People mature at different ages, some 18-20 year olds are extremely mature, whilst some 40 to 50 years old can be extremely immature, at the end of the day if people don't want to interact with people of a certain age, they don't have to.
Age would not dictate if someone is a genuine swinger, young or old.
Still I guess everyone would have their own opinion on this, quite rightly so, I'm just expressing mine.
I'll not be condoning a public name and shame area at any time ever, members have the ability to report people and that is the way it will need to be dealt with.
Yourself and others may think that this would be a good way to go, but after operating these sites for over a decade I'm fully aware of just how dishonest some people can be, I can also see a public name and shame policy having serious side effects with members trying to pressurise others into meeting or fearing a public naming, the bottom line is it aint going to happen.
True - whats not to like about that position
The person below me likes double penetration
Also ads have been deleted, I've removed the bbm numbers from your post as well, thanks for letting us know, you can report anyone doing this from their profile by clicking on the report link.
You can either click on the report abuse link on their profile, let a moderator know, pm me, or submit a support ticket.
None of the images would have to be uploaded to this site, however we wouldn't want anything inappropriate in here, so no porn or anything dodgy.
Find an image that you wish to display in a post, then right click on the image and copy the image url, depending on the browser you use, you may have to look in properties, when you have the image URL, you paste it into the image tags.
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Admin (a man of many words)
What you say between yourselves is entirely up to you, we would however not allow any public form of name and shame, over the years I have seen way too many examples of people being accused of things that they were not guilty of, usually this happens when someone is refused a meet, if a public version were in place what is to stop someone saying "meet me or I will name & shame you"
If you see a download and are certain then report it, we categorise pics as adult/non adult and remove anything dodgy, obvious celebs, but have no way to determine what is genuine, if you are able to identify where the pic came from it will also help.
Its similar on every site, there will be fake profiles and genuine profiles, now assuming that you have come across a genuine profile you may be dealing with someone new to the scene that has a change of heart at the last minute, anyone that has been in this lifestyle will take steps to ensure that they are dealing with a genuine person before committing to a meet, all you have to do is spend a bit of time up front doing this.
So what should you do?
Exchanging face pics does not help to verify that people are what they claim to be or that they will turn up for a meet, you should insist that both sides use the video chatroom and have a face to face, if the other party can't do that then there is a possibility that something is fishy, you may hear the I don't have a webcam excuse, now I know that not everyone has a cam but most do in this day and age, you could always chat on the phone and make sure that in the case of a couple that the female is available to chat, this is higher risk but can help to build confidence, you may get the "I can only communicate by text" or "she is not available at the moment", if this happens your nose should be telling you that something isn't right.
Also spend a bit of time looking at their profile and any comments left from them.
I'm sure others will have their own ways of setting up meets, maybe it would help more if everyone posted advice rather than complaining about lack of successful meets, there will always be time wasters and not everyone you come across will want to meet you, it takes time and work, some get lots of meets and some don't.
Did you know we have a stories section http://www.swingingheaven.za.com/swinger-stories.html
Fancy seeing you here, these groups might be worth looking at or joining;
http://www.swingingheaven.za.com/124-group.html
http://www.swingingheaven.za.com/64-group.html
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