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PoohC
1 month ago
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 42
Bi-curious White/Caucasian Female, 47
0 km · Gauteng

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Quote by 2some4fun
Sorry Pooh-C. We agree with the Valentines on this. The adage is Once Bitten - Twice Shy. We are 3 times bitten. The amount of people clinging to their glory days is horrendous. Couples and singles yearning for the days before Uber eats. When they actually made it to a gym and did a work out once or thrice a week instead of ordering in fast food daily and fondly remember the days when they were in shape and that shape wasn't a circle. Or the couples that maintain some sort of daily skin care regimen to ensure that father time hasnt changed that once soft and sensual skin to hard, grainy, coarse leather. And the problem with many of those people...  they send you the pics they took in their prime. And have no qualms about passing them off as their "present day" templates.
We've been caught by 3 of those couples. Pitching up at a bar/resturant to meet and struggling to recognise the people/person that eventually presents themselves. Their Mr sits down and we disciver to our horror, he has let himself go. And while he may have been a model in his heyday - now he'd only be hired to represent the before picture in a Fat Busters commercial. Or their Mrs sits down and we recoil as we see that she was the unfortunate recipient of a case of severe fever blisters. Spending most of her evening dabbing the ooze emanating from the 4 open sores on her lower lip. Imagine pitching at a hotel you've paid for and Shrek and Fiona arrive. Or worse Mrs Large and Mr Larger. Thats why we meet first face to face to test real world chemistries. Then and only then do we commit to something carnal. 


WHO the Hell are you meeting. Lol

We do Video Call the Couples/Singles When we are making the final arrangements, so that sort of gets rid of the bullshitters.

I try not judge people by their weight or are after a swinging experience I had with my ex girlfriend and a couple that She had arranged for us to play with.

I was not in the mood to go and play with her or anyone else (it was nearing the end of our relationship)

We met at this couples house in pretoria and the surprise I got when I saw them was "Life Changing".. Lol

The couple must have been in their late 60's early 70's. There were knitted doilies everywhere and pictures of their grandkids all over the place. The lady was very Large and her husband was very skinny.

My Girlfriend immediately changed her mind about playing and faked having her period. I didn't want to be rude and just leave because I would of felt bad for them, so I just thought "Fuckit I'm here already, let me make the most of it"..

Let be 100% Honest... it was some of the best sex I have ever had. It was also the first time that I tried DP. I'm glad I didn't judge a book by its cover and leave, otherwise I would of missed out on an awesome experience.

There has to be some sexual attraction obviously, but what I have learnt over the years is "Every Woman is SEXY, It's up to the person that's playing with her to bring that Sexyness out of her" ...

And the Sexiest thing a woman can wear or have is Confidence... I don't care what a woman looks like, if she is confident.... She will Ooze Sex Appeal!


Quote by nawtykznguy
So i don't know whether or not this will need a new thread of its own, but considering the majority are tending towards "booty calls"... Does one tend to chatting to the couple/single enough that when you meet for the 1st time play is on the agenda or is the intention... or does one tend to wanting to meet the couple/single; chat and verify; and reschedule a 2nd mate purely for a booty call or playdate between all parties?

 For Us we don't enjoy "meeting 1st to see if we click". It feels like the most awkward first date ever. 

What are you supposed to say or talk about... We are all adults that are on this site with the intention of meeting other people to "Swop Orgasms"..

We would of discussed all the things that we were into and what was not allowed etc before we meet, so what else is there to say...

In the my line of work, I usually spend 2-3weeks at my customers houses and over the years I've had a few "bored housewives" cum on to me...

Even had one offer to Pay me for coming back twice a month to play... but I don't think any of their husbands knew about it ... 

Quote by 2some4fun
We have made friends in the lifestyle. We no longer play with those couples. We cherish the friendship part more then the sex. Not to say the sex was bad. But the friendship is better. If it comes to playing - Booty Calls for us please. Hit It Then Quit It. 

 Just so we both understand .... We are NOT friends! Lol

Please feel Free to use us as a booty call... You can even refer to us as enemies ... (The Sex is better if you have anger towards the other person). Lol

Did you guys ever find someone to do this for you. If you ever want someone to film you guys We would love to...

Quote by BethandWill
Two can feel twice as good as one 😎

Looks like Beth is a Team Player.... where can we view the video of that picture

We have had more then 10 guys contact us trying to arrange a playdate yesterday & today....

All they have achieved is us making a note never to play with them in the future.

If they are this irresponsible with a pandemic how could we possibly expect them to practice safe SEX!

Quote by BethandWill
Now that COVID19 has taken over our lives we can’t swing and we can no longer watch each other have sex with other people. We really miss it. 

 We have started watching all our old Movies from our play dates and have been going through all our old pics... 

It's been Fun! We have also been updating our "FUCK-IT" List! We crossed out the things we have done and added some things on that we want to try.

Quote by pussinboots1
Eish I see the POSTER of this Fora is *gone*....  I so wanted to ask if I was a muscle lady If I could join in a wank session...girls can wank!!!  oh yes, we can!!!


LMAO  No one needs to know my muscles is UNDER layers of wobbly fat...and my wanking tool might not be able to squirt (well I know you do get new ones that does squirt, I am just not buying one)....as it is made of rubber.....  BUT I so would have loved to watch and perv the squirters....sigh...sigh...

 With enough effort and experience I Guarantee I could make Your one "Squirt" 💦

Quote by Bignblck2
Honestly I don't see why one "black guy" should be putting a best performance for anyone who says they don't cross race barrier, this sounds like favour is being done when you say one should be flattered & feel special being approached by such. 
My opinion is anyone curious of crossing racial lines must be the one putting an extra effort & going all out to prove they are ready and not just wasting one's time. What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? 

 

IT WAS SAID AS A LIGHT HEARTED JOKE. NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE  A SERIOUS ISSUE.

What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? About 40% from the people I've spoken to.


SNAP! That was the best reply I could of expected. But on a semi serious not... I wouldn't take it personally that people are contacting you even though they have said they don't cross the interracial line.

In swinging things change. Things you are into now might change down the line.

Also Couples might have NO single guys written on their profile but they still contact single guys. They just dont want 10 000 guys contacting them. 

Take it from where it comes. I would just enjoy the experience but that's just me.

Trust me it was light hearted. I try not to make swinging a serious topic seeing that everything else In life is serious.

That's because you are taking it to serious... it was meant to be light hearted 

You are supposed to be flattered that you are that special;  that the couple is curious about crossing the colour line with you.

You are then supposed to meet them and put on your Best performance to convert them for good. That's all

You must understand that what people put on their profile might be for a lot of reasons. The biggest one being "what others may think"

We have made huge progress forward but it's not there yet. 

Out of interest Would you put on your Facebook profile that you loves Afrikaans music. What would your friends and family say? 

The best ads are the ones from the "Over Confident" guys.

"I've got some time today, which lady am I going to choose to come suck my Cock"

The woman must be flooding their inbox.

Or

"I'm looking for a quickie only have 20min to spare"

I'm sure every single woman wants to meet a stranger on the side of the road for 1 sided quick unsatisfying sex!

GUYS TRY PUT IN A LITTLE BIT OF EFFORT. It might improve your results...

LOL, We feel the same way. A couple of years ago we went to an "Upmarket" Swingers club, I'm not going to mention the name Because that wouldn't be (Fair~Ou's)

What a load of Kak! The parking lot was filled with BMW's, Mercs, Ferraris etc Inside was filled with people that looked like Barbie & Ken Dolls but with more plastic in them.

It was so boring. Almost nobody actually played, they spent more time looking at themselves in the mirror.

We played with 2 couples that night, And the sex.... Was horrible! It's the first time and hopefully the last, that I had to fake an Orgasm (it's a lot harder to pull off as a guy)

Just because you are paying R200 for a drink that only costs R30 everywhere else does not make you upmarket (it makes you an idiot)

Now is that 60% - 70% figure out of your ass or genuine figures. lol

I am still happy of the fact that i have seen more couples meet on this site then I have seen couples break up.

I wouldn't know what the statistics are but nor does anybody.

They also say that 9 out of 10 men Masturbate... So obviously the 10th guy is the one counting! 

Fact for the ladies: Anal Sex helps cure back ache 97% of the time and can add 8 years onto your life and forget that a guys Sperm is 94% more effective to help you lose weight then going to the gym!

Quote by sexysam69
if interested 
The ratio is the same about 4:1 ...
That is people who try the life and then separate and people who come together in the life and the separate. 
You would think people who already have exposure would be more of a success story... right ? 
Well no .... sadly and the big killer is jealousy and it's not the girls it's the boys.  Jip boys gets jealous because us girls have more fun. And the plucks everything up. It's like on a preschool playground.... he wants to play with the others toys , until some other kid makes his toy look more fun . 

 

I have seen many fights/arguments over the years. I've seen people get jealous. I've seen people cry. Ive seen people storm off. I've seen people get aggressive.

What I haven't seen is; any of the above done by a woman! 100% of the time the issue is always from the male.

I definitely agree that a lot of woman are "Forced" into the lifestyle due to their husbands wanting to shag other woman. The wife just goes along to try keep her husband happy and relationship from ending.

SPOILER ALERT

If you join this lifestyle to save your relationship, The Success you will have is Twice as effective as having a baby to save a relationship.. IT WON'T LAST!

I'm not Judging anyone's relationship or trying to change people's views to mine. I don't mind if my wife plays with a single guy or if she plays with the male and I don't play with the female couple. That's because I get turned on and sexual pleasure from seeing my wife get pleasured.

Having said that, I think it would be a bit unfair if only the husband was allowed to sleep with someone but the wife was not allowed,  due to the husband's jealousy

The lifestyle is supposed to be all about honesty, acceptance and openness of sexual experiences.

The philosophy of the lifestyle is freedom in sex.

In swinging there isn’t supposed to be any cheating because you should have already discussed, agreed and encouraged each other to have sex with others—either with their consent or, more often, with their assistance!

It seems counter-intuitive that having sex with others can make a relationship stronger, but it is often the case.  The openness, the acceptance, the willingness to let go, the trust associated with your permission can all lead to a partner who is more appreciative and loving.  Of course, a very strong, stable and solid relationship is a prerequisite. 

I also read The divorce rate of swingers is only 2%
  


Definitely past a lot of guys. We still get asked every now and then "If we are swingers"? 

We get asked that On this website.... The website is called... Swingingheaven

For any of the single guys still wanting to ask us that question.... 

UM the answer is NO, we are Just browsing

I was just wondering how many couples met on this site.... I know of about 5 couples that met on this site as singles and have started dating. 

Im sure there are probably more couples that ended up as singles on the site!

pussingboots1 Nipplegasms are impressive but I'm looking to meet those woman on those Porno Movies that have an Orgasm while giving a guy a Blowjob. 

Now that is a special talent! if any woman in here is in possession of this unique skill please make contact with us. Lol

Wil jy Naai? Of Lyk Jy Net So! 

(Heard a Colored Guy Say this to a girl) 



Oh Shit, I just realised that "Maybe they weren't that into me

What the hell is wrong with me? ... lol

pussingboots1 (Are you reading my emails) 

It's actually so funny that you brought this up tonight because I actually had to read up about all the different "Labels" this morning after we were contacted by a male from this site that identifies as Gender-Fluid

I have to admit i didnt have a Clue what that meant. And after 2 hours on Google and 30 min on YouTube I now know even less. It's very Confusing and way more brain power then I can spare on just asking what sex a person is. 

I don't judge, what ever Floats your GOAT! If a person wants to identify with a pine cone and that makes them HAPPY, Then be the best Damn pine cone there is!

localcouple1234 you hit the nail on the head "The standing issue about the sites kicks in then...cause who the hell reads profiles anyhoot?"

I Guarantee that half of the people that are going to read this post (Will not read this post, lol)

I'm a straight guy but it doesn't worry me if the other guy is bi and I often have guys commenting & complementing Me on my "Unsolicited Dick Pics". I don't see what the Big Deal is. Attached is one of my recent replies.

Im not sure how peoples Minds work but if a guy is perving over your naked picture it doesnt mean that you are gay... If a guy complements you on your package does not mean you will be Balls Deep in love with them later.

We have played with Bi Guys before and they were respectful and didn't once try make a move on me or make me feel uncomfortable at all.

I have never been so scared and so turned on at the same time! I have always said that "I wish I could be dominated even just once, but it's impossible" many have tried and failed. 


"I should be careful what I wish for" pussingboots1... "Yes mam"!

pussingboots1 how much more dirty does "Who's your Mommy"? sound compared to "Who's your Daddy"?

PS. We do still have Spots open for Actors & Actresses though.... The pay is Shit but the Benefits are Orgasmic!