Entitled titles

I get that this topic might ruffle a few feathers... I'm kinda hoping it does. But seeing as though this specific group of swingers are SO special, they deserve the extra attention. And I know for a fact some others feel the same.

I'm speaking of course of the Professionals, the Exclusive and the Upmarket couples. The special group who seems to think these titles, their income and socio-economic status earns them some deluded degree of awe.

Professionals... I kinda get. Kinda. It's a weird flex to proclaim you have a job, but I get it. Some might see this as a way to show you have a steady income, you have a place and can host etc. Still...weird flex to proclaim this on a swinger site with a free profile...but ok. You do you, booboo.

The Executive couples. Aah...my fave. Executive meaning having power, some form of senior managerial responsibility, I presume? These couples are almost always looking for the same...most likely luxury sedan owners, eating Woolies only in posh gated complexes.

And then we have the Upmarket couples. Same as the above, but with bigger paychecks and therefore more targeted to the expensive and affluent. Apparently. 

So let me get this straight... Do these couples REALLY think what you drive, how much they make, and where they stay will automatically push them into a bracket that ensures better play dates? Or more play dates?
We have had personal experience with a couple like this...sadly. And the sex (no shocker here) was terrible. Seems money can't fix being awkward and a terrible fuck. 

To summarise...we're a middle class couple. We work our asses off to live comfortably. We choose play mates based on honesty, experience, personality and sexual attraction. 
It's sad to see in that even in swinging we have people with a sense of entitlement who thinks something as generic as your income will define you or your experiences. You just sound like a pompous douche bud. 

You are not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You are not your fucking khakis. You are all singing, all dancing crap of the world.

OH I love it ..... 

Yes I 100% agree.  I dont have anything against wealthy people,  or successful people.  But upidy folk that want to advertise their wealth and success? .... now that drives me crazy as well. 

I would rather shower a hobo and ride him till morning,  just to see his grateful smile .... than try and impress some upidy little shit that is bad in the sack more often than not . 

Thanks @sexysam69...it needed to be said 😊

Well said @localcouple1234, must agree with @sexysam69,  I would rather entertain the plain Jane and  see how she enjoys the body worship than try and impress the uperty class that don’t appreciate anything anymore 

there are all levels in this world ..and i suppose by saying you upmarket ect you want to portray your self into a certain group...and i certainly dont have any problem with it..if thats where you want to be so be it.....if you are are class conscious  you can always say where you live hahahahahah....im always amused when  people say they are hard working and have very little free time....and my real fav is when they say they classy ...if you  have to say it then you are really not

but as a side note localcouple1234 feel you kinda let yourselves down when you felt the need to use expletives in your last paragraph ..you spoiled a good post

@haveusbc...I assumed most people would get the quote I ended with. My bad, should've tagged the source. Which is a Tyler Durden quote from Fight Club, by the way. But...just curious...what spoiled the post? The 2 "bad" words? 

oh no ... gosh darnit  you used a bad word .... lmao 

I have always felt that this lifestyle breaks social barriers.  Because it breaks social norms . Meeting and interacting with people on different levels is interesting,  and mostly we have found that those with less .... mostly have more to offer. Being middleclass or poor isn't caused by a virus,  so you cant catch poverty from banging the mere mortals ....

LOL, We feel the same way. A couple of years ago we went to an "Upmarket" Swingers club, I'm not going to mention the name Because that wouldn't be (Fair~Ou's)

What a load of Kak! The parking lot was filled with BMW's, Mercs, Ferraris etc Inside was filled with people that looked like Barbie & Ken Dolls but with more plastic in them.

It was so boring. Almost nobody actually played, they spent more time looking at themselves in the mirror.

We played with 2 couples that night, And the sex.... Was horrible! It's the first time and hopefully the last, that I had to fake an Orgasm (it's a lot harder to pull off as a guy)

Just because you are paying R200 for a drink that only costs R30 everywhere else does not make you upmarket (it makes you an idiot)

We human and all have opinions/preferences etc etc.  At the end of the day like attracts like, if there is judgement in that, then so be it. it's human nature.    My ethos, "Treat others and you wish to be treated".

:doh: Let me check if my profile comes across as self absorbed...

true story : 

We once met a couple and they invited us home. They lived in a flat and their car was one cable tie and a piece of gum away from falling apart 

They were young early 20's and did not have much, I mean the apartment was like the stuff you would take camping,  only less . 

But they were amazing people, the apartment was clean and tidy and they made us feel like old friends . And then the sex .... was mind blowing.  They didn't have a tv so I guess the had a lot of time for practice because both of the new exactly what to do and how.  One of our top ten experiences.

On the other hand,  once went to some upidy folk as well , and we had a great time talking,  good conversation and some really good booze . But the lady was very disconnected during sex , I started doubting my own ability,  my hubby didn't even go there he just watched. The guy did have his moments but nothing special just normal good sex. So although it's not a horror story , experience has led me to believe that , sex really is just sex. And when we are all naked , what you have wouldn't help you ( unless you have a monster cock ..  that will help ). But ability is not measured in economic status.  Its measured by the smile on her face 

*clapping*

I have to be honest, it's nice to see the regular posters getting what I'm saying with my profanity riddled post and sharing experiences.

We saw first hand with helping to host and moderate parties the laid back, "blue collar" crowd is the crowd that has the most fun. I guess it's easier if you don't spend the night trying to impress people. Lol...we've even heard comments like we are not approachable because of our tats and body mods. 

Which is fair, but we're the couple who'll be into that thing you like. Nudge nudge, wink wink. 😜

I will be perfectly honest here, I had never given it a thought. That was until I read this of course.

I consider my self average when it comes to life style. I have a job and I have bills. I have a house and a home loan. I am also healthy and go to the doc when Dr. Google gets it wrong.

I treat others the way I would like to be treated. I wake up ever day, happy with who I am and if there are those out there who don't like what they see, feel free to move on.

I like people for WHO they are and not WHAT they are.

That said I had better get back to work.

Wow,the best topic I have read on the forum,so far,who are they to judge themselves as up market etc,never judge another just look in the mirror nice one guys

Quote by charliesgirl
“...one even has a corner in a very upmarket part of town where she services a lot of executives...”

 HAHAHAHA...

the way I look at it, we are all equals on the same level. Here to have fun and explore our sexuality. 

Quote by localcouple1234
@haveusbc...I assumed most people would get the quote I ended with. My bad, should've tagged the source. Which is a Tyler Durden quote from Fight Club, by the way. But...just curious...what spoiled the post? The 2 "bad" words? 

 i think you answer sums up your post....a quote from fight club sigh sigh...... 

@haveusbc...if you don't get it, you don't get it. SIGH.

people here are trying to pretend that they are not class conscious but in reality we all are...consider where you eat when you go out...Wimpy? Mac Donalds? Spur? Mug and Bean? Tasha's?.....lol and thats only for a coffee....

Quote by haveusbc
people here are trying to pretend that they are not class conscious but in reality we all are...consider where you eat when you go out...Wimpy? Mac Donalds? Spur? Mug and Bean? Tasha's?.....lol and thats only for a coffee....

@haveusbc...your comparisons and proclaiming everyone is class conscious just validates my original post.

Wimpy makes a kick ass cheeseburger, Spur has decent breakfasts and McDonalds stepped up in the chai latte department. So why choose, or limit yourself to one place? My original observation was and still is this...

If you only want to eat at Mugg and Bean with other Mugg and Bean patrons who are proud to overpay for a toasted samie...cool. But proclaiming you will ONLY eat there, and that someone who prefers Wimpy isn't worthy enough  to eat with you...yeah, that's a less than classy move.

As far as your "everyone is class consious" comment goes...did you not pick up on the general consensus in the replies? It's 2020...the time for arrogant, classist entitlement is done.

Anyhoot...just look at that. 3 Paragraphs and not one bad word, gosh darnit. 😋

and she jumps is again ....lol

Limited views leads to limited experiences. I don't like dry white wine,  I know this because I tried it . 

Think about it , every experience adds value to your experience somehow. Even if it teaches you not to go there again. We all have our comfort zone,  and most prefer playing in their bubble. But making that bubble too small limits you and then you'll get bored . Those that step outside that boundaries find lots of fun adventures. 

I have posted something similar before " open minded limitations". 

Anyone that has tested their limits,  and broken through their prejudices,  has been better for it 

Hugs and sloppy wet kisses 

Sam 

lol, I love coffee......lots of milk, no sugar please, did I mention lots of milk.  The full cream kind, don't come with that fat free crap.  Thank you.  Having said that, I really do love my coffee but don't offer me expresso or filter coffee, it's way too strong for me, so its a pass.  

Ah, so what's the point they ask!  It really is a personal preference just like everyone else has a personal preference.  If we all wanted the same things, consider how boring that would be.  Life is about diversity and choices, so live and let live.  

Can I have another cup of coffee please.......

I need a really cool "roll on floor hand clap" emoji...as being from an older "age group" learning text short hand ab emoji's have found some lacking. (Okey also Afr so please don't shoot my spelling)

For me as a what I feel am a "bbw" sometimes get sad when see post " only if you take care off you're body".... Like I do take care of myself but yes I do have some more kilo's than others. Heck I am a working mom of 2, devoted wife, when the blooming hell must I get time to spend hours in the gym let alone the cash for it as I rather spend that extra rands on my eldest ballet class or youngest Hip hop fun? 

Which is why I usually open up my "real me" folder to any of the horney peeps (and yes peeps, not just single males) to show you. And if you don't like those extra roll...don't bother. Then we won't even try to carry on and find out about the different social / $ wise class difference that just might exist.

It will be your loss not finding out about new friends in this lifestyle, with or even with out the sex. (I do have a gent who we do not play with but has had very good success with using my advice 😂)

SO if any one does not like you for your "looks, social standing, economical situation, race, gender, what ever" it is there loss. You will find those who become your life time friends in this lifestyle, with or even with out sex. 

Bravo. Well said The Tanners 

I have to smile at all the replies here, I especially loved  charliesgirl  reply.....what a nice double edge reply that is!

I do agree with the most people here, there are such a lot of people putting up entitled *airs* that to even think of engaging them in play makes me tired. Thank goodness my playing days are over....

Quote by localcouple1234
I have to be honest, it's nice to see the regular posters getting what I'm saying with my profanity riddled post and sharing experiences.
We saw first hand with helping to host and moderate parties the laid back, "blue collar" crowd is the crowd that has the most fun. I guess it's easier if you don't spend the night trying to impress people. Lol...we've even heard comments like we are not approachable because of our tats and body mods. 
Which is fair, but we're the couple who'll be into that thing you like. Nudge nudge, wink wink. 😜

 Your tats were literally the first thing I saw. 

The best of all is being a single male in this lifestyle, when you get invited over to the fancy smancy couples, I had the pleasure of going to such an occasion. 

The wife, fit as a fiddle... Expected me to come in, drop my jocks and slam her pussy straight up there and then. 

I literally sat down amd started talking. Nothings were arranged beforehand, she told me this after a few drinks and actual normal conversation. 

Eventualy it came down to her giving me q blowjob, she asked me am I closr to cumming, and I said no, I have a lot of endurance unfortunately, boom playdate over. 

She were so pissed off she took it serious and though I were insulting her skill, she got up and left, the bloke were like you need to leave, what a asshole! 

I promised myself never again, I would much rather have sex with a bottle of Tobasco sauce than being looked down on. 

ouch...

Being one of those profiles with those words on them makes me feel a bit like a nose here... rather picked on (not really no)

I can’t say I put those words on my profile in the hope that rich people contact us, personally it’s not the car or wallet that gets us playing but rather the connection.

If we like you and want to play then honey the caviar and champagne is served on me.

Champagne and caviar is the perfect setting for a play!