It is on from Thursday 26 September until Sunday 29 September.
Since they moved to Nasrec last year, there is much more space, and I found it easier to move around and see the things I am interested in.
I loved the Kinks area, and got to see a candle-wax demonstration last year, which was very erotic to watch!
Sexpo is just like any other expo, there is a lot of sex stuff. What I love about SEXPO is the vibe, the shows, the openness, seeing how many people are there to improve their sex lives...
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Pan White/Caucasian Non-binary, 37
Heteroflexible White/Caucasian Cis Male, 39
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Thumper although I believe there are a few men like you on this site - playing with full permission from their wives, I also think that the majority of married men playing alone are doing so without their wives' consent.
Playing behind someone's back is my definition cheating. Which leads to what Deviants mentioned about trust and respect.
On the note of getting STIs and other nasty things, people seem to make the assumption that only sex workers carry such things. I would be interested to know how many of the active lifestylers get full STI screenings, and expect the same from their playmates? One of the biggest reasons STIs get spread at the rapid rate that they do, is because many people are unaware that they have the STIs in the first place.
Back to the original question of this thread, if you are playing with your partner's consent, then that should be stated on your profile. That way prospective playmates know that you are for real, and that if necessary, your partner is contactable to confirm her/his consent. The same goes for the unicorns who are partnered.
What we have an issue is the playing *behind your partner's back*
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From a lady's perspective.
I never used to enjoy porn. It all looked fake, as if things were done for the camera, not for pleasure.
Also, more often than not, the porn I used to find looked very much like *she* was being used as a masterbatory aid for the man/men, rather than as a sexual partner.
That being said. Once I have tried something, I like to look for porn where the people involved are doing something similar to what I enjoyed. So my actions influence my porn viewing more than the other way around.
I have found that Amateur porn, where there are more average looking bodies on screen, and where the camera doesn't pick up on everything, but it is obvious that the people involved are really enjoying themselves - that is the only kind of porn which I really enjoy watching. I guess that is why I like the cams in the chatrooms, sometimes we get lucky and there are people having sex on cam 
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As far as I know, most people are unaware of how to put condoms on correctly...
To my knowledge, a condom should be rolleddown an erect penis.
Reasons I am aware of that can make condoms ineffective:
*using lubrication that weakens the structural integrity of condoms (vaseline, cooking oil, butter, some store-bought lubes)
*unrolling the condom a bit first, then pulling it down the shaft of the penis
*using more than one male condom at a time
*not ensuring that there is no air trapped in the condom (avoided by squeezing the nipple of the condom when putting it on, and keeping it squeezed when rolling the condom down to the base of the erect penis)
This is just what I have picked up over the years...
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As far as I know, most people are unaware of how to put condoms on correctly...
To my knowledge, a condom should be rolleddown an erect penis.
Reasons I am aware of that can make condoms ineffective:
*using lubrication that weakens the structural integrity of condoms (vaseline, cooking oil, butter, some store-bought lubes)
*unrolling the condom a bit first, then pulling it down the shaft of the penis
*using more than one male condom at a time
*not ensuring that there is no air trapped in the condom (avoided by squeezing the nipple of the condom when putting it on, and keeping it squeezed when rolling the condom down to the base of the erect penis)
This is just what I have picked up over the years...
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Thanks SDMR
I felt a bit awkward asking to put some lube on his cock... But I think that is the first step in discovering how to play with cut cocks 
I am awaiting my durex massage oil to be delivered :twisted:
That way I know it is safe to put a condom on when we are done playing around....
We have some amazing stuff that our tantric lady showed us, it is called EPIZONE E and is available at Dischems and I'm sure Clicks and other such places... Anyway, it makes an awesome massage oil. I just don't think it is safe for use with condoms.
Also, I can't use it on my pussy, I am the first person who had a reaction to the stuff in our tantric lady's experience...
She then suggested coconut oil, but that had a numbing effect!!!!
So plain lube for pussy massages on me.... but the epizone works wonders when I'm massaging K's cock
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I am awaiting my durex massage oil to be delivered :twisted:
That way I know it is safe to put a condom on when we are done playing around....
We have some amazing stuff that our tantric lady showed us, it is called EPIZONE E and is available at Dischems and I'm sure Clicks and other such places... Anyway, it makes an awesome massage oil. I just don't think it is safe for use with condoms.
Also, I can't use it on my pussy, I am the first person who had a reaction to the stuff in our tantric lady's experience...
She then suggested coconut oil, but that had a numbing effect!!!!
So plain lube for pussy massages on me.... but the epizone works wonders when I'm massaging K's cock
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C So I need some advice please :-P
I love playing with cock, but I struggle with circumcised men...
K is uncircumcised, and seems quite happy for me to play around with his cock. It took me quite a while - of just playing with it - to figure out how to give him a hand job that is enjoyable...
My difficulty arises when it comes to playing with circumcised men... I feel that I don't quite know what to do with their cocks -with my hands! *my mouth eagerly tries to cover up for this perceived inadequacy*
But seriously! How does one go about playing with cut cock???
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PIB I completely agree!
I have only been commenting on the forums where I have an opinion, or have something to add.
And sadly, there haven't been many of those...
But I always enjoy reading what everyone else has to say!
As for your kinky posts! I always enjoy them! I may be a bit afraid to try some of your stuff out - without a pro like you there to show me the *ropes*, but I love reading about them, and playing with the ideas in my mind
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C PIB, I sometimes need to fart during oral sex... when that is the case, I usually stop the person giving me pleasure, and run out of *smelling range*.
So far I have not farted in anyone's face during oral... but as soon as that feeling arises, it is very difficult to focus on the pleasure I am receiving! So I run off for a few seconds, come back and play continues
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C @ash, That makes a lot of sense! I have never thought about sex needing warm-up and stretch time.... But since the cramps are a bit worse in the cold, it makes sense! I will get K to stretch my legs out as part of the foreplay ;)
I got a PM with some great advice as well, to take vitamins or supplements to prevent cramps.
I take a magnesium supplement and Omega Oils, which do reduce the cramps. The problem is that the vitamins I take change the flavour of my cum. K is used to it :twisted: but for our playmates who have never had a lady squirt on them before... it can be quite a shock 
So I dont take any vitamins the day of play, to help sweeten my cum
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So I dont take any vitamins the day of play, to help sweeten my cum
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I am the only one who gets these strange cramps during our play dates so far...
And it is either the muscle that runs down the outside of my thigh, or my groin muscles!
(The groin muscles cramped during play for the first time today!)
So, does anyone else have strange body-things that happen at *inappropriate* times?
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Quote by SDMR
yes, many years ago people used to do a lot of things at a very young age, BUT, back then they had been raised in very hard times, and were way more emotionally mature (and capable) than the majority of people twice their age are today.
I think that times are always hard. I have met some amazingly resilient people from different generations, and some laughably immature people from different generations. I think it is silly to think that because people are born during a certain time, they are more likely to be emotionally mature. People are individuals who respond to situations differently, and understand the world differently. Many people today are struggling with difficulties, some are a reflections of the times such as cyber-bullying and such, and others have the same difficulties that have been affecting people since time began, such as debt related issues....
just my 2c
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I get why lovers make videos
I find that watching a video of myself having sex, or just pleasuring myself is a huge turn on, both for me and for K
I have a feeling that the reason revenge porn exists, is because when the relationship is still good, and there is trust, all parties involved are happy for the recording to happen, that way they get to re-live the experience in the future. However, when the relationship goes sour... then those fun videos become weapons.
And we all know that it is the female in the video that "gets into trouble". It's almost as if the male in the videos is a hero, or completely ignored, and the female gets all the slack.
Just my 2c
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I find that me being on top is the better with regards to not choking on a weird-angle erection...
However, if you lie on your sides, like spooning, but head to toe... then there isn't the whole "I'm gonna smother the poor person beneath me" thought... you can also then use your thighs to keep the person's head in place while squirming...
Just what we have played with...
I still prefer to sit over their face though :twisted:
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@Kawai, When K was still at varsity, he asked me to stop biting his neck, and I moved to his shoulder, just under where the Tshirt sits.... anyway, one of his lecturers asked if we had broken up, because he no longer had bite marks on his neck! lol
@PIB, lets just say that any stiffness melted in my mouth, ahem, once I let go... In all fairness, I did ask about his feelings with regards to teeth and biting... I guess neither of us expected the power behind that bite!
Please please please send me a *O* ball gag! My biggest obstacle is often getting the pillow to my mouth in time for the scream when we are in interesting positions... :twisted:
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What PIB! No matter what our cum faces look like, our partners and playmates should revel in the pleasure of being witness to such faces!
At the very least it means that they were witness to an amazing orgasm, and if they are lucky enough to have been part of the process, they should be proud to see these faces!
Also, they will then be able to tell a true cum face from the *faked orgasm* faces...
I have no idea what my face looks like... But I FEEL amazing!
Because I am a screamer, I often have a pillow I'm biting down on to muffle the screams...
If there is *anything* near my mouth I tend to bite down on it... which didn't work out so well with our one playmate in the 69 position...
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Hopefully when I'm older, I will still be able to participate in sexual activity, and not just lie there like a dead person.
(That is what your jokes were about right? How sex with your wife is a masturbatory experience akin to putting lubed up cling wrap between the couch cushions?)
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That is really horrible! What is the point of having profiles that say such things if people do not read them!
They approached you first!
I always wonder what makes people say "really like your profile" if they haven't read it yet?!
If race is an issue, surely that would be one of the first things they would look at when looking for potential playmates?
Sorry shit like this happened to you!
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I don't know...
We regularly chat with people on the site, and we do our best efforts to arrange a meet. Our biggest issue is that we are relatively busy people, and so are the people we are interested in... so finding a time when we are all available has been our biggest obstacle.
We try to always reply to legitimate messages, even if it is with a no-thanks.
If it is obvious that they have not read our profile... then we ignore the message, because frankly why must we take the time to respond when someone clearly hasn't taken the time to read our profile.
We also do not respond to people who randomly send us friend requests without a simple "hello" message; or to people who send us invites to their private albums without any conversation prior to that.
In conclusion, we have had quite a few meet 'n greets, as well as some playdates... I guess perseverance and making sure there is at least a mental connection before meeting up has been why we domeet the people we meet?
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We regularly chat with people on the site, and we do our best efforts to arrange a meet. Our biggest issue is that we are relatively busy people, and so are the people we are interested in... so finding a time when we are all available has been our biggest obstacle.
We try to always reply to legitimate messages, even if it is with a no-thanks.
If it is obvious that they have not read our profile... then we ignore the message, because frankly why must we take the time to respond when someone clearly hasn't taken the time to read our profile.
We also do not respond to people who randomly send us friend requests without a simple "hello" message; or to people who send us invites to their private albums without any conversation prior to that.
In conclusion, we have had quite a few meet 'n greets, as well as some playdates... I guess perseverance and making sure there is at least a mental connection before meeting up has been why we domeet the people we meet?
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Yay! Softkitty!
I am soo happy for you!! Towels are great for worrying about messes....
On the topic of crossing the red sea, I am always really horny the week before I come on, and it doesnt quite go away while I am on! We often land up having sex in the shower, that way any kind of mess doesnt matter ;)
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It's true I was also surprised to discover that it's not connected to orgasm....
And there are specific positions that seem to trigger it too.
Absolutely!
Doggy and Scissors are the most successful squirting positions for me :twisted:
We now always take a towel when we have play dates....
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Yes squirting definitely exists
I am a happy squirter, however, we only discovered my squirting ability fairly recently!
The interesting thing for me, is that it is not always connected to orgasm, although it does feel GREAT!
Orgasm and squirting are two different sensations, both can be better, or less intense, depending on many factors such as mood, stress levels and excitement...
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I am a happy squirter, however, we only discovered my squirting ability fairly recently!
The interesting thing for me, is that it is not always connected to orgasm, although it does feel GREAT!
Orgasm and squirting are two different sensations, both can be better, or less intense, depending on many factors such as mood, stress levels and excitement...
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