True hey and it's made me cautious and not want to get with couples. Because now I feel like I'm going to land up in the same situation and feel the same emotions. Unicorns are people too guys. Hate feeling like a prop its basically made me not want to swing anymore
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Sofistikitty
9 hours ago
Straight Mixed Race
Female, 44
0 km · Johannesburg
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Master of Sex
Thanks for the welcome back. no I dont organise hey, was too much admin and drama. Yes somethings never change
Master of Sex
So, Ive been here for a few years, give or take the months I took breaks. Still, nothing's changed. You see someone you like, it advances to instant chat then the crap begins.
Some men lie about being married etc and want to meet at awkward times. Also some want or expect to fuck that day ,the first time you meet. I am not into this, no I don't want to get married etc but what ever happened to manners and meet and greet?
I've made it clear that I want friends with benefits. Meaning we friends so we chat and do what friends do with the extra benefit of having sex. Well, that's my understanding. Am I wrong?
I've been old I'm uptight and I'm full of shit all because I'm on a sex site but I don't want to fuck. As far as I am aware this is a swingers lifestyle website. Sex is the main thing yes but its about being amongst like minded people you can feel comfortable with right? I have an awesome group of couples and singles I play with on a regular, and we all have the perfect understanding. I'm just tired if playing as a single. But I can't introduce someone to decent people like that that doesn't understand what the lifestyle is about.
These men I am talking about are the same ones that have the mentality that woman on this site just wants sex or can be called horny, bitch, whore, slut or sex addict ( including during sex) I hate that! And the line "well I joined this site to fuck and all you want is chemistry first" is starting to get to me and make me miss being vanilla.
Master of Sex
hi guys been a while, i don't have the swingers events company anymore but we have a group that hook up now and again. All races chilled and sexy. Message me preferably couples. Then I can add u to group
Master of Sex
Nah I'm done meeting with couples . its like they think I'm the pro anf. Everything lies on me. I think people should think deeply about swinging. And also they cannot hold anyone responsible for their experience. I'm so upset. Never ever again
Master of Sex
So I have a gripe with most couples iveet as a single Lady.
Be sure you know what playing with others be it single or couples entails. Be sure u want to do it that you are emotionally ready and prepared. This is you introducing a third or external party to your intimate bond. It doesn't mean because some of us have more or some experience that we are pros. U can never be fully prepared for how u are going to feel and u can't have expectations. We are all human. It feels crappy when u expected something and it doesn't pan out to sort of blame us. I will never play with a couple again, its emotionally taxing.
Master of Sex
Im not much of a muff fan So sex and sometime fingers but not clit play
Master of Sex
i use strawberry flavoured body spray, so not as heavy as perfume. Else shower together or jacuzzi does trick
Master of Sex
i use strawberry flavoured body spray, so not as heavy as perfume. Else shower together or jacuzzi does trick
Master of Sex
It means that they only play with people of their own race. Welcome, look out for people that are open minded. I wouldn't approach those type of people(they will most likely approach you because you so hot). I know a lot of "mixed" swingers if you are interested. Lol aren't chinese considered "coloured"? I'm sorry this is funny because the race thing in our country is complicated. They don't cross racial barrier, but if you sexy they mmight make an exception(been there).
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Quote by Thedude26
Hey @Sofistikittywell maybe, I would only be so lucky with a lady like yourself, only thing is I'm actually not meeting people at the moment ( damn should've put that in my profile will do it now my apologies ). Flattered.
Rejection cuts deep lol
Master of Sex
@Thedude26, maybe we should meet to see what else you have to offer ;)
Master of Sex
I watched a movie the other day, where the husband didn't want to do something so his wife told him she would give him head if he did. He totally gave in. Another stand up comedian said that when women and men fight and she's wrong, she would offer him a bj for him to sort of forgive her lol.
Women, have you use this to diffuse a situation or to simply get him to do what you want?
Men, what have you done or gone through to get some head??
A little head goes a long way hahaha
I have used this tactic lol works everytime. Even just the promise of it!
Master of Sex
Is it just me, or is Thedude26 use of proper grammar and spelling a turn on?
Master of Sex
Worst pick up line ever, we were in Poizon... " I saw you looking at my big cock, you know you want this" I ran!
Best ever was a guy that said " I don't want anything from you. But just wanted to tell you that you have the most beautiful smile I've ever seen. I'm so drawn to you, you ooze sex appeal, you're stunning."
Guess who got some lol
Master of Sex
So I dated a guy long term, he was uncut. Perfect penis if i may say. I loved it! Before him I preferred cut though but just cos I felt it was cleaner. Like if u want to be spontaneous go down on your man it wouldn't have that "been in pants" all day odour. Surprisingly, we never ever had that problem with that sort of thing. Then he got circumsized, was different but was still perfect.
Personally for me, as long as guy's clean or makes effort to keep as clean as possible then either or.
Honestly though, I have come across uncut guys that seem to be more wet. I don't really like that. But maybe guys can answer that, is it because guy is not cut? Cut penises seem "dryer" thus "cleaner".
Master of Sex
Quote by Mike_Pta
The boy next door
Damn, I need to move
Lol I meant affair with the younger guy thing. But hey ;)
Master of Sex
I am not using a pc. I am using my smart phone. I have fb and twitter as apps so if I share or click like it automatically goes through. But oh well, my family found out.
So regardless if I delete the apps or what ever doesn't matter now. My phone is linked to most of everything like bbm, email, google plus, bbm and what's app. I can't delete and reload those all the time. So in conclusion the only way to avoid the like button on this site is to browse very very slowly and carefully, zoom in so my nails don't hit the button by accident. Or alternately, leave the site all together.
Master of Sex
I didn't mean u, I didn't get to add u on what's app. I'm away this week but when I get back, I'd be very interested in exploring your evil side.
Master of Sex
Okay, maybe there's something wrong with me?? This week I put up add for guys to come meet me so I could in a way "screen" them then invite them to be members of our small private group. All non whites. None pitched. One guy called to say he was there but I had left already. And I didn't ask for money or membership fee. I been chatting to all of them via what's app and they all interested in playing with me. But I explained that we have a group and that they will be invited to events.
Am I intimidating them some how? Why don't they show? 5guys only the one showed up late
Master of Sex
Quote by jtrdbn
Sigh. What a waste. I wish there were more events like this in KZN.
As a person "of colour" I also know that many of the points you made are 100% true... Disappointing to say the least
Let me know when you this side
Master of Sex
I know the "club" you speak about I gave them advice from my experience. The sad thing is these are not strangers they have attended one or a few of our events. We started a sort of demerits system, so that we give them 2 chances after that they are no longer a part of our group. But still, single men disappoint me. So next time a see a damn comment of "it's hard to get play..." ima slap the dude! I had 3 beautiful chicks (including myself) sitting and just watching last night.
Master of Sex
I've been organising the adult or swingers events now since last year september and have realised something.
Now, before I get into this let me explain to you why I started this: firstly, I wanted a place where non whites could experience and explore in a safe, intimate and non judge mental environment. Secondly for all races who are interested and open to interracial encounters and thirdly for newbies to check the scene out without feeling overwhelmed.
So, I know that this lifestyle is predominantly white and a lot of people of colour said it would be good to have a club or a venue that mixed races could meet up and explore. After, surveys etc we started the business. Now, after parties and experiences we noticed how different races and cultures are so had to tweak and change a few things so that people were comfortable. We would charge a reasonable fee and have a quality "service". After all this planning and watching things unfold, I've come to the following conclusion or assumption. Please this is what I have experienced and this is my opinion.
1) single guys suck!! (not in a good way) they complain about never getting any play blah, blah, blah. They never pitch, they have excuses like there phones died so couldn't communicate. Their cars have issues, they dozed off and it's too late now. There's more excuses just it's too long to list.
2) most people of colour don't keep time or to commitments.
They beg for functions and after I plan and organise they either also don't pitch or cancel last minute
3) most people of colour complain that it cost too much (R300-R350 per couple and per single male). They expect more for their money so take towels or glasses home.
4) most indian couples have "class" issues and tend to refrain from talking, socialising and playing with anyone "below" them.
5) although some non white people say they are open to interracial play, they are not and have issues of who they want there. They complain about the guests and lack of extras etc. They are never happy
I have had better experiences with the white couples we have invited. They have covered costs even beyond what requested, they are patient and also have no hang ups.( again these are the white couples open to interracial play). Last night yet again I didn't take deposits and I booked the venue and people cancelled and switched their phones off or just never pitched.
I am fed up and disappointed, now I know why people don't cater mainly for non whites.
I'm sorry but it's evident.
