Quote by Newbies8489
We like going to sun eden. We know it's a family oriented place . My question is how do you go about meeting people in the lifestyle or with the same interests. Obviously public play is a no no . But what about just meeting like minded. People. We don't want to just walk around asking each and every person if they in the lifestyle just to make friends.
Good question. Any answers?
We used to have a place in Westville KZN and we built a long drywall about 15m long and 1m off the existing wall. It had 12 GH's drilled in it. At one point in the evening we would invite couples to the room and the men went behind the dry wall and their partners remained in the room. The thing is, the girls didn't know which hole their partner would be standing behind 🤔 . So of the 18 to 20 couples, 12 could choose to do this. The agreement was that only couples could do it. The men would then stick their dicks through the glory hours and the girls would see if they could recognize their dicks... lol it gave the girls a perfect excuse to suck a strangers cock. Most chose to do this. The men didn't know and wouldn't be told which gal sucked their ducks. It was VERY popular with couples.
Quote by Glompy
I'd hate for someone to recognize me onlinr, it's always good to be safe and careful with what you out out there
The danger is people joining SH for the purpose of gathering potential targets for extortion. It's happened before and it sounds like this will make it even easier.
At work today we had an expert come in and give us a talk on facial recognition software and what it's capable off.
Long story short, post face pics here at your own risk. He says the capability is there to search a particular face and ID the owner of said face.
I am no expert but it's pretty scary.
We cannot believe how many single gents send a message saying one word, 'Hi' or 'Hello'...
Little wonder you guys are on this site trying to get laid, this approach won't work here and won't work outs this lifestyle.
Tell us what you ate about, where you are, what turns you on. We don't want to know the size of your penis (yet), or heavy details.
Never show face pics.
The reason is, we know of 2 couples who did, and who were blackmailed by people who joined this SH group just for that reason. They trolled all profiles and befriended those with face pics.
They then found out as much as they could about the couples, including cell numbers. Using the cell numbers via True Caller type apps they identified the couples, did their homework , found them on Facebook and that took them to their jobs, families and friends... that's when the demands started. One couple, where the wife is a CEO of an estate agency Co (national brand), paid R300k to stop the threat of being exposed. It didnt end there, so they got a Private Detective involved, and hence we found out HOW the bastards did it. NEVER, EVER, SHOW YOUR FACES, or send face pics until you have vetted the other party and met them in the flesh at a public place.
Quote by WoestynkindHi, yes we do. We love roadtrips and we start in Durban and make our way to the West Coast, stopping every night in a different town. We place adverts ahead of the time for each town. The number of bullshitters and chancers is mind boggling BUT we do sometimes meet really genuine people, couples and singles. It doesnt always end in naughtiness but at least we all have an adult discussion and a good laugh, and we meet super people.When going on holiday do you plan on playing at your destination? And how many times where you successful? Reason for this most people myself included prefer to play with regular playmates. Going on holiday brings a new angle to the usual play, and I have met stunning friends in this way.
These people tend to become long-term friends, far more so than peeps we meet at a club, for example.
Quote by Hoodwink49Hmmm you see this is exactly the problem. What you are talking about is an affair, even if its just friends with benefits, its definitely Swinging. Swingers dont need to creep about for daytime meets.Im up for some daytime fun, upper highway area, couples, single female, lady playing alone (with /without partner knowing) 😈
Glory Holes are great. Even if at a party, you erect some dry walling in a room, just enough light to see where you are going.. Three or four Glory Holes.. Get sucked off by the ladies, they can reverse up to the holes if they like what is sticking through it. Nsa 100%
Quote by The_Hedonist
I do believe that this is a legitimate concern, but again, is it fair to generalize?
It has nothing to do with generalising, and everything to do with mitigation of risk. We have been in this lifestyle for 25 years and we have friends who experienced interrelationship fallout with both married men who play without consent and married men who play with consent. In the latter situations, the wives had a change of heart because hubby was apparently spending more and more time away from her. So, yeah, we definitely play it safe and steer a wide berth.
Quote by NawtyCat
I found this article on another site and thought I would share it here :
1. You have a sexually transmitted disease. I shouldn't have to say this but if you are currently infected with HIV, Aids, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, crabs or any other form of a sexually transmitted disease you should not attempt to become a swinger. Swinger groups are very tight knit and eventually someone will ask you if you are STD free.
2. You are looking to cheat on a partner, spouse or significant other. This is never reason to start swinging. If you are married and anyone in the swinging community finds out that you are using swinging to cheat you will be black balled from all parties and events.
3. You are trying to get back at a partner, spouse or significant other for cheating on you. Again this is not a good way to get into swinging. What would happen if you decided to forgive this person and then had to explain your own cheating. What if you were wrong about the whole thing to begin with? Swingers don't like to be used any more than anyone else and playing with another couple for the sake of revenge is just using them.
4. You want to convince your wife to do another woman. This has become such a common occurrence that many swinger's groups and parties prohibit men without partners. No matter what you say or do if your wife does not want to have a sexual encounter with another woman or couple, swinging with other people is not going to convince her. Almost every single experienced swinger can tell you stories about people they've met trying to do just this. It never works and it never will. Rent some porn.
5. You are tired of your partner. Everyone gets tired of their partner from time to time. This is not a valid reason for swinging. Swinging is meant to enhance marriages not tear them further apart. If you are both tired of your sex life and are open to having sex with others then by all means give it a try but do your homework first. No swinger wants to get down and dirty with a couple who are going to freak out halfway through and realize they made a mistake.
6. You are trying to "keep" your partner. Swinging will not make your partner stay faithful to you. If you are agreeing to swinging because you think you'll be able to keep your eye on your man/woman and make them happy at the same time, think again. This usually ends in disaster with one or both people in the relationship jealous and resentful. Besides if he or she is determined to cheat on you they are going to find another way to do it without you there.
7. You think your partner is fat, old, ugly, etc. It doesn't matter. That's just hurtful and won't get you anywhere in swinger circles. Get counseling and get over it or get out of it.
8. You are curious about seeing other people have sex. Rent a porn movie for Christ sake. While most swingers enjoy voyeurism many don't want to hook up with another couple just so they can satisfy some lame curiosity.
9. You just want to please your partner. Never go along with swinging just because someone else wants you to. Swinging is a personal decision that has to be made by every individual, individually. Just as a couple needs to decide to swing together, every person has to decide for themselves if swinging is right for them.
10. You think it's an easy way to get laid. You are sadly mistaken. Just because swingers like to have sex with other people doesn't mean they are having sex with everyone they come across. In fact swingers tend to have dating rituals they go through to determine if another person or couple is right for them. They usually have certain criteria you must meet and a pre-planned way of avoiding you if you don't hit the bull's eye.
There you have it, ten good reasons you should leave the swinging to the real swingers. Please do not attempt to use any of these excuses on experienced swingers especially if you really think you may some day actually become a swinger. Your reputation may precede you.
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Quote by Erotic_Nauty
what sometimes irks me about the pics, besides the already mentioned ones, is the background of the picture!
Those taken sitting on the toilet heck no, worst is dirty (or clean still waiting to be folded away) laundry in the back ground! Jeeze at least that a look at the picture and edit maybe before posting...
Quote by NawtyCat
We are honest on our profile and our preferences are listed, not to impress our friends or to offend anyone, but to give folks who may be interested in us an idea of what we are like and whom we are likely to be attracted to.
Race; age; smoking preferences; drinking habits; body type; sexual preferences/taboos; gender preferences; geographical area and hobbies are but a few categories which describe preferences or dislikes.
The idea is that: folk who are not likely to be attractive to us do not waste their time contacting us. Makes it easier for everyone to find their match.
Being "open-minded" should not be confused with "indifference". If one is indifferent then one is likely to have sex with anyone and everyone; however; there are those who have a "type" of person they find attractive and only want to meet and/or play with folk whom they find attractive. This does not make them not open-minded, just discerning.
