Quote by laidbackguy
Hi All,
Just something i have noticed and it bothers me and possibly allot of other single guys too.
If you are a couple (or single lady) NOT looking for a guy to join you >>>
Look at your profile and check that it does not have under the LOOKING FOR SECTION >> Straight Male <<
This will prevent you from being picked up in searches and will reduce the number of inbox messages from unwanted single guys.
Thanks and lets play nice ;-)
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Id say PIB is always way ahead of us on this one her pics are the highlight my day...
We have 3 big bitches.
1) Keep getting people from Cape Town, Durban, Bloemfontein and places out side our 50 Km mark. It is a pain as one can not meet and play as it cost way to much to travel. Can people not read where one is based.
2) What can on do to stop been flooded with single men and or men that play on there own, which is all most all men on this site.
3) All the women that say they are single and or Bi that do not reply when one contacts them taking they say couples and 3sum FMF.
What the hell are you doing on this site as it looks like you do not know the first thing about swinging.
Then why does ones age have to do with any thing and mainly if you are over 50. Must one drop dead at that age?
Then have to say the new look main page to us does not work at all. What one need's is a front page where one can say NO to single men or couple or women or what ever.
That is our 5 cents sorry lets make it 5 rand comment.
Why do married men put old photos of their wives on display, but when you get a recent photo the appearances are totally deceived. i have had made contact with a number of these and found that all of them are deceitful. Even the ages stated are incorrect. Another a lot of couples want others couples with BI curious females - why ask for couples with Bi curious females when you know the Hubby will become excess baggage. What do you the couple that only want the female expect the Hubby to do?. There are some genuine people out there and we are hoping that our luck will change so we can meet them.
Hi guys
After a recent experience with my wife's toyboy we were curious to see if our SH account was still open. We were like, "Why don't we do this more often!?" And what do you know, like the vampire Lestat sleeping in a tomb, "smalltowncouple" was eagerly awaiting it's resurrection. So we jumped on the party bus, took some pics, wrote down a profile description and then...
...then we realised our profile description had the same bitter tone as anyone else's. I started remembering why we left the site (twice already) before!
Now before I continue I have to make something clear. We stay in the platteland and the pickings here oppieplaas is maar skraal. Meeting people you connect with on the site is almost impossible as we can only travel over weekends; IF there's no school sport, IF I'm not on standby and IF we can find a babysitter. And that's before we've set up a playdate. Nevertheless, hope (and hornyness) is a strange, sometimes consuming fire.
Back to my story. The first profile description I wrote left a dead animal smell in my mouth. It was extremely negative, with phrases like; we know what we want..., all winks will be deleted..., looking to meet SERIOUS people..., not going to accept your friend request if we haven't even talked..., no married men..., NO SINGLE MEN, NO SINGLE MEN, NO SINGLE MEN!!!... and of course the brown, boring, about as useful as a WWE referee, paragraph: WARNING: Any person or institution blah blah blahdiblah...
We write these things, because we've all had shit experiences with people in the past. We want to be safe, not have to worry and just have a fucking good time! But unfortunately people are arseholes. This we know. It's not news. And does these warnings and rules deter single guys from sending you dicpics or winks??? No. It doesn't. Because men are always jags. Deal.
I feel like we're stating the obvious too much, instead of being a tad more personal, vulnerable and creative. You don't have to open their emails, private albums or winks. Just put it in the bin, guy. Report them if they don't behave. Or name and shame the cowards and hollow bastards that don't show up for dates. Or even better, praise the ones who are great folks! I really think we should use our instinct and street smart spidersense to sort out the kief from the kak. And isn't this part of the game??? Make peace with it or move along.
But when we post negative phrases like that on our profile, it spoils the mood man. It gives power to the dark side. It makes us appear self involved, shallow, ignorant and weak. And who wants a lover like that.
Guys, I know it's tough. We know. We had some horrible experiences, BUT some great ones. People we still love to this day and wish we could see more.
Be the change. You are inside the world outside. Just be lekker.
smalltown, you welcome to pop in my place anytime to rest those weary legs. We are in similar space, re-joined after 3 or more years. some profiles read like instruction manuals. I also observed "crossing the racial line" is more prominent and folks dont sound embarrassed even.
Single women are the biggest percentage of" pale face" only.
Being positive, i put it down to a class thing or unintended racism. Not fair guys. If you look at percentages, we pdi's find it hard. really!! There are 80 % caucasian, then you look at your region, eliminate the single profiles, the ages, distance,etc, etc, etc, then our pickings are slim.
C'mon people, lets get "rainbowy " again. It does not look like we winning any World cup soon, so lets spread the love already.
Smalltown, you started something, buddy.
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smalltown, you welcome to pop in my place anytime to rest those weary legs. We are in similar space, re-joined after 3 or more years. some profiles read like instruction manuals. I also observed "crossing the racial line" is more prominent and folks dont sound embarrassed even.
Single women are the biggest percentage of" pale face" only.
Being positive, i put it down to a class thing or unintended racism. Not fair guys. If you look at percentages, we pdi's find it hard. really!! There are 80 % caucasian, then you look at your region, eliminate the single profiles, the ages, distance,etc, etc, etc, then our pickings are slim.
C'mon people, lets get "rainbowy " again. It does not look like we winning any World cup soon, so lets spread the love already.
Smalltown, you started something, buddy.
If only you were closer, tjom. Yes, racial issues are strange for me and you, but I guess everyone has their own kinks and quirks. My wife hasn't been with a man outside her race. She wants to, but it's very mental for her. But I respect that. It's her choice.
People are strange. We should totally get together and make a top deck ;)