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Hi All, Just something i have noticed and it bothers me and possibly allot of other single guys too. If you are a couple (or single lady) NOT looking for a guy to join you >>> Look at your profile and check that it does not have under the LOOKING FOR SECTION >> Straight Male << This will prevent you from being picked up in searches and will reduce the number of inbox messages from unwanted single guys. Thanks and lets play nice ;-)
So, like most others in the regular column I don't have anything to say, but I thought I would just say it here . . . . . Why on earth does everyone (almost) suddenly have nothing to say?
Ha ha ha. .. a post to say you have nothing to say. .. How bored are you?
I would say we need an image of the day thread but I remember the drama last time I tried to explain how to post pictures
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I would say we need an image of the day thread but I remember the drama last time I tried to explain how to post pictures

then why not take the responsibility of posting the image of the day (everyday) and the rest of us will give our 2 cents worth? lol
Id say PIB is always way ahead of us on this one her pics are the highlight my day...
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Id say PIB is always way ahead of us on this one her pics are the highlight my day...

Where do you draw the line between fat and curvy.....Fat or curvy chicks that looks like fat beetles.I personally like thick fat about 10kg over weight.
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Hi All,
Just something i have noticed and it bothers me and possibly allot of other single guys too.
If you are a couple (or single lady) NOT looking for a guy to join you >>>
Look at your profile and check that it does not have under the LOOKING FOR SECTION >> Straight Male <<
This will prevent you from being picked up in searches and will reduce the number of inbox messages from unwanted single guys.
Thanks and lets play nice ;-)

Also noticed that smile would think that people can at least complete the multiple choice part of their profiles. They dont and then get peeved if you ask them to please complete their profile..../????????
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Id say PIB is always way ahead of us on this one her pics are the highlight my day...

Where do you draw the line between fat and curvy.....Fat or curvy chicks that looks like fat beetles.I personally like thick fat about 10kg over weight.
Its about the woman...sensuality, sexiness comes from within there is no definitive "line". Its in the way she laughs, a twinkle in her eye, the way she walks there nothing more beautiful than a confident woman.
So fat beetles you say well then I guess I'm into insects then who knew...
Well done curvesahead I totally agree with you! What's the issue with people always commenting about fat people we are sometimes healthier than skinnier people. But ja nevertheless being confident is the biggest turn on for most men (and women). So scrap what others say you are beautifull no matter what they say. Its usually those who have a problem with fat people who have low self esteems
I like to find the beauty that is within.

We have 3 big bitches.

1) Keep getting people from Cape Town, Durban, Bloemfontein and places out side our 50 Km mark. It is a pain as one can not meet and play as it cost way to much to travel. Can people not read where one is based.

 2) What can on do to stop been flooded with single men and or men that play on there own, which is all most all men on this site.

3) All the women that say they are single and or Bi that do not reply when one contacts them taking they say couples and 3sum FMF.

What the hell are you doing on this site as it looks like you do not know the first thing about swinging.

Then why does ones age have to do with any thing and mainly if you are over 50. Must one drop dead at that age?

Then have to say the new look main page to us does not work at all. What one need's is a front page where one can say NO to single men or couple or women or what ever.

That is our 5 cents sorry lets make it 5 rand comment.

lol well not everybody can read

I am new on this side i think it is a great side bud here is the big bud im am willing to go and have wat is greate hard sex comes to the puch .no one availeble

I am new on this side i think it is a great side bud here is the big bud im am willing to go and have wat is greate hard sex comes to the puch .no one availeble

No, nothing, no one, zero, nada, zippo avaible here, I wonder why ............

thats 5 dollars worth, buddy. right on. some profiles read like instruction manuals..others actually discourages one...why are they on here..?

why is it cool n sexy to be a bi woman but a man almost has to be coy..

new_but_not...who said you have to be coy? If someone has an issue with you being bi...on a swingers site, of all places...they need to move on. But...not sure all the bi girl are bi just to be "cool and sexy"...

hi local, some hubbies are paranoid. no crossing of swords!! not even by accident. ya, its not that the ladies want to be, but it is an perception that bi ladies are more uninhibited..unintended prejudice or bigotry...lol

Why do married men put old photos of their wives on display, but when you get a recent photo the appearances are totally deceived. i have had made contact  with a number of these and found that all of them are deceitful. Even the ages stated are incorrect. Another a lot of couples want others couples with BI curious females - why ask for couples with Bi curious females when you know the Hubby will become excess baggage. What do you the couple that only want the female expect the Hubby to do?. There are some genuine people out there and we are hoping that our luck will change so we can meet them.

Sponge...when a couple asks for a couple with a bi/bi curious female, this does not automatically mean the hubby is excess baggage. We as a couple's more than ok with her playing alone...different strokes hey.

Hi guys

After a recent experience with my wife's toyboy we were curious to see if our SH account was still open.  We were like, "Why don't we do this more often!?" And what do you know, like the vampire Lestat sleeping in a tomb, "smalltowncouple" was eagerly awaiting it's resurrection.  So we jumped on the party bus, took some pics, wrote down a profile description and then...

...then we realised our profile description had the same bitter tone as anyone else's.  I started remembering why we left the site (twice already) before! 

Now before I continue I have to make something clear. We stay in the platteland and the pickings here oppieplaas is maar skraal. Meeting people you connect with on the site is almost impossible as we can only travel over weekends; IF there's no school sport, IF I'm not on standby and IF we can find a babysitter.  And that's before we've set up a playdate. Nevertheless, hope (and hornyness) is a strange, sometimes consuming fire.

Back to my story. The first profile description I wrote left a dead animal smell in my mouth. It was extremely negative, with phrases like; we know what we want..., all winks will be deleted..., looking to meet SERIOUS people..., not going to accept your friend request if we haven't even talked..., no married men..., NO SINGLE MEN, NO SINGLE MEN, NO SINGLE MEN!!!... and of course the brown, boring, about as useful as a WWE referee, paragraph: WARNING: Any person or institution blah blah blahdiblah...

We write these things, because we've all had shit experiences with people in the past. We want to be safe, not have to worry and just have a fucking good time! But unfortunately people are arseholes. This we know. It's not news. And does these warnings and rules deter single guys from sending you dicpics or winks??? No. It doesn't. Because men are always jags. Deal.

I feel like we're stating the obvious too much, instead of being a tad more personal, vulnerable and creative. You don't have to open their emails, private albums or winks. Just put it in the bin, guy.  Report them if they don't behave. Or name and shame the cowards and hollow bastards that don't show up for dates. Or even better, praise the ones who are great folks! I really think we should use our instinct and street smart spidersense to sort out the kief from the kak. And isn't this part of the game??? Make peace with it or move along. 

But when we post negative phrases like that on our profile, it spoils the mood man. It gives power to the dark side. It makes us appear self involved, shallow, ignorant and weak. And who wants a lover like that.

Guys, I know it's tough. We know. We had some horrible experiences, BUT some great ones. People we still love to this day and wish we could see more.

Be the change. You are inside the world outside. Just be lekker.

*Gives a standing ovation to Smalltowncouple*

Agreed, 100%....there is bad profiles...but sift through the BS and you get to meet awesome people and have crazy fun.

smalltown, you welcome to pop in my place anytime to rest those weary legs. We are in similar space, re-joined after 3 or more years. some profiles read like instruction manuals. I also observed "crossing the racial line" is more prominent and folks dont sound embarrassed even.

Single women are the biggest percentage of" pale face" only.

Being positive, i put it down to a class thing or unintended racism. Not fair guys. If you look at percentages, we pdi's find it hard. really!! There are 80 % caucasian, then you look at your region, eliminate the single profiles, the ages, distance,etc, etc, etc, then our pickings are slim.

C'mon people, lets get "rainbowy " again. It does not look like we winning any World cup soon, so lets spread the love already.

Smalltown, you started something, buddy.

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smalltown, you welcome to pop in my place anytime to rest those weary legs. We are in similar space, re-joined after 3 or more years. some profiles read like instruction manuals. I also observed "crossing the racial line" is more prominent and folks dont sound embarrassed even.
Single women are the biggest percentage of" pale face" only.

Being positive, i put it down to a class thing or unintended racism. Not fair guys. If you look at percentages, we pdi's find it hard. really!! There are 80 % caucasian, then you look at your region, eliminate the single profiles, the ages, distance,etc, etc, etc, then our pickings are slim.
C'mon people, lets get "rainbowy " again. It does not look like we winning any World cup soon, so lets spread the love already.
Smalltown, you started something, buddy.

 If only you were closer, tjom.  Yes, racial issues are strange for me and you, but I guess everyone has their own kinks and quirks.  My wife hasn't been with a man outside her race.  She wants to, but it's very mental for her.  But I respect that.  It's her choice.  

People are strange.  We should totally get together and make a top deck ;)


There is nothing going on here I screwed my mom in law wanna hear a story then become active

Why are there so many unknowns all of a sudden