Hello All
I recently had the following interaction with guy here that made me stop and think .
ME:I believe we chatted a few weeks ago
HIM:Well we haven't fucked yet so let's chat again icon_ ME:The meaning of subtle -
delicate or faint and mysterious
So been subtle will get I so much further.
So no thanks but maybe try a softer approach in future with other ladies, it may work.
HIM:OK let me put is subtly: u are on a swinging site for fucks sake, not some fucking romance tv show
So that left me asking myself did i get the concept horribly wrong?
I thought swinging was about exploring ones sexuality in ones own way with people you felt some sort of attraction and shared similar desires with.
Or is it ...about meeting and fucking?
I would love to hear what you all have to say.
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what is your definition of swinging?
Warming the Bed
Everyone here has their own definition of what swinging is, and how they interpret it.
You have your own idea on what and how you would like to go forward.
Generally speaking people on this site are more sexually liberated and tolerant of deviant practices lol......
So it should be easier to find that excitement you looking for.....
Alas it is not so, as much as we are liberated, we find many obstacles in our path....
The end result in many meetings or parties is to partake in carnal pleasures of which many can just dream about.... or maybe have not even thought of lol.
So bearing that in mind, people take extra precautions to meeting, resulting in many failed meetings, no shows........
Some interpret swinging as a one way ticket to sex at every meet, others form deep friendships and with the development of friendship, sex is not high on the agenda but rather their value on friendships.
You have formed a fantasy for yourself and what you would like to do, admittedly it should be easier to come right on this site than a dating site, it remains to be seen....
Stick to your guns, the right man will contact you
Orgasminator
The comments from the guy refered to by naughtyanne1 to have nothing to do with swinging, whatever your definition the one invariable is respect, his attitude shows his lack of this.
A swinger is not a whore there for everyone's pleasure, you decide who you play with and how you play. This is a classic case of the knock shop attitude that gives the single guys a bad name (I have a lot of sympathy for the good guys out there, the damage this type of attitude inflicts is hard for them to overcome).
Guys need to realise that a woman can walk into any pub, club or social meeting place and walk out with a one night stand. She doesn't have to sit on this or any other site if that's all she's after. Just because she wants nsa sex doesn't mean she can't have it with someone where there is some mutual chemistry and that feeling of excitement.
There are 1000 men to every woman on the site, she has her pick. Why would she spread her legs for every man that comes along when there are 20 others who will make her laugh and treat her with the respect she deserves.
when men learn that its about respect an anonymity does not mean that the you can be rude and or pushy. The golden rule as far as I am concerned is is still WOMAN RULE and it will always be their decision on who how when and where. Treating them with respect and learning by listening will be the way to go.
Orgasminator
As I've said before the most important factor in swinging is respect. Sex is secondary to respect and friendship.
Personally I think the guy is an ass and your better off telling him to hit the road. Any guy who approachs swinging from that angle is missing the point.
Perhaps if ppl actually took the time read profiles and understand them a lot if this would not happen. Unfortunately I think the biggest problem is the disproportionate number of men vs women which means that men will try their luck regardless of what a woman says in her profile:sad::sad:
His behavior in any social networking arena is inappropriate. There are no rules around swinging or dating site which gives any man or woman the authority to expect sexual meets purely because you registered on a site. There always needs to be open discussion before any thought of arranging a meet of any kind. In this case block, ignore or delete is a solution.
Yes there is a disproportionate men to woman ratio. If there were more woman he would simply have more victims to harass, no excuses. He would not try that nonsense if there was a male involved. It's just bad luck, forget him and move on. He won't be the first arse hole and he won't be the last.
