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What is a Racial line? Does the so called racial line only count when the wives are browsing with their hubby's and when wifey disappears then the hubby's browse through the "Prohibited Profiles" on SH and send their fantacy comments, or maybe its that we want to try new things and write on our profiles " Whites only, We don't cross the racial line etc" just for our other swinging buddies not to look down on us. Come on guys being open minded is exactly that.
We are honest on our profile and our preferences are listed, not to impress our friends or to offend anyone, but to give folks who may be interested in us an idea of what we are like and whom we are likely to be attracted to. Race; age; smoking preferences; drinking habits; body type; sexual preferences/taboos; gender preferences; geographical area and hobbies are but a few categories which describe preferences or dislikes. The idea is that: folk who are not likely to be attractive to us do not waste their time contacting us. Makes it easier for everyone to find their match. Being "open-minded" should not be confused with "indifference". If one is indifferent then one is likely to have sex with anyone and everyone; however; there are those who have a "type" of person they find attractive and only want to meet and/or play with folk whom they find attractive. This does not make them not open-minded, just discerning.
Strange how many all white couples have approached us to meet or chat yet their profile states whites only, we find that a little confussing.....wouldn't you?
We do find that extremely confusing, however, we happily make friends of all races....we choose not to play with all races....maybe you should ask them why? I, for one, would be interested in their reply!
We have asked...either there is no response, disappearing act or a shocked person on the otherside of the keyboard not knowing what to type so they try and change the subject or the best one "Oh does our profile really say that"
You might find that one partner might not be willing yet the other is well.... unconcerned? It happens - I don't know if we've even discussed it... lol
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Strange how many all white couples have approached us to meet or chat yet their profile states whites only, we find that a little confussing.....wouldn't you?

People often don't really read what the profile says, especially if there are photo's attached to the profile. And there are people who want to "experiment" with people of a different race, make contact and then simply freak out when they get a positive response. This is one of those things that I would suggest you don't let bother you too much, yes, I know it can be frustrating sometimes, but is it really worth the effort of getting upset / annoyed / etc about it?
That is EXCELLENT advice...
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Strange how many all white couples have approached us to meet or chat yet their profile states whites only, we find that a little confussing.....wouldn't you?

Inwould assume that people do look at profile pictures more than reading what their profile says. I agree with SDMR that some people want to try another race and when they do get a response they are unsure if they should really try it. I for one have had encounters with different races and it doesn't bother me. One thing is that hygiene must be a priority in all races. I have encountered that there will be a lot of time wasters before you get to the real people. Its a numbers game. Be patient and I'm sure you will find what you looking for.
does this really exist or is it borders that are built byones partner?i know a lot of male friends who would freak if there woman tried black,yet they have! my wife comes fro a very Afrikaans conservative background,yet she knows of 2 of her former school friends who have done it ....and loved it, she is in her 40"s now and onlyrecently has she intimated that she is fantasizing about an interracial experience with her very black personal trainer,i think its liberating
Just for argument sake... If I am Jewish will no German people make contact/speak/play with me? Or if I am English no one Italian will speak/contact/play with me? Or if I am Xhosa No Zulu will contact/speak/play with me? Or If I am Chinese no Hindu will speak/play/ contact me? Or as I am Afrikaans no other culture will speak/play/contact me? Okay..........I know the couple meant COLOR barriers. But are there JUST white and black here??? What about the Chinese the Indians, Coloreds, Browns and ALL the other colors under the rainbow ??? I WAS ONCE TOLD I AM PINK!!!! I am sure *thus* there must be more colors than just white and black....
How long will colour still a problem in SA. Cant people decide for them self what they whant and what not. I did not love anal sex but did not make a issue about it and if i chat about it is it wrong . People in the world have choices.
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Just for argument sake...
If I am Jewish will no German people make contact/speak/play with me?
Or if I am English no one Italian will speak/contact/play with me?
Or if I am Xhosa No Zulu will contact/speak/play with me?
Or If I am Chinese no Hindu will speak/play/ contact me?
Or as I am Afrikaans no other culture will speak/play/contact me?
Okay..........I know the couple meant COLOR barriers.
But are there JUST white and black here???
What about the Chinese the Indians, Coloreds, Browns and ALL the other colors under the rainbow ???
I WAS ONCE TOLD I AM PINK!!!! I am sure *thus* there must be more colors than just white and black....

It all depends what part of the body they were refering to. kiss lol
LMAO @ gorgeous..... It was at work, so it was a work related comment. It meant ALL over pink......that me as a *white* person looked pink to this *brown* lady. We *whites* sorta look all the same to her ................apparently all PINK.....
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LMAO @ gorgeous.....
It was at work, so it was a work related comment.
It meant ALL over pink......that me as a *white* person looked pink to this *brown* lady.
We *whites* sorta look all the same to her ................apparently all PINK.....

It just shows the narrow mindedness of a country that has abolished aparteid for how long now.
It really does not make me feel proud to be called a " South African".
Anyways PIB1, you can be whatever color you want. I still love you. kiss:kiss:
If you all think about it - it makes perfect sense that there are still people with hangups (coz apartheid lasted a long time and people GREW up with certain types of ingrained teachings and beliefs and it's not as simple as snapping your fingers and changing a person's childhood conditioning, not to mention those who have these issues because of traumatic events in their lives which cemented these ideas in their heads), but not wanting to have sex with a particular group of people is not the same thing as being a racist. Preferences are preferences. My husband doesn't want to have sex with a man... does that make him sexist? or just heterosexual? Why does that choice not make anyone upset? Personally if you WANT to have sex with ONLY people of races different to your own, that makes you EXACTLY like those who do not want to have sex with people of races different to their own. Preferences... What turns you on, turns you on, what turns you off, turns you off... I'm not attracted to EVERYONE.. my brain just doesn't make the colour of a person's skin the REASON I'm attracted, or not attracted, to that person. Some people think it is... I'm simply not, generally, attracted to men of pure oriental line (only ever saw one exception). Does that make me racist or certain of what I find attractive? I'm generally not really attracted to black guys - those I am attracted to tend to have very caucasian features - I'm not particularly attracted to blonde guys or overweight guys or red-head guys... though to be clear there have been exceptions in all those categories... but does that make me wrong or bad? I have met very few men in my entire life whom I'm genuinely attracted to, the majority of them are dark haired white men who are over 30 with a bit of a naughty streak and some 'age' to their features, I'm not into the 'pretty boy' look, give me Clooney over Pitt anyday.... so sue me I have a type... I'm rather partial to petite blonde girls though.... so lol
Apartheid has been abolished???????? NEVER where do you came with that statement. It is now apartheid in reverse. That is why my son can not find a job. Or am I in the wrong country, or am I lost, as the other day I was trying to look in the Gauteng map how to go to Pretoria. And I could not find Pretoria as the name has changed. So I must be lost. Joyrider lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Apartheid has been abolished????????
NEVER where do you came with that statement. It is now apartheid in reverse. That is why my son can not find a job.
Or am I in the wrong country, or am I lost, as the other day I was trying to look in the Gauteng map how to go to Pretoria. And I could not find Pretoria as the name has changed. So I must be lost.
Joyrider
lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

What you are refering to is affirmative action. LOL I don't even attempt to got to Pretoria anymore with all the name changes.
and my wife is still attracted to her gym instructor......... lol
I would like to start a petition that calls for the banning of the use of the word APARTHEID . . . . . . for too long now, we (south africans) have used the word Apartheid instead of racism. (Hear me out first) racism is present in everyday life ALL OVER THE WORLD. Look at European football, every other day someone is getting into trouble for a racist remark etc . . . . . . South Africans simply prefer to hide behind the word Apartheid, yes, Apartheid was mostly racism driven, and yes it is purely reversed these days, but call a oh wait, I can't use that word a oh wait I cant use that word . . . .racism is racism and should be dealt with as such, stop hiding behind a principal from decades ago Fuck who you want to fuck, don't fuck those who you don't want to fuck, but stop using the fucking word APARTHEID as a reason To those in charge of the site : Sorry, please don't delete my profile wink
SDMR why can they delete your profile they allowed it from the first tread put in the form
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Apartheid has been abolished????????
NEVER where do you came with that statement. It is now apartheid in reverse. That is why my son can not find a job.
Or am I in the wrong country, or am I lost, as the other day I was trying to look in the Gauteng map how to go to Pretoria. And I could not find Pretoria as the name has changed. So I must be lost.
Joyrider
lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Apartheid was a system implemented by the governance of the country during a particular time which enforced seperation of cultural groups and limitation of certain rights/quality of access to certain things for certain groups.
AND while I disagree with the idea that the terms "apartheid", "racism", 'equity'and "affirmative action" can be used interchangably to mean the same thing, Joyrider might have a point if he said "affirmative action" is just a way to reverse "apartheid" ideas - Which dear friends, was the POINT of affirmative action- though it's efficacy toward that goal, could yet be debated at length.
PLEASE show you're a educated & intelligent bunch by making sure that your posts don't indicate/imply that the word Racism is about a specific colour (white) against a specific colour group (black), or imply that Racism can be reversed - "Reverse racism" would be the action of NOT BEING RACIST! (Not redirecting your racism in a different direction or at a different group of people - that would still be called "racism"!)
Racism is judging the presence of OR applying; any attribute, to any person, of any colour BASED on the fact that they are a particular colour. Regardless of what YOUR skin colour is. (it can even be the same!)
Actually if we were to be perfectly technically accurate, saying black men have bigger dicks, while not neccessarily being an offensive statement, is QUITE RACIST, because we all know that every individual on the planet is completely unique and can not be accurately judged in ANY context for any attribute (EXCEPT the colour of their skin - least of all for their bit size!),
BY the colour of their skin.
The only Truely NON Racist generalisation one can make is: MOST black people have brown skin smile and MOST white people have pinkish to pale brown skin.... and this entirely depends on the seasons, area of residence, genetics and depth of sunburn of each individual in question. Basically to NOT be racist you need to stop judging or assuming what a person's attributes are, because of their skin colour.
I don't know - is this confusing? - I'm not sure it reads well....
:lol:
Lee
PS. And yes markwork's wife is STILL attracted to her gym instructor... and why shouldn't she be? :twisted:
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To those in charge of the site : Sorry, please don't delete my profile wink

I don't think there's any danger of that - besides - I agree and I'll defend your right to have your opinion smile
Though try to keep the language more acceptable please :)
Ha!.............. and there you and I have it.....I am PINK>>>>>>>>> as read........................ whites are pinkish to brown....yeah pink I am!!!!!!
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To those in charge of the site : Sorry, please don't delete my profile wink

I don't think there's any danger of that - besides - I agree and I'll defend your right to have your opinion smile
Though try to keep the language more acceptable please :)
Why thank kind lady (for being willing to defend me) lol
My apology was for the language that I used, While I don't normally use that kind of language in forums, it (in my opinion) was a necessary evil in this post.
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What is a Racial line?
Does the so called racial line only count when the wives are browsing with their hubby's and when wifey disappears then the hubby's browse through the "Prohibited Profiles" on SH and send their fantacy comments, or maybe its that we want to try new things and write on our profiles " Whites only, We don't cross the racial line etc" just for our other swinging buddies not to look down on us. Come on guys being open minded is exactly that.

Funny thing is that I have been contacted by a lot of husbands, asking me to help him convince his wife to try a black guy.
"Just chat to her a while and see if you can't convince her" is often what I hear...even from couples that state "We don't cross the racial line".
Sandra
Hmmmmmmm user this topic has come up again. As some one who is not white, here is a simple way of looking at it. A persons taste in sexual partner is like a persons taste in food. I have my favorites, I have some that I crave occasionally, some thats just not for me and then there are those that foods that we are curious about but are afraid to taste. Ie I'm curious about frogs legs but I don't think I will ever eat them. As we mature our tastes change. Myself, my tastes in EVERYTHING is completely different to what it was when I was 20.
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Strange how many all white couples have approached us to meet or chat yet their profile states whites only, we find that a little confussing.....wouldn't you?

People often don't really read what the profile says, especially if there are photo's attached to the profile. And there are people who want to "experiment" with people of a different race, make contact and then simply freak out when they get a positive response. This is one of those things that I would suggest you don't let bother you too much, yes, I know it can be frustrating sometimes, but is it really worth the effort of getting upset / annoyed / etc about it?
we really don't get as you say in your words "upset / annoyed / etc about it?" its really a laugh for us.
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does this really exist or is it borders that are built byones partner?i know a lot of male friends
who would freak if there woman tried black,yet they have!
my wife comes fro a very Afrikaans conservative background,yet she knows of 2 of her former school friends who have done it ....and loved it,
she is in her 40"s now and onlyrecently has she intimated that she is fantasizing about an interracial experience with her
very black personal trainer,i think its liberating

Good for u guys......We really didn't know in this day and age that there is actually a physical line between races.....lol. after all when the lights are off what you feel is exactly the same isn't it...lmfao
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Just for argument sake...
If I am Jewish will no German people make contact/speak/play with me?
Or if I am English no one Italian will speak/contact/play with me?
Or if I am Xhosa No Zulu will contact/speak/play with me?
Or If I am Chinese no Hindu will speak/play/ contact me?
Or as I am Afrikaans no other culture will speak/play/contact me?
Okay..........I know the couple meant COLOR barriers.
But are there JUST white and black here???
What about the Chinese the Indians, Coloreds, Browns and ALL the other colors under the rainbow ???
I WAS ONCE TOLD I AM PINK!!!! I am sure *thus* there must be more colors than just white and black....

"EXACTLY"