Look... Here's my issue with you saying someone who is bi has gay tendencies.
I have no problem whether you are black, white, Indian, straight, bi, or in fact, gay... However, you need to understand that there will always be differing levels to which we are attracted and how and who we play with.
Now my understanding of the word gay (homosexual) is someone who actively engages in sexual acts with a same sex partner, is attracted to those of the same sex, or who actively seeks a relationship with a same sex partner..
Now just because I don't mind doing certain things with guys as to me a bj/hj is just as much the same thing whether it is from a man or a woman, but does that mean I actively look to engage, am attracted to, or seek a relationship with a guy? Never...
I just like you am as straight as they come, except I am open to trying things in a comfortable situation, call me deluded again, it doesn't bother me as I know who I am, what I want and what I enjoy as well as how I enjoy it, and thus I am not afraid to admit to partaking in bisexual acts and putting it out there as something I can enjoy as I am comfortable within my own sexuality...
You always complain how people generalize us single men and I agree with you, it's BS that we all get blanketed with the same generalization due to stereotypes as well as negative experiences... I am as nice as can be, I'm intelligent, I know how to have fun, I never approach those who don't want to be approached and yet I get treated the same way you do and that's exactly why I won't go generalizing about others or labeling others based on your expectations and assumptions
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Rob_69
1 month ago
Straight White/Caucasian Male, 37
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Quote by Stamina
Well said... Especially the last sentence.. He he he..
But seriously though. My achievements mentioned are not actually about bragging or being better than anyone, it is about using a factual ground to rate my own intelligence with respect to defending my post against those who say I used incorrect terminology. Also note the smileys before taking it all to serious.
My attitude is far from arrogant. I know who am, I say what I am thinking... And I am very confident in the fact that I know a few things. I am very successful and proud of it. I made my own success without anyone's help. Nothing wrong with being proud of ones achievements. You should try it sometime, make your strong points known and be proud.
There's a difference between being proud of ones achievements and forcing it down everyone else's throats...
Fact of the matter is using the terminology "gay tendencies" for someone who is bi is incorrect, however smart you may think that you are...
bisexual: Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of either sex.
Just because I don't mind playing with a cock doesn't mean I am attracted to guys or go past a boundary line I set myself...
Now instead of always trying to defend your intelligence, why not show some humility and admit that you were wrong in your terminology, we all make mistakes
I'm going to go right ahead and say it, might get flack for it but what does it matter....
I've been reading your posts in the forum, and while I agree with your initial post on "looking for status" in ones profile based on context of the options available, I have to basically disagree with everything else you basically portray in this forum.
My profile says I'm bi, and I definitely have no gay tendencies... I just don't mind having fun with both partners in a swinging relationship, that doesn't mean I have any gay tendencies, it just means I'm safe in my sexuality and don't mind exploring the full realm of the experience...
Now, let me move onto why I'm really posting... You seem like you have an issue with couples or single ladies not giving you the light of day, you blame this on competition from other single men who aren't in it for the right reasons, some would say it's because of your current relationship status where you would defend that, etc, etc...
Let me tell you what the real reason probably is... While I do feel that you cheating on your partner is a big reason as it goes against the very definition of swinging is a big factor, there are people who seek singles who are in a relationship as they feel that person is less likely to want to interfere in their actual relationship.
I feel your biggest issue is not that, but rather your attitude and arrogant, somewhat egotistical, way that you portray yourself, selling yourself in a business type manner that comes off as desperate instead of confident.
In fact I would go so far as to say the way you degrade those who do not agree with you or who do not see things the way you want them to see it is verging on a bullying attitude that I don't really think anyone likes, heck it even rubs me off the wrong way that if I had a female playing partner, I wouldn't look twice at you.
For an example, take a look at you throwing out your pathetic little honours degree... Heck I did a Bcom, does that make me any better than anyone else here, nor should I see the need to flaunt whatever it is or lack of what it is that I do... Who cares that you did bloody articles for anybody, it doesn't mean that all others are illiterate f***'s...
My suggestion, tone it down a little, wipe the arrogance off your body and maybe, just maybe you may find yourself successful... But hey, what do I know, I don't have an Honours degree like you do my "King"...
Rant over
Edit: Perhaps I've been a little harsh, and I've probably made some assumptions on you but hey, you've made assumptions about others as well so all is fair 
Quote by playcouple
good point, but in spite of us saying very clearly that attached people playing without their partner is not what we are interested in we still get a lot of advances from married people (mostly men)
There will always be those who take chances thus being annoying and unfortunately giving all others a bad image... The reason that it mostly happens with "single guys" is due to the fact that there is a much higher volume of single/attached guys than couples and single ladies that are actively looking for fun...
The biggest problem I see is that I would assume the majority of single/attached guys here aren't really "swingers" in the true meaning of the word and are rather looking for an easy opportunity at gaining free sex and satisfaction
Quote by LeeEC
You are WRONG - just because you have decided that it means something in particular does not mean that suddenly it does. "Straight male" most certainly does not mean "single male" on this site.
The two phrases are not the same nor did "straight" suddenly change meaning in the dictionary to "someone without a partner"
If you have been short-sighted, and misunderstood, declaring the meaning of very well used English words to have magically changed, does not save you embarrassment, it just makes you look silly.
Moderators and Admin KEEP saying that they do not mean the same thing and yet. ..
Actually when it states in the "what are you looking for" and there are options for:
Straight couple
Couple with bi male
couple with bi female
That would make "straight male" and "bi male" an option that you are searching for A single male for example mmf as it is totally separated from "searching for a couple"
Now when I say single male above that doesn't mean necessarily "single", as it doesn't differentiate between "single" and "attached"...
I can't understand why it would be thought that if you check the following:
Straight couple
Couple with bi male
couple with bi female
And you decide to check "straight/bi male" that you are meaning that that doesn't mean single guys as if you're looking for couples/ladies only then you've already made it clear if the couple you want has to be straight, or if there must be some bisexuality involved
Quote by LeeEC
Ah Gerrie you make me laugh
I think nawtyjake NEEDED to send PIB a kiss after that silly self-degrading comment - since it's perfectly clear to all of us that PIB is one gorgeous lady.
But in terms of my "mwah" allergy....
It's all about context you know:
If some random person who has never met or talked to me sends me a picture of his bits and a great big "Mwah!"
Well you know the thing is - I believe you gotta be REAL on this site. People here are not JUST going to interact with you in this false little virtual bubble. Most of you are coming on here to connect so you can MEET and hopefully Play with these people. (and those who aren't here to meet, are very open about the fact that they only want chat)
BUT We are not a bunch of teenagers chatting on mixit.
The truth is I do not know of a single actual REAL human adult male, who is straight, who actually goes around saying things like "mwah!"
I mean, I really would prefer a man who regularly says MANLY things like "Argh!" (pirate style) and "Grrr" before I'd be interested in "Mwah"! It's a complete turn off to get virtual air kisses from a guy - immediately I think "immature closet gay" whether it's really true or not, I'm still put off. I don't know why men think women want them to be girly. I like my men hairy and manly and gruff and rugged, without a mwah in sight!
BTW If you're not planning on meeting me (our profile is very clear that, that is our intention) then you shouldn't be sending me messages anyway. And if you're not a teenager then you shouldn't be acting like one. Btw - I'm quite clear about not wanting to interact with teenagers either!
Seriously Gerrie, would you walk into a bar, see a hot chick, and whip out your bits wave them at her and shout Mwah!
I mean that's ridiculous behaviour right? You could get arrested for that.
SH is a PUBLIC PLACE, just like a bar - that kind of behaviour gets EXACTLY the same reaction from me, as it would if someone did it to my face IRL. I call the men in white coats and have them carted off... Or sometimes I just spank them.
Depends on how I feel.... and whether I have a paddle handy :twisted:
Being a real man I'm going to ignore everything you said and just do the opposite of what you want and say mwah and pull it out in a public place saying it :sticky::wanker:
Quote by LeeEC
I highly recommend going to your nearest naughty lingerie shop rather than going net shopping for these types of things.
Sizes online are notoriously erroneous!
Plus, you never can be certain of quality, and I don't know about you but I hate feeling ripped off.
I recommend asking a female friend wear she would go in your area, to buy sexy naughty undies or a sexy nurse costume, that's where you're most likely to find one. its highly unlikely to be a place like adultworld.
Call the place beforehand and ask them whether they have the pearl thong to save time and face on the buying front.
Normally I would agree with you, but if you take the time to simply contact an online seller to clarify a few things you generally save a lot of money. I have bought nearly all the naughty things I've bought online, and never had a disappointment yet. Compare it to some of the prices you see in some naughty shops, its well worth the risk in my opinion
Quote by LeeEC
Hi
My 2c...
Stop paying attention to the issue til it stops being an issue...
You don't look at certain kinds of profiles.... I don't look at married singles, or people further away than 300kms, or people who won't put pictures up on the site, or "couples" who aren't married to each other but are married to other people.... I won't consider profiles of single guys under 30, or anyone over 60... or people who "mwah" me in their mails (argh!) or people whose emails I can't understand.... and the list goes on. Just put THOSE profiles on your "no-go" list. That way you aren't disappointed, simply practical.
And if you look at my list above and then you look at the profiles on this site from the Eastern Cape - then you'll have a new perspective on "the pickings are few!"
And then you won't feel so bad about it....
Besides guys - why would you want to shag someone who doesn't want to shag you?!
You wouldn't - so good riddance to them!
So then we sound perfect for each other, fancy a shag mwah :P:P:P
Lol no I myself wouldn't put my goods through one nor do anything to one sticking through, but it's always been a fantasy of mine to have a lady I'm with do it to a guy while I watch (if that makes sense)
Then again I've always had that fantasy of having the woman I'm with blindfolded and having a friend have sex with her that she never knows which friend it was
With the forum being a little bit slow today I figure I might as well start a topic myself.
Who here has tried out doing the whole gloryhole thing and what is everyones' thoughts and opinions on it?
Personally I find the idea hot but the whole danger aspect sounds a bit too much to actually really do it, like dogging I suppose lol
Quote by Gerrie2012
I still prefer intelligent conversations ...... if the youngsters can keep up with that I will participate,
but when it comes to shagging I prefer intelligent / mature / older (married) ladies (in any order!!)
I do find myself wanting to change the age barrier especially when I get A LOT OF intelligence & maturity!
Sheesh, you women can smuggle with my ....... Ummmmmmm (what again? forgot!)
One thing I can definitely tell you is that age has no correlation with intelligence and intelligent conversation. Maybe if you take experience in all factors of life into consideration yes, maybe then the conversation might feel more intelligent (if that makes any sense whatsoever)
Quote by Rob_69
None of the images would have to be uploaded to this site, however we wouldn't want anything inappropriate in here, so no porn or anything dodgy.
Find an image that you wish to display in a post, then right click on the image and copy the image url, depending on the browser you use, you may have to look in properties, when you have the image URL, you paste it into the image tags.
So one thing you can't do is load an image from your machine directly right? - those you would have to put into your albums?
Surely pictures should be able to be uploaded to third party image hosting sites like photobucket and the forum img code should show the image directly on here. Actually let me test it quickly
There it works
so obviously you wouldn't want to upload naughty photos to photobucket, but for general pics on your pc you'd like to share in the forum, just upload to photobucket, save it, copy the img code given on the pic you uploaded onto photobucket and paste it in your post and voilaEdit: Excuse the double post, meant to click edit and obviously clicked quote or reply
Quote by MattLeeEC
None of the images would have to be uploaded to this site, however we wouldn't want anything inappropriate in here, so no porn or anything dodgy.
Find an image that you wish to display in a post, then right click on the image and copy the image url, depending on the browser you use, you may have to look in properties, when you have the image URL, you paste it into the image tags.
So one thing you can't do is load an image from your machine directly right? - those you would have to put into your albums?
Surely pictures should be able to be uploaded to third party image hosting sites like photobucket and the forum img code should show the image directly on here. Actually let me test it quickly
Quote by LeeEC
Participate in a lot of forums online, it's a shame this one is so quiet so I love the idea of a bribe and will try to participate as much as possible
Well it was quiet, but then you joined us! Now there more *new people's* contributions on this thread then I've seen in ages!
Must be fate
At the end of the day, people will always have their preferences and tolerances... It's the same as talking about anal, and bisexuality, body type and such. Everyone will always be different depending on how we've grown up, what we've experienced in life, etc.
I don't think it's fair to question preferences as much as I understand your viewpoint since everyone will always be different and it should be respected
I actually thought of this one today and this will probably qualify as weird but it sounds hot to me
I'm with an older couple having a hot mfm threesome, they are being dominant in the scenario and tell me to lay down as she climbs onto me in a 69 position and sucks my cock.
At the same time he fucks her doggy style giving me a good view bringing her to a hot orgasm where she squirts on my face, he pulls out obviously for it so i can suck her dry before he continues.
Eventually he cums in her and slides out and she buries her pussy on my mouth riding my face as I have to suck her clean to another orgasm before she climbs onto me and rides me until I can't take it anymore and cum over her breasts
Quote by Pussinboots1
Ash.... that is a *normal POPULAR *fantasy from my point of view, but then you must also remember I am totally wired weirdly.....
HOW about some of you men get invited to serve a few ladies in the only way a male can serve us....
I get to hoist you guys UP in a ROPE suspension, that keeps you guys helpless except leave your genitals and heads wide open ..
I have given you guys each a Viagra so you can not LOOSE your erections once I got it going , and IT is NOW showing off with a nice cock ring.
The ladies walk around you guys.
Touching you
Stroking you
Sucking and licking you.
Some slip on a condom and use you guys as you in your rope suspension to give momentum to your body as they ride you...
Some go and stand over your faces for q nice mouth bath..;-)
This goes on while We ladies swim, sunbathe and chat...ad watch what is happening to you guys....
Now this is what I call a *weird* fantasy...
Scary to some of you yeah???
That's actually pretty bloody good lol and I thought I had some strange ones
Hey sometimes you get lucky, sometimes you don't...
Some handy tips:
Personalize private messages, don't copy paste or use computer generated messages and winks
Upload a face pic or 2 to your public profile, it may help
If you are going to upload naked pics, add it to a pvt album and only invite those who ask to view it
Try to become friends, friendship is number one for most people here, don't try to seem desperate
Take some time to make your profile good and honest as possible, nothing worse than a quick draft profile
You might get lucky, you might not. I've made a few good friends on here already and I'm very happy so far, awesome people here
