Very nice article. When I was married, we used to swing for many years and I can relate to all those pros and cons.
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caperock1
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious White/Caucasian Male, 62
0 km · Cape Town
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Everyone here has their own definition of what swinging is, and how they interpret it.
You have your own idea on what and how you would like to go forward.
Generally speaking people on this site are more sexually liberated and tolerant of deviant practices lol......
So it should be easier to find that excitement you looking for.....
Alas it is not so, as much as we are liberated, we find many obstacles in our path....
The end result in many meetings or parties is to partake in carnal pleasures of which many can just dream about.... or maybe have not even thought of lol.
So bearing that in mind, people take extra precautions to meeting, resulting in many failed meetings, no shows........
Some interpret swinging as a one way ticket to sex at every meet, others form deep friendships and with the development of friendship, sex is not high on the agenda but rather their value on friendships.
You have formed a fantasy for yourself and what you would like to do, admittedly it should be easier to come right on this site than a dating site, it remains to be seen....
Stick to your guns, the right man will contact you
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Quote by Mike_Pta
Well you all know I love diving and I'm a qualified divemaster.
I paint and sing ;) and right now I'm trying to sew costumes for a medieval feast.
I'm having fun doing it.
Ooh Cosplay, that's cool. I'm playing a trip to an army surplus store to look for something to use on my next outfit. I'm gonna be Aiden Pearce rAge this year, so I also have some sewing in my future.
Beat you guys to it also
White and Needy
Fingers crossed playcouple don't spoil my other Needy hobbies.
Now see what you gone and done, you got me side tracked lol..... White and Needy
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Quote by Pussinboots1
Totally !!!!! and one could look so *dressed* and still be totally naked!!!
Listen, as previously mentioned, I tried me hand at face painting and it was a disaster, neva mind the rest of the body.......... do I have a volunteer to help me out................
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Quote by Pussinboots1
@ KC_ Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand What did you wear underneath????? AAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand did you oil up some skin to have a Wet look???
@ caperock1 It is Sexy boots I know, I want a pair just like it!!!!!! BUT you never told me what you else your outfit consisted off...and why in the WORLD was your fishnets in rags?? Fighting off to many greedy hands???
ANDdddddddddddd *WHAT* was flapping in the wind????
Ummmm, thinks the 'extra package' helped a lot in destroying the stockings lol, and trying to wrap the extension up with the knickers I was wearing resulted in a fairly rapid unwind........... creating that very breeze and flapping you referring to.........
Looking down at what was there and seeing the bits squeezing out sideways from the knickers, now turned into a 'thong' of note all twisted and tortured.......... I swear it must have been a vision of a squat toad wanting to pounce
Having not much time to prepare and not being too familiar with the character I was trying to emulate..... I dressed up, padded bra (the socks were clean ok), found a satin black and red teddy that just fit, garters, fishnet stockings, high heels (my word, how you ladies can balance and wear those all day I have no idea..... just as well I could hold onto the walls for balance), wore a multicolored wig, tried my hand at applying makeup...... failed miserably and in the process discovered that the eye makeup makes me all teary eyed...... fortunately one of the ladies came to my rescue.
And guys.......... the ladies really Dooooo have to wait for the nail polish to dry properly, by the third attempt I realized that once painted, you must wait and Noooooooooo...... not relax..... but stress about your nails till the polish is well dry.
Still the eve was a lot of fun.........
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ABout a year ago, I got all dolled up as Dr. Frank N. Furter....... Fishnets, heels, makeup the works lol
The fishnets got destroyed before the night ended.... Had bits hanging and battled to get them tucked in.... Looked real funny lol
Had a lot of fun tho, eve turned out great....
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Quote by LeeEC
I think the key is for me - I'm not part of the education system, I'm a volunteer, a mom and a coach.
When my stepson Chris (21yrs now) was still at school he would often come to me for advice, after a while he started coming to me about helping his friends at school. When I saw my stepdaughter (16yrs) and her friends struggling with the same sorts of issues and we started talking about them at home and Chris said something about kids needing a neutral non-judgekental party to talk to about life issues, it gave me the idea to try creating something like my program in the schools.
So I approached my old high school and volunteered to do it, they were simply delighted with the idea, an it's been a HUGE hit.
I just recently put a proposal to do something similar for another local school (all boys)!
South Africa needs more of you, your a Star
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I agree with a lot of what has been said here on this point.
I drive school kids (school bus) daily to and from their homes.....
What an eye opener.......... I was shocked at the level of sex knowledge these kids have, the way they graphically describe the way various sex acts happen.......
The kids taunt each other like all kids do.... It starts off like this............
'Your mom is fat..... no your mom is fatter' .... and so it progresses to 'your mom is a lesbian.... no your mom is a lesbian that kisses another girls private parts with her tongue' Crties
And so it escalates to 'moffies' and what act the other kids dad does, like....he will put his tollie deeeep into another man's hol.......
To cut a good 2 to 3 min short of mind blowing sex education, the end result is a small fist/slapping/biting fight.
Hey and many references to boyfriend and girlfriend and what will happen to them when they are bigger, or what they will be doing, kissing, bj's, and it can go on. All insulting by the way..........
At this age for these kids any (sexual) physical interaction is a no no, and cause for ridicule and insult amongst their peers.
They know that their older brother / sister and adults are doing these acts, but they not sure why, just that if you like the other person then you can do sex.....
They STILL not sure how babies are made and how babies are born......... but they know what lesbians and moffies do.....
When they make reference to any type of sexual act, it is used as a means of taunting and insulting others.
Make no bones about what the level of sex knowledge these kids have...........
You may be asking, What age kids are we talking about here......... These are Gr1 to Gr5 kids.
From what background we talking about............ well, families that can afford to send their kids to good schools, can afford to pay for private transport for their kids, can afford to give their kids smart phones, can afford to live in good homes.
So do I let this ride and keep quiet, nothing much I can do but tell them to stop and talk about something else.
As LeeEC says Quote "First, the assumption that the kids only know what you tell them is hysterical. They have fringing BlackBerry and smart phones with INTERNET on them guys! They know more about sex than YOU do."
These kids talk about their sisters, friends going for abortions or having babies is old news for them. They are being raised in a culture of acceptance of abortion as being a fact of life (sick), and that you can get it anytime.
Some of the young girls talk of throwing their babies down the toilet because they don't want babies..(7yr old girl).
Quote again LeeEC "The real key is that they lack the emotional maturity and life experience to sort fact from fiction."
There is no law/religious/policy rule that will change this attitude. It must begin at home, if not, then at school (which is not quite as good)
If there were more of LeeEC in the education dept to try and put the kids on the right track.........
I get the feeling that they are not being taught the true value of love and family togetherness. Sad....
Sad that so many children of today know so much about something they know so little.......
Sad that so many children have such low disregard of life in pregnancy.
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Quote by Pussinboots1
@ undercoverlover... You made me smile...
@ caperock1 .... I so DO have pics of waxed covered human balls...and I do have plenty of wax balls as well LMAO...
I need your balls to do some waxing on though...when are you coming over HUH , HUH???When is the school holidays starting????? We sorta do have a play date for then.....
Oh S*&^, the schools are in exams now...... D-day looms ever closer now.......... not sure if I must start taking pain killers now or wait
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Quote by joyrider
"I stopped to buy something at a shopping mall on my way there,and when I reversed , I slammed into a wall, I was not hurt but my poor little car was severely bumped and tail lights all over the place."
Now I have just quoted PIB with what she said. And here it goes to show WOMEN can not drive
Joyrider:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
PIB1 car looks nice, she has a good panel beater............. eish, :scared: ducks from a klap.....now my turn for a spanking
:boxing::giveup:
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I love kissing, possibly more than the act of sex itself, I find it so intimate. When I kiss you I am not doing anything else. You're my whole universe..and the moment is eternal because I don't have any plans and am not going anywhere. Just kissing you...it's overwhelming.
A couple of years ago I joined the ranks of the toothless ones....
I would love to be able to kiss again.....
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Quote by LeeandDee
What does it really mean when people say they are upmarket and they only play with other upmarket people? what difference does it make?
Ok so lets put this in the Gauteng perspective.........
You cannot contact Sandton based profiles....... more upmarket than Boksburg
You can contact Germiston profiles....... but be careful of down market suburbs..... they less upmarket than Boksburg
Bedfordview a nono..... Too upmarket for Germiston
Brakpan cannot contact you....... Germiston too upmarket
ALberton should be fine....... leave Meyersdal alone........ too upmarket
Get the picture lol
Just have fun and if an upmarket profile ignores you, hey they missing out....
(Now Brakpan don't diss me ok, I grew up close by)
