Thanx for the rational ,instructive and very interesting thread. I like your orderly method, of keeping ur thoughts focused to a specific topic....
Ja u creating an opportunity to analyse this FUNDAMENTALLY....
(clearly not many people are inclined to take the time and effort to go through such an exercise...but I am sure the fruit will be most fruitful and satisfying
U say or quote " As a species, we are far too negatively focussed,..."
My first question (accepting it as a true trait or reflection of the human species...without conceding it as necessarily totally correct... I will have to think this thoroughly through...later)
For myself ja seems it's right...always 1001 reservations,procrastinations,fears...etc before one acts.....So according to your if one is too cautious, time and opportunities will pass u by...boy oh boy and on reflection did (and don't) they...!!!
Why are we so cautious...? why are we so unsure???
Is it human nature? an inherent characteristic.....is it the influence of some religions...??? The damning of human nature and acts flowing from it...? Created as fucked being....? :sad: YOU MUST REPENT...CHANGE..(mostly things that cannot change....) so refrain from being a free natural,totally normal human being... and apologise profoundly for being such a fucked being...and THANK ur creator for being so fucked....especially say thanx for the second chance u get each time...
Are we not bliksemed (brainwashed with help of threats of everlasting damnation) into being APOLOGETIC at all times...."excuse me for the the fact of being born...."
OR is the atheistic godless part of the species also so pessimistic and negative as well ....???
If I know the cause of this hampering trait I will more easily eradicate it....
Why do swinging enhance a relationship.....?
Aristotle termed us social animals....when I was young I was cross about being called an animal...who the f...is this primitive Greek sitting in the dust and dirt to say such a thing...(sorry but that's the picture always coming into my head about those most respected talented and very, clever fundamental thinkers....)
Well well was he not right.....!!! (years and years and much skande en skade later....)the insight started filtering through..
We LOVE socialising...in ALL forms....
Intimate communication (of which sex is but one..) is very fullfilling and gratifies he senses...
Human species are not created to be monogamous.....
People are by nature inclined to be insecure if someone else get involved in the sacred union of marraige/or fixed relationship...
Female may lose her total source of material support...(that is general statement,and there ARE MANY exceptions...before certain farreaching amendments to divorce legislation the poor women came short virtually always...there are many reasons, most important she being the one that carries and raises the offspring On paper women are better protected today but still very vulnerable materialisticly...
Swinging break the monotamy and boredom of monogamy...
SO I know that many more women NEED to get some supplementary socialiising on intimate aspects...but MOST can NEVER dare it...
Women by the way according to my observation are generally far more analytical and practical in their thinking and actions than men..(ja they even make good mechanics should they so wish.. ..!! but THAT is tiny part of what I am referring to..)I see women as few grades above men IQ wise...(again GENERAL statement..)
So many women are being kept ""in place" by intimidation and threats by some not so clever ""head of the house"...
But deep inside each and everyone will be more happy if there could be more wide intimate socialising..
As long as one of the partners does not feel threatened or insecure.
So ja it is totally natural to swing.....
And lastly and that will be enough for now....The skew attitude that if women get intimate (on whatever level) with another man she is a SLUT...and if a male does it he is a MAN...get thrown out of the window in swinging....because the swinging male is more intelligent and has more insight than convention ordains for females...
Again thnx mrs Thinker.....
A I missing the boat u busy constructing...? AmI SpOTT off???
Where and why.....? I would love ur insights,thoughts and provocations plse...
Regards.
