before my divorce: Mr and Ms Smith
after my divorce: Lock stock and two smoking barrels.
Like others have said, it comes down to what you looking for and how others perceive you. ive been on this site for less than a week, met a woman from my area for a breakfast date which turned into the most adventurous public holiday ive ever had. Maybe thats just pure random luck though i still believe that perception is everything. Be honest with your intentions and realistic with your expectations.
Im no expert, im considered young by most but a long time ago i learnt that a woman's biggest sexual organ isnt between her legs , its her mind.
my 2cents.
I think the problem with most single guys is that they not really interested in the lifestyle, they are merely aroused by the idea of it ,so when "push comes to shove" they are perhaps nervous and realise its not really what they want so they dont pitch. Then there are those guys who start to behave awkward after they had an orgasm and just want get out of there, spoiling the whole purpose of the evening.