Being bored is really NOT nice...being housebound neither. Reading is okay.....being a couch potato  is okay for a few days.... eating junk food, just going so far.....binge watching TV series's, just soooo much....

Okay, still being a medically high risk in our current Covit19 situation is just NOT kosher. So We are still mostly isolated.
So sleeping is one thing I am also tired of....but lying awake last night I thought back to my *playing* days.
And NOPE nothing *normal* as you might presume...but think Kinky and you are on the right tract.
All of my kinky toys except some of the older CP toys are now all gone, with it, that useless cock suction contraption (penis pump)I once bought, thinking it will give me hours of joy tormenting some guys cock.
Well that was NOT the case.....useless thing and white elephant at the end of the day.
But I did try many things with it...
Used it to..
Pump smallish titties and larger nipples. which did worked fine to an extent.
Pump the clit of a few ladies..also okay-ish...it is not the ideal pussy pump.
Pumped a few pussy lips...also not ideal but okay-ish.

Now who is brave enough to tell us whom used a Penis pump with success?
And if any ladies tried a Pussy&Nipple pump and what were/are the results?

Now for the ladies I used to make my own nipple pumps  with 50ml. syringes.   
I also obtained a nice electrical breast pump to play with nipples...male or female....stimulated the nipples nicely.
I never bought a pussy pump though...a 50ml syringe worked nicely on a ladies clit as well.

Okay talking about toys...who made some nice ICE dildo`s to play with?
Some Ice sounds??
I also tried using some cupping cups to sensitize nipples and clits ...also not ideal...but I have to say syringes worked better for me.
Please tell me there are some kinky guys with me here..

@ mosquito   So did you follow the gents advice? And how did it work for you? 

I googled Polyamory South Africa and got 2 hits...please do the same. You will also find a Facebook page of Polyamory. I cannot really mention a person them selves but on another Swinger site there was a group leader who frequently posted meet and greets here in Cpt and JHB and Durban. I cannot find him here on site though. BUT I did find him on one of the pages I googled. Happy hunting and all the best.

@59seeman I am sure you can tell couples ladies or gents you liked their photo, No need for more. Most people posting photo`s would like to know if it is revered or not. Should someone take offence, it is really on them and not you specially if it is only a *like* with no comment. 

You might find more options if you maybe join a Polyamory group. and Put the above under/in the advertisements.

@ mosquito    Wow this is an author  that I thought to be an female...and *whadda* I know...he is male.... sorry I did not ever read any of his book(s) and it being written in the 1970`s makes it difficult to obtain (on kindle that is)

The one feed back I read about this book while googling for it...says it is really insightful...maybe you can give your own opinion mosquito??

@ Fun4two  Eeeww..... really!!!! Oh well we will always have people who do not think like us...SAFE...and Sane....USE protection people...STD`s can happen to anyone. You really DO NOT know who is the Other party`s partners when they are not with you....

@ Voyer1105   Oh man, this made me laugh...sand can really put an end to all the fun!!!

Oh, I like  4nakedfun`s answer!!!!!!!!

In my opinion...there are so many ways of kissing... to really kiss someone is really more intimate than one realize...and I for one who loves kissing, is very particular whom I really kissed and that is only a handful of people really.

I liked to see more sensual photos that triggers your imagination than the slam bang bam in your face genital photos that is so many of....

I am not a prude but ladies to be realistic our pussies are NOT beautiful, just go look and see in your mirror, it is not something to really enjoy looking at, to view a photo where the lady opens all that little nicks and crannies and with cum dripping out...ermm sorry NOT for me.  Now to give someone a glimps of your pubic area.... a nice closed pussy nicely shaven with something like a feather, some pearls across, or your beautifull LONG red nails... just resting on top of your pussy   NOW that I would find erotic and sensual.... now I am NOT talking about boobs...THEY are a big turn on for me.....

As for men...well I also look at nice penises, although I am more a testicle kinda lady.... I can drool over them.... but to take a photo over a toilet, or in a mirror...rather pose with just the zip and button of your pants open your pants just sliding down....giving us ladies just drooling imaginative things to look forward to...NOW that is NICE and sexy.

BUT hey. What do I know...I am old and ugly.....and can only wish to be young and sexy as some of these ladies on SH.

@ lizaan   I can just imagine that those love confessions is saucy....and nice to know it is hubby enjoying the reading.

@ Shaybytheway   I myself have found that watching porn becomes really boring.....as most of the acting is just that...acting...and most is done REALLY poorly with no story line. Nope reading remains tops for me. I enjoy some postings in the story section, not all of them, some people really should invest in a spell checker. Or write in the language they are comfortable with.

Saying this with my tongue in my cheek.....ass tired and tummy squeamish from all the high and lows  of soaring around swinging.......how about just playing on the see-saw....just up and down motions without the turmoil of soaring...

Wow!!!  Love that this Fora is on-going.....Love about reading each persons experiences.

Well Riley, where was your own strange place??

I would not say my own was strange as such, just unusual at the time.....I am sure many has done it before me and surely many afterwards as well. Was on the back of a motorcycle...I have heard from a few people of enjoying the same on horseback while riding...

I will not be able to pin point a specific time and person I enjoyed oral with... each one was really enjoyable and each has it`s own positive and negative merits. 

As for *tips or technique*well we ladies have posted quite a few tips over time....from US female objective that is... just scroll back a bit...How about the men giving some written advice??

I learned how to do a nice cunnilingus and BJ`s  by what my partners enjoyed...and of course  to really be a fundi on a Lingam and Yoni massages also helps to give your partner great stimulation... and great orgasms.

Hi Klaus...  I am not active nor part of a swinging couple. I am not sure you would like me to comment here.  BUT I have to tell you I never browse profiles.  BUT just sometimes, someone will mail me asking why I BROWSED their profile if I was not interested  in meeting nor active...It really surprised me after it happening a few times.  I then noticed that if I accidentally just high lighted a persons name  while reading their comment here in the Fora they apparently will get a notice saying I *Browsed* their profile.  I am sure it will also happen when someone  looks at the photo`s on display.

Talking about reading I started very early in life to enjoy reading and it never decreased for me at all.  I read all the Saartjie +Trompie + Die Uile,  heck if there were more I just cannot remember their names  I know I was totally in heaven when I discovered Enid Blyton books in my youth.   I also have to be really honest to say I DO NOT really enjoy reading Afrikaans fiction, although I am Afrikaans speaking. I also have to admit to really binge on certain topics and writers and genre just to switch to something else completely different after a time. BUT erotica stayed the same...I most certainly will always read erotica.

What was your very very first book you ever read as a adult??  Mine was Exodus by Leon Uris  My very first erotica .... man, I can for the love of me NOT remember who the writer or what the title was,  I was  around 13 years old and I saw the book in my parents room...I JUST had to read it, on the sly....I know I masturbated a LOT.....while reading THAT book!!!!!

@ swingfantasy  I agree that our minds are the biggest sexual organ...at least my mind is not on strike like *me old genitals*...LMAO

@ Whatyouwant   It is lovely to know there are others like me.....

@ Oceantramps  Thanks for participating in the fora.  I think people do not realize the work it is to really sit and write something for someone else to enjoy.  I remember once before I became very active on the sexual sites  I was mailing a naughty*friend* of mine a few risque and really really naughty emails....JUST to have someone STRANGE mail me back telling me he enjoyed reading these mails...BUT he is NOT my friend...I was flabbergasted...he had the same email as my friend...JUST for me to notice I forgone a damn (. dot) in my friends email address.  I also had a few online submissive`s.  People I just cannot tell you the WORK it takes to keep such a online and far distance D/s relationship....The work it takes to give one such sub. directions...it is really HARD work if done correctly.

@ Freshman  I am sure the mods and the site cannot really complain if Oceantramps sent you the details via private mail. As it is then NOT advertising for another site at all.  I am sure the mod. Nish78 will correct me if I am wrong.

Lock Down is a great pain in our asses, but to stay healthy and safe we have to do it. Those who felt if we were on a bonus holiday surely does NOT feel like that anymore.

Those of us who used their employers for a way to come browse SH may/is be absent, the other profiles who are ACTIVE and seeking active sexual partners well....We all KNOW that is not allowed right now...and who knows when sexual activity may start once again.....And lastly BUT most certainly not the least...couples might already have boinked so much and used the cams option to reach other couples and share, that they are sorta bored right now (just saying that with my tongue in my cheek)
We already asked what each of us are keeping ourselves busy right now...those who are Lucky or unlucky in many cases that do not have to go to work right now.

I LOVE, JUST LOVE reading....what you guys might ask...well I read, as many might say *common shit* Since I bought my kindle and stopped buying books due to space to keep my books, I found that Kindle sorta lied about..that the Kindle battery keeps for 5 days...YEAH...tell that lie to people who only read a FEW pages at a time....sure the battery might last 5 days before recharge is needed, MY kindle wants recharge every DAY...and NOPE it is not due to a battery change needed...it is the mass of books I read daily....Between reading, I do everything a person needs to do in their home....but I read about 3 to 4 books daily, sometimes 5 depending on the length of the novel. And NOT only while on lock down..nope, this is daily, since my retirement. And yeah I make time to do some hobby work...I do some wire wrapping and make jewelry... My current master pieces are Bead Rosaries. Glass beads/Lava beads and Tiger Eye beads and all wire links and clasps  are done by hand..So yeah that takes time.... but are real beauties when finished. 
Enough of that rambling....

I want to ASK you guys,  Who reads?????   NOT just us females.. but do you men READ?? What do you read?? and who is BRAVE enough to say they read EROTICA?????
I for one read erotica....and specially gay erotica!!!  
Erotica..... Firstly, it’s written and read by women more than men. Unfortunately,  erotica tends to be regarded as frivolous. And anything  that aims towards women, has the  protagonist risks being labelled  as *chick lit*.
BUT has anyone ever thought THAT reading EROTICA is so much more....,.and has MANY uses???? I know  that erotica  content, namely sex, is also still treated as something shameful, dirty, secretive, or something to be embarrassed about. This is a damn shame, a lot of erotica is wonderful,  sexual and arousing.. thus arousal  and masturbation  is also important. Writing good erotica is hard work and requires a lot of skill.  So why does people feel ashamed to say they LIKE reading erotica???

MOST people will find that 

It’s not *cool* to admit you read and enjoy erotica  BUT although E.L. James might have given the vanilla folks a view of BDSM (and we who has knowledge of BDSM found the books (3) a waste of our time.  The market on erotica has OVER RUN (more exploded open) with books with BDSM as a theme....thus people started to explore kink more.

The positiveness of reading erotica 

It can be a couple`s thing......sorta like a erotica book club at night when the kiddies are asleep...
Read it together...read it aloud to your better half..... talk about what made you aroused...... make the sexy scene you have read a reality by recreating it...........it can even help you with your masturbation fantasies.....it is also a safe way to explore things you never thought to do or experience. Or even make you brave enough to ask your spouse to do to you.....

Just saying.

@Longwood... I know a few YOUNG sexy ladies who has nice jiggly boobies,so in my reality it is not just mature boobs that jiggle...in fact all boobies jiggle during sex, except those LUCKY ladies with just a little hand full of breast, although thrust hard enough and they will also give a little jiggle...and of course the ladies with enhanced breast...those really does not jiggle to much.... heck,  I have had men who`s boobies jiggles when pegged!!! Just saying....

LAUGHING so hard right now....guys lets say ladies with smaller mature boobs is sexy.....us WAY WAY larger ladies saggy flopping around boobs is really a disaster to behold....thank goodness for being asexual nowadays....

Trolling the Fora`s as per usual...... NOTHING exciting..sigh.....

Pizza  guys...NOPE not for me...... far to risky. Fantasy is fine...reality sucks...

Shopping for ALL those things I am NOT allowed to buy right now!!!  (I already gave all my alcohol stock that we never use, to our neighbor).....BUY my lovey her cigarettes in BULK so she does not have to ration herself like she has to do right now, with out having to pay triple cost behind closed doors....The damn people taking advantage of a bad situation and make themselves money...gnfff.....( the extra time out made her short on her already enough cigarettes for the first lock down time scheduled)

Then go and GAMBLE.......as that is really my one vice.......

I think most couples are already sexed out .......with all the leisure time on their hands right now.....LMAO....poor guys with kiddies, will be grate full for some playtime, I am sure.....

Masturbating NOPE....  but driving from KPA to JHB many years ago (I went to visit my folks) I drove TOPLESS to get a suntan...oh yes, and many many sexual interludes while driving...MOSTLY giving.....BUT then those years there weren`t that many  speed cameras nor cell phones......

Now on that note...who will give us all the sexual positions you guys experienced while driving???  BUT please remember that  These positions are unsafe at any speed. I am not and can't advocate engaging in sex acts while driving.

Oral...but that always was uncomfortable due to the gearshift console.

Sitting on the drivers lap humping him....I was more flexible and limber in those years....and once we nearly crashed due to one person being a little on the short side....and it is also difficult if the gent is sorta  NOT large....down there....

The lady in my life experienced a nice finger job...

On motorcycles...hand jobs was more common...and boob jobs for ladies .. full on sex  only when the bike was stationary.

Eish I see the POSTER of this Fora is *gone*....  I so wanted to ask if I was a muscle lady If I could join in a wank session...girls can wank!!!  oh yes, we can!!!

LMAO  No one needs to know my muscles is UNDER layers of wobbly fat...and my wanking tool might not be able to squirt (well I know you do get new ones that does squirt, I am just not buying one)....as it is made of rubber.....  BUT I so would have loved to watch and perv the squirters....sigh...sigh...

@ speedybxxx   You ask what you are supposed to do when an ill-matched couple contacts you... 

I know what I would do, if in your shoes... which I cannot, due to me being white or pink as someone once told me and of course  I do not have the right equipment...  wellllllllllllllllll  thinking of it..I do have some equipment just not large enough, (it is in hiding lately and in disuse)   or it is made of rubber....... sherbet also not the right colour...also in disuse.....

Anyway,  I would take a NICE colourfull photo of said equipment, covered up in a nice tight whitey underpants show casting your legs and tummy, asking them if they are colour blind...cause if you read right, they are so NOT LOOKING for that colour....I really think that will shame them.

AT least you are READING the written profiles of said profiles, which most  people do not do....

I have to smile at all the replies here, I especially loved  charliesgirl  reply.....what a nice double edge reply that is!

I do agree with the most people here, there are such a lot of people putting up entitled *airs* that to even think of engaging them in play makes me tired. Thank goodness my playing days are over....

I never had to *escape* any party or club. I just leave when I want to, No need to explain yourself to anyone when you leave. Just say NO THANK YOU, when you need to say that, or report any *issues* to the host of a party if there is any.

@ SwingerPTA  OH MY WORD....I know that the danger of roofies (spiked drinks) happens at clubs but in a couples HOME?????  THAT is so for the police to investigate!!!!!! I would have left and reported them so fast, even if It was all over social media in minutes. 

That is why I always try and tell *newbies* to try and get mentors for the first few times. And we all KNOW by now to ask for closed bottles of water or beer or tinned drinks,  well as for wine...just decline untill you feel safe enough. If anything taste funny do not drink it or eat it.