Sexlightened
I found this article on another site and thought I would share it here :
1. You have a sexually transmitted disease. I shouldn't have to say this but if you are currently infected with HIV, Aids, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, crabs or any other form of a sexually transmitted disease you should not attempt to become a swinger. Swinger groups are very tight knit and eventually someone will ask you if you are STD free.
2. You are looking to cheat on a partner, spouse or significant other. This is never reason to start swinging. If you are married and anyone in the swinging community finds out that you are using swinging to cheat you will be black balled from all parties and events.
3. You are trying to get back at a partner, spouse or significant other for cheating on you. Again this is not a good way to get into swinging. What would happen if you decided to forgive this person and then had to explain your own cheating. What if you were wrong about the whole thing to begin with? Swingers don't like to be used any more than anyone else and playing with another couple for the sake of revenge is just using them.
4. You want to convince your wife to do another woman. This has become such a common occurrence that many swinger's groups and parties prohibit men without partners. No matter what you say or do if your wife does not want to have a sexual encounter with another woman or couple, swinging with other people is not going to convince her. Almost every single experienced swinger can tell you stories about people they've met trying to do just this. It never works and it never will. Rent some porn.
5. You are tired of your partner. Everyone gets tired of their partner from time to time. This is not a valid reason for swinging. Swinging is meant to enhance marriages not tear them further apart. If you are both tired of your sex life and are open to having sex with others then by all means give it a try but do your homework first. No swinger wants to get down and dirty with a couple who are going to freak out halfway through and realize they made a mistake.
6. You are trying to "keep" your partner. Swinging will not make your partner stay faithful to you. If you are agreeing to swinging because you think you'll be able to keep your eye on your man/woman and make them happy at the same time, think again. This usually ends in disaster with one or both people in the relationship jealous and resentful. Besides if he or she is determined to cheat on you they are going to find another way to do it without you there.
7. You think your partner is fat, old, ugly, etc. It doesn't matter. That's just hurtful and won't get you anywhere in swinger circles. Get counseling and get over it or get out of it.
8. You are curious about seeing other people have sex. Rent a porn movie for Christ sake. While most swingers enjoy voyeurism many don't want to hook up with another couple just so they can satisfy some lame curiosity.
9. You just want to please your partner. Never go along with swinging just because someone else wants you to. Swinging is a personal decision that has to be made by every individual, individually. Just as a couple needs to decide to swing together, every person has to decide for themselves if swinging is right for them.
10. You think it's an easy way to get laid. You are sadly mistaken. Just because swingers like to have sex with other people doesn't mean they are having sex with everyone they come across. In fact swingers tend to have dating rituals they go through to determine if another person or couple is right for them. They usually have certain criteria you must meet and a pre-planned way of avoiding you if you don't hit the bull's eye.
There you have it, ten good reasons you should leave the swinging to the real swingers. Please do not attempt to use any of these excuses on experienced swingers especially if you really think you may some day actually become a swinger. Your reputation may precede you.
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