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Sexlightened
Yep...also starting to loose faith in appointments made here...but then again I always an optimist so I will keep on trying 
Quote by frontosa415
why do people do this,spend days talking then get around to setting up dates to meet ,then the excuses start,this came up,that happened ,people if you dont want to meet PLEASE do not waste other peoples time,this is how sites like this get bad names
I agree and not to mention when you send someone a message they dont even have the balls to decline your off or tell you they not interested. srely if you send someone a messagee they should be honoured and at least have manners and say you mot intertested or your profile dont match good luck with your search. guys come one is someone sends a message at least respond its the right thing to do. I only wish there was a block button so i could block those rude people that dont reply.
Forum Virgin
Hi F
Worse than that is you organise a private party and they either fone about an hour before the party with a useless excuse ,they not coming or they dont even arrive or offer and excuse no matter how good or feeble it is,we had five couples this weekend that never pitched or cancelled at death,tht sucks as we could have had other couples who would have joied there and enjoyed it :mad::mad::mad:
Maybe we should all be honest regarding this topic? Most if not all of us have either accepted invitations before, or sincerely forgot about certain events.
If you are trying to arrange a party, why not do so with people you have already met? Instead, go place a shout that you and whoever will be at a certain place and would like to meet others there. Do not depend on others.
Forum Virgin
some very valid points here but i agree with russtrac for example ive been a member for 8months i have't met anyone yet (not from a lack of trying but also not like a dog that smells bitches on heat) so i decided to try a swingers party on saturday, party in jozi i was in cpt on business but would make attendz. The evening i called to ask if its fine to be an hour late to freshen after my flight, everything was set...i arrived home to find no power. My neibour came out and told me my house was hit by lightning the previous nite .long story short i woke up the following morning with a case of "morning glory" and remembered the party. Wanted to call and explain but thought it would sound unbelievable. I also find many people not responding or rejecting due to age, i know im young and also aware of the behaviour of young guys but not all of us are like that and all it takes is a simple conversation in 3 messages u should be able to see if u chatting to a child with no respect & only pü§§¥ on the brains or a young business man looking to unwind and have nsa sex but practising it with respect. (appology's for the long post)
Forum Virgin
I think all of you guys make a lot of sense.
And I have also experienced the same situation (unreliable),
But if anyone can enlighten me on the issues regarding couples that have arranged to meet with you,
They constantly insisting on swapping face pictures before the date, BUT they insist that you send through first (first of all,to me thats already playing games), And once you've emailed them your pictures (where you already feel exposed),
They receive it, compliment your pictures AND carry on insisting about the meeting, but somehow completely block out the fact that you are now anxious to see in some in return regardless of the amount of times you subtly mention it?
Whats your guys thought about a situation as such?
Sexpert
i think the people that dont show up are generally (and i say generally) those with fake profiles
Warming the Bed
We been there many times. It is frustrating not even that the people don't rock up also when you write an "Honest Message" that they are not even reply. Two honest words "Not interested" would do. If not even that comes these ppl even closer in the line to be in the box of fakes. Swinging should be about respect and honesty.
Yes ,we are verry picky and honest that's why we not contacting anybody.
We are thinking to name and shame the people what waste our time and don't show up without calling.
Being around the block some time, we found that is usually easier to go out for dinner, and invite people as a "meet and greet". If they dont pitch, then you have dinner by yourself, and if they do, espesially newbies, then it takes some of the "unexpected pressure" or what do I do next feeling away.
It is honestly not that difficult to to decide - ok lets go home for our private party there after dinner, also no dishes to wash at home.
Only on private parties it will not work as you made "bookings" before the time.
Hugs....
PiB1
Orgasminator
Its similar on every site, there will be fake profiles and genuine profiles, now assuming that you have come across a genuine profile you may be dealing with someone new to the scene that has a change of heart at the last minute, anyone that has been in this lifestyle will take steps to ensure that they are dealing with a genuine person before committing to a meet, all you have to do is spend a bit of time up front doing this.
So what should you do?
Exchanging face pics does not help to verify that people are what they claim to be or that they will turn up for a meet, you should insist that both sides use the video chatroom and have a face to face, if the other party can't do that then there is a possibility that something is fishy, you may hear the I don't have a webcam excuse, now I know that not everyone has a cam but most do in this day and age, you could always chat on the phone and make sure that in the case of a couple that the female is available to chat, this is higher risk but can help to build confidence, you may get the "I can only communicate by text" or "she is not available at the moment", if this happens your nose should be telling you that something isn't right.
Also spend a bit of time looking at their profile and any comments left from them.
I'm sure others will have their own ways of setting up meets, maybe it would help more if everyone posted advice rather than complaining about lack of successful meets, there will always be time wasters and not everyone you come across will want to meet you, it takes time and work, some get lots of meets and some don't.
I agree mostly on what you said adminSteve.
Except on the webcam thing...I personally dislike showing or exposing myself like that.
I would rather just set a coffee meet before any other meetings. Then if the person does not show you is not then something might have also just gone wrong so set up a second date...never a third.
I myself had to cancel on short notices before, so canceling a meeting is something I do understand.
But using a webcam to me is NOT agreeable,I cannot read eyes and faces like that,I cannot see the person as a whole or smell the is where a personal meet works for me,you can read a face,see posture and see the person as a whole.
I could come over as this nice clean sexy person..BUT my hygiene might be hell to gone...and back.
The moment I walk up to someone I look at certain things....
I look at their face and the look in their eyes.
I look at their hands look at their nails and the condition of their hair and teeth and what they are wearing.
Now do not get me wrong I do not mind someone in plain jeans and shirt, I most likely will be dressed like I do not want to see a DIRTY person with smelly clothes or an UNKEPT person.
Some one can be fat and ugly as hell ,but they can show respect for their own bodies by being squeaky clean.
I experience their overall manners and the way they talk...
I read a person between what I see and what they say.
With a webcam , I can not do so....so NO , to me , webcam or via phone is out...I meet in person or not at all.
But I agree one should be truthful in your mail exchanges when people want to meet.. Say yes or no do not play ping pong...
Quote by frontosa415
why do people do this,spend days talking then get around to setting up dates to meet ,then the excuses start,this came up,that happened ,people if you dont want to meet PLEASE do not waste other peoples time,this is how sites like this get bad names
I agree we made arrangements to meet 10 guys ( wife wants to try a gangbang) on friday night at a sex shop video lounge and not one pitched up,do you know how dissapointing that is it really pisses me off and it's guys on this site maybe we should name and shame them
Quote by frontosa415
why do people do this,spend days talking then get around to setting up dates to meet ,then the excuses start,this came up,that happened ,people if you dont want to meet PLEASE do not waste other peoples time,this is how sites like this get bad names
Hi everyone
well i understand what everyone is talking about. but from that we have been on this site we have meet 5 cpls. out of the 5 cpls we landed up having fun with only 2 cpls. and out of those 2 cpls we and goods friends with the 1 cpl.
yes a person does lose faith in meetting up with people and they dont pitch up. but when you do meet the diamond in the rough it makes it all worth it.
Joyrider
Enjoy the ride and keep the faith
Joyrider that is fully the truth! W
For us here there are very few close by to meet up with and have chatted with some, not yet got to meet all those we've been wanting to.
BUT when you've gone thru all those who waste your time, don't answer, don't pitch or simply mess around, the friends you do find are truly worth it all!
Quote by slut4bbc
why do people do this,spend days talking then get around to setting up dates to meet ,then the excuses start,this came up,that happened ,people if you dont want to meet PLEASE do not waste other peoples time,this is how sites like this get bad names
I agree we made arrangements to meet 10 guys ( wife wants to try a gangbang) on friday night at a sex shop video lounge and not one pitched up,do you know how dissapointing that is it really pisses me off and it's guys on this site maybe we should name and shame them
Here we go again spoke to a guy on called Dr-dre who's profile sounded good, made arrangements to meet when we got to Melville where he said we must meet him we waited sent him sms saying we were there and he didn't even have the decency to reply when I phoned it rang then went to voicemail so guess he's one of the bullshiters on this site
Why would you organize to meet some one and get to the time and place level and then not pitch.
I mean we had a very strange experience, which was almost the opposite of this; I offered a brief coffee meet to a couple in our greater area. Really just welcoming them and saying howzit, since they were new to the ec and we were going to be in the area to visit a family member in hospital.
So I mailed them and told them we would be there to have dinner and asked them if they wanted to join us for coffee.
They said yes and that would be nice and what time would we be there.
I responded (we had not spoken of playing or even stopped pictures because we hadn't said we were interested in playing at all - all the correspondence was around, being new to the area and not knowing anyone).
About 30 minutes before we were due to travel to their town, he emails me, despite having my phone number, to tell me that "when we get there we must go to a particular parking lot where we will 'check each other out' and if we all are happy to proceed, we can go to some house that he looks after for play. This was accompanied by the first picture we had seen of them ever. Which did not excite or inspire us at all.
I happen to get this mail to my phone, so I saw it straight away and I was gob smacked.
From, "join us for coffee" to "meet us in a dark parking lot", in 30 mins flat.
What the hell happened?
I responded by email too saying that the unsolicited shift in gear and the assumption that an invitation for coffee had any permission attached to it for immediate play, or for that matter play EVER, made me extremely uncomfortable. We offered coffee ONLY. and now, well now we weren't interested in that either. So thanks but we wouldn't be arranging any meeting at all now.
He responded by saying I had the wrong impression of them.
I ask you with tears in my eyes - where exactly does he think I GOT that impression from? Does our profile clearly state that we are looking for friends? How exactly does one become friends in a deserted parking lot in the dark for 5 minutes?
We had a date with "Dr-Dre" last night and as usual it's meet me at such and such a place then we can go to my place because he says have to be discreet ??? and sms or phone when you there which we did and lo and behold we sms no reply phone no reply he in fact picked up and put down so we knew then this is a bullshiter what a waste of peoples time. so peeps if he wants to get together you ignore him as he is one of these people that just like to mess around
Forum Virgin
I must say I do agree with you ladies/gents. It honestly has started becoming a waste of time, you message someone and they dont even reply or worse you get a reply and its like "read our profile no single males" and it doesnt say that anywhere or worse it does say it but in the "what are you looking for" column they have single males??? On top of all of this I am yet to meet even 1 person from this site, honestly feeling like I should just give up....
Quote by anal_manI am still searching. My chances are very slim. And the response to my mails are either slow or non existent. Maybe some people need to relax on their rules and boundaries a bit. Not saying that there should be no rules. Just be a bit flexible. It might help in expanding your options and maybe the right meetings can take place.
I must say I do agree with you ladies/gents. It honestly has started becoming a waste of time, you message someone and they dont even reply or worse you get a reply and its like "read our profile no single males" and it doesnt say that anywhere or worse it does say it but in the "what are you looking for" column they have single males??? On top of all of this I am yet to meet even 1 person from this site, honestly feeling like I should just give up....
Quote by anal_man
I must say I do agree with you ladies/gents. It honestly has started becoming a waste of time, you message someone and they dont even reply or worse you get a reply and its like "read our profile no single males" and it doesnt say that anywhere or worse it does say it but in the "what are you looking for" column they have single males??? On top of all of this I am yet to meet even 1 person from this site, honestly feeling like I should just give up....
Your nickname scares me because that is one of the things on my "to do but NOT anytime soon" lists
Orgasminator
The profile dr_dre are genuine why not report him, the site need not people like that
