Some days I understand why people get discouraged here on the site about nobody being for real or meeting up with someone. You feel everyone is all talk and no show….
When we first joined in 2012, I was stay at home mom and almost permanently in the chat room and mostly just reading the forum unless I had something to add to a topic. We were lucky and got to meet up with 2 local couples which have since then left the site. One of the couples became 'playmate' and very good friends, the other we simply wave or nod a greeting when we see each other in town.
So when someone asked if had met people already I could say yes, it simply takes a bit of patience and trial and error in finding your *match* Back then we mainly were interested in couples, Mr E was bit anxious to meet with a single gent, but was willing to meet with a single lady if we managed to find the mythical Unicorn.
Now, we are bit more ready for simply finding a single gent for a mmf 3some, but to find one close enough and you send him a mail after a bit of chat, saying you'll be in town for some errands, would he like to meet for coffee? No reply not only that, he disappears from the site! Did not delete the profile, just not active for 2 weeks or so…and yes he did open the mail.
But I think my main frustration for this rambling here is not finding a lady close enough to us to get to know and have her join us…. To me, it is mostly because I really would love to see Mr E full on with another lady. Not just the sameroom, one partners fun with a bit of swop for oral that we've been doing up till now. For this, a single lady would be better, since then I will be able to watch them, maybe join, giving it my full attention without having to worry that the 4th person will feel left out!
O well, just a bit of a piece of mind from my side…..
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Master of Sex
I so get what u mean, i have met a few nice guys but they always seem to be mostly talk and then excuses , i have met everything was perfect then he disappeared off face of the earth after a month. Then finally returns saying he was scared of developing feeling, blah , blah .
You get others that u chat with and get to know, exchange pics and plan to meet but never do. I thought it was just me it was happening to?
Sex God
As a representative of the male of the species, I hang my head in shame.
It's fascinating how the men and women in this "lifestyle" all experience very similar situations when it comes to the actual meeting up. After reading what Mrs E & Sofistikitty have written, my immediate reaction was that the men they had spoken to were in fact not real. (as in, they claimed to be what they were not) which is a real shame, because Mrs. E & Sofistikitty are very real.
It's good that this is highlighted (however often) so that other people get to see the trend of false people.
I can not complain about the stand up and no show problem as * I am THAT problem* ...
I SOMETIMES do meet and make promises to meet and do massages on people I like...But then it happens that I sometimes have to cancel.
But I do feel ashamed of doing that, that is mostly WHY I say I do not meet so people do not have that expectation at all.
To make me feel little better....I do not have a venue and the men do not have either, or they are to far away, and I do hate hotels and yeah I invite some people to my home at times.
But I fully understand you E_N and Kitty`s frustrations.
Orgasminator
Vandag kan ek weereens volkome saamstem met al die opmerkings, Ja ons is ook al van 2012 op die site en kan die lekker gesels onthou met mense soos Erotic_nauty toe kon jy nog in die pool gesels.
Mense ontmoet op die site, is eintlik 'n rare verskynsel, ons het in al die tyd 'n paar couples ontmoet en een single maar verder was dit net lieg en bedrieg. Ek dink ons moet 'n topic begin en al die verskonings en die lieg stories op te teken, die een wat ek die meeste van hou, gesels weke aan mekaar, maar die dag van die ontmoeting moet ek hoor ek is te oud sal haar aan haar Pa laat dink. Die tweede mail wat ek beantwoord as die persoon baie jonger is, is om te vra gaan lees ons profile en maak seker van ons ouderdom.
Maar na maande se ondervinding het ek tot die gevolgtrekking gekom dit is heel moontlik 'n man wat met Mevrou wil speel en sy vrou weet nie waarmee hy besig is nie. As die tyd aanbreek vir 'n ontmoeting moet hy iets uitdink en gebruik dan die arme vrou as verskoning.
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But then it happens that I sometimes have to cancel.
At least you cancel! It's the ones who simply go quiet after us suggesting to meet for coffee or just don't show I think that is the most annoying! I mean we all have our lives and sometimes the unexpected happen, but then at least the decent people let you know, Hey am going to be late or could we make it for another time!
Master of Sex
I hate it when they just dont pitch and then disappear and when they come back they say " im concerntrating on my career" or "i was out of the country/town" or my personal fav "im scared u going to fall inlove with me"
then the ones you have met and want u with a passion their excuse is " babe they jacked my car" or " i want u for myself cant take that ur married" lol ya hey I have seen it all!
@ Sofistikitty....
A few funny things when I canceled meetings.
I was going to meet a gent in the Southern subs for the very first time,when I restarted in the ranks of looking for a FWB ( I live in Northern subs) so it is far to travel.I was nervous as hell.
I stopped to buy something at a shopping mall on my way there,and when I reversed , I slammed into a wall, I was not hurt but my poor little car was severely bumped and tail lights all over the place.
I phoned and cancelled, I JUST know the gent thought I was having cold feet, I did not think to take a pic of the accident to sent him(only thought about that afterwards)
Once I was on my way for a dungeon play in Rondebosh sitting on the N1 in traffic for over an hour and I only traveled a kilometer.... the time was for 10 am....I was Running VERY late and in desperation I then phoned to cancel explaining the traffic...I sat another hour just to get to a turn off to return home.
Once I was on my way to a farm in Paarl for a play date and my car broke down,Lynette(my GF) had to come fetch me and stay with me untill the breakdown arrived.
More than once I received unexpected guest at my home whom I was not expecting and I had to cancel meets at my home.
I can go on and on with real life situations preventing me to arrive where I was suppose to be.
Sometimes people do tell the truth when canceling....please know, they might have the same issues as me and that is why they do not show.
I know it sounds ridiculous sometimes but we are all just human and can to always predict what is going to happen.
I do however always after a coffee meet, tell people that I would like them as a friend, but will not have any other relationship with them ,when the physical attraction is not there.I expect that honesty from them as well,we all can not really LIKE everyone we meet,and not every one can like me...it is just life.
But we can try and not bullshit and hurt people unnecessarily.
"I stopped to buy something at a shopping mall on my way there,and when I reversed , I slammed into a wall, I was not hurt but my poor little car was severely bumped and tail lights all over the place."
Now I have just quoted PIB with what she said. And here it goes to show WOMEN can not drive
Joyrider
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Our very first playdate the guy NEVER pitched. Didd't answer his phone. Nothing!
That was before we joined the site.
I suppose that because we don't meet people often, we have been lucky with the very few meets we have had from this site.
There was once couple that seemed very keen to meet until it came to making a date. They just stopped replying to emails. Went from hot chats about what is gonna happen, to absolute silence!
We had to cancel once, and we cancelled the day before the meet was going to happen. The person we were meeting was very understanding.
People in the chatroom have complained about singles not pitching, but it seems that many couples are just as guilty!
PIB, there is a big difference between cancelling and not pitching!
Kitty, why are they playing with married women if that is their excuse???
;)
C
Warming the Bed
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"I stopped to buy something at a shopping mall on my way there,and when I reversed , I slammed into a wall, I was not hurt but my poor little car was severely bumped and tail lights all over the place."
Now I have just quoted PIB with what she said. And here it goes to show WOMEN can not drive
Joyrider
PIB1 car looks nice, she has a good panel beater............. eish, :scared: ducks from a klap.....now my turn for a spanking
:boxing::giveup:
If only Lee! I look forward to being on your side of the world!
We got hold of him in the end. He thought we were not coming so he made other plans...
When we told him that we were definitely coming over, and what we had planned... he quickly changed his mind and we had some fun :twisted:
Finally we can join the ranks of sharing with regards to an mmf :twisted:
It took me 10 minutes of lying down before I could stand up after all the orgasms...
Night night everyone
;)
C
Master of Sex
I remembered something today, when we stayed in JHB i started chatting to this guy from KZN. We got on well and he wanted to meet when i came down. He told me he divorced and what not. Then we decided to move our chats to email then whats app. And we chatted for a while.
Out of the blue one day a woman called my fone wanting to know who i am , turns out it was his wife he was never divorced, wife said he is on many swinging sites and asked alot of questions. She became desparate to hear what we chat bout n what the site is etc, but I told her i am sorry i was unaware but she should ask him all she needs to know as i did not have a responsibility towards her. Shame though.
Shame, she was probably wanting to know about why swinging appeals to so many of us....
I usually am bombarded with questions from the married men playing alone as how hubby convinced me to join in. But then it comes as a bit of a surprise and even a shock to some that I was the nauty one regarding to who convinced who to join :twisted:
Sex God
Another example of where I am ashamed to be a male of the species.
Sofistikitty, the woman could have had a hundred different reasons for wanting answers, but to me, all she needed to do was pack her bags and leave. Her husband clearly has a problem, and no level of understanding from her will change anything.
From a male perspective, I think that it's a case of the woman hold all the cards when it comes to sex, whether in a relationship, marriage or casual set-up. It does not matter how smooth or whatever a male is, a woman functions differently, if she is up for it, then it will happen, if not, then forget it.
I sometimes wonder if a mans brain was put into a woman's body, would you ever find him anywhere else but on his back?
