we dont have sex on the first meeting or why we are self conscious as if we should be use to this.
My experiences have been with bfs or long term lovers, like PIB said doesnt mean we are promiscuous, just sexually liberated. We are still human with feelings. If i am not "feeling" someone im not going to sleep with them . And theres nothing wrong with wanting to get to know or taking ur time to sleep with someone, am i wrong?
Warming the Bed
Well said PIB!
Girls need respect! all men need to be gentlemen all the time!
Quote by MattLeeEC. I bet this guy does not get any action. He probably only a wanker. How can one not respect a woman?just goes to show how he grew up. Not learning respect from his parents. I would never ever do anything like that. And I spit on those that don't have respect.
Man alive! What a bluddy brilliant post PIB - I suspect it would really pay off to have your forum posts linked to your profile in some way - as is on other sites of a similar nature..
The best way to get my attention is to treat me with respect and be an interesting, intelligent person.
You said it sista! I'm right there with you.
Can you believe this conversation:
Complete Stranger: Can we meet?
*having viewed said profile*
Me: Thank you but I am not attracted to you
Complete stranger: I have a big dick
Me: So? I'm not attracted to you.
*he did rather resemble a walrus... Walrus seem inexplicably drawn to swinger sites*
Complete stranger: but I have a big dick. did you look at my pic?
Me: I don't care if your dick is the size of a sperm whale's dick. I am not attracted to you and will not meet with you or chat to you anymore.
Complete Stranger: Bitch.
Nice...
LeeEC
