'Men are pigs'. Rubbish. That's a cop out.
It's difficult to simplify by saying SA men tend to be a bit primitive and unevolved, but to some extent that's true. Making excuses for that by blaming porn and the basic nature of men is a sign of weakness. A man takes responsibility for his own actions and attitude.
I've been on many swingers sites over the past 20 years, from all over the world. A depressingly great many SA men on this one do act like pigs, but it is not because they are pigs. It is probably because they have not been educated and traveled much.
A favourite is 'but this is a sex site'. No, it's a swingers site. SwingingHeaven NOT SexHeaven. There's a vast difference between the two. Find out what it is.
From the male of a couple's perspective: If I was a single male, approaching me with the 'wanna fuck' line is fine, as the husband of a female it certainly isn't. You are showing a mindset that will reduce my wife to a free whore. That's not why we swing. I am being patient by not reacting to the insult and simply deleting your mail.
The insult is to the female, not me. Geddit?
You are not a pig. You are uneducated, primitive and being a pig. There's a difference.
And FFS, PLEASE learn to read. Show some respect - for yourself.
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So I blame porno.....how bout you
Quote by EroticLiving
It's difficult to simplify by saying SA men tend to be a bit primitive and unevolved, but to some extent that's true. Making excuses for that by blaming porn and the basic nature of men is a sign of weakness. A man takes responsibility for his own actions and attitude.
Not to stir shit here....but I intended to demonstrate that as a collective, i believe pornography or actually more specific the ease of obtaining and the abundance thereof, the never ending "pushing of the envelope" with regards to the extremities of it , could be seen as the primary if not the only reason most men are taking the primitive , barbaric route. Unfortunately most people are very easy impressionable. Im saying most in these cases to also highlight a small group of like minded and understanding single males, whom wishes to highlight their value to the lifestyle by being more understanding of the needs in the lifestyle itsself.
Most males whom are under the impression...that a site like this and even this one in particular will provide them with their drive/desire to have nameless, soulless and unobliging sex, as often and wherever they demand. THIS mindset is what Ive come to bring in connection to the porno....Its a simple case of monkey see, monkey do....
Now if THAT (observing patterns of courting and comparing it with the expected vs real results seen in porno) is a sign of weakness....well then , call the hospital and book me in, coz Im feeling a weakness come over me,
Erotic....you do raise some awesome points with what I agree....a false sense of obligation, a right to have sex and a general laziness from men. I too can imagine it being a hell of an insult receiving those sort of propositions. Please inderstand Im not attacking you at all. Just raising my point. Your a cool couple as Im sure...
