Quote by Jaycee
Hehehe, in our case I actually found that because Chanel and I were both women and understand women's emotions the emotional support we gave each other was one of the best things ever. 🤣
When a woman gets in a foul mood because of something hubby did (or just because of anything non-particular) she phones her best female friend to vent...now imagine if she is in love with that best friend, and that she lived with her and was there to give instant undivided support. 💖
There were times where Chanel would also go through rough personal times, and Jay would think he had done something wrong. I think it helped a lot when I would explain to him that it had nothing to do with him.
Damn, I miss her now. 😢
Yes, the trickiest part of living a truly polyamorous life is the management of each person's daily life and career. The plain old nilla stuff. Case in point being; Chanel getting an opportunity so far away that it becomes highly unlikely that the relationship will ever be the same again.
In my personal experience, if the parties involved play both or more sides of the gender spectrum, especially on the female side, jealousy issues that do surface are more about spending quality time than anything else. Living together makes this much easier and things can and do flow more naturally.
It also doesn't help if one's kids and/or other family members get excluded from this dynamic. It is surprising to see the healthier buildup of relationships forming when everything one would typically find happening in a standard monogamous relationship happens equally but is amplified by the number of involved persons.
Communication is absolutely key in ANY relationship, even the ones you have with your employer, kid, inlaws, your neighbour... Being in love and in a loving relationship with more than one person at the same time is not only possible, it's natural. If people can't love others equally, although slightly differently, how can any of us be parents to more than one child for example?
Sex is NOT a must, nor even an element of love. It can't ever be. It sure is a fun component, but it counts for almost nothing when one looks at the true meaning of relationships. It's the connections, the commitments, the reliability, the work and the effort that people put into each other that counts. If you can't be best friends with a person, then the "love" you may be feeling is probably nothing more than "fragile lust."
