Race issues exist world wide, always have, always will. There are white people that do not like black people and there are black people that do not like white people. Racism exists! It is not pretty, but it is a reality. We are deluding ourselves (and the rest of the world) by thinking all is well here. Cultural differences will always be around.
Apartheid was abolished, not racism... If anything, I think it is worse now. The only difference is that people are now racist in secret. Most "accept" things as they are but do not agree with it. If you a given white man hated black people pre-94 election, there is no way that he changed his views the day after the election! I do not condone racism, but I do accept that it is alive and well - and not you or I will ever change that. You can only look at yourself and change what you can within you!
I have always said that you can not change a man! Change comes from within. Only you as an individual can choose your beliefs. No one can tell you to be or not be racist. So those that choose to be, let them, and those that choose not to be, let them... Live and let live.
As for the "race barrier" regarding meets. Those are just personal preferences I think. Some black people may not find white people appealing, and vice versa... Maybe not because of colour but perhaps because of features? For example: I do not find Eskimo's appealing. Not because of race, colour or creed... But because they are in general not "good looking" in my opinion. So if we were in Alaska, I would have (no Eskimo's) on my profile. But thats just me.
I have seen some profiles of white people that say "prefer black men" or "seeking BBC"... etc. I think: "do not cross racial line" is the same as "no single men"... Preference and ones right to be selective. My advice: do not let it get to you, people must stop being so sensitive about race, stop taking offence and move on already. When a profile has a specific "no" for something that you want, close that profile and open the next one. There are many here and every pot has a lid...
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Quote by Stamina
Race issues exist world wide, always have, always will. There are white people that do not like black people and there are black people that do not like white people. Racism exists! It is not pretty, but it is a reality. We are deluding ourselves (and the rest of the world) by thinking all is well here. Cultural differences will always be around.
Apartheid was abolished, not racism... If anything, I think it is worse now. The only difference is that people are now racist in secret. Most "accept" things as they are but do not agree with it. If you a given white man hated black people pre-94 election, there is no way that he changed his views the day after the election! I do not condone racism, but I do accept that it is alive and well - and not you or I will ever change that. You can only look at yourself and change what you can within you!
I have always said that you can not change a man! Change comes from within. Only you as an individual can choose your beliefs. No one can tell you to be or not be racist. So those that choose to be, let them, and those that choose not to be, let them... Live and let live.
As for the "race barrier" regarding meets. Those are just personal preferences I think. Some black people may not find white people appealing, and vice versa... Maybe not because of colour but perhaps because of features? For example: I do not find Eskimo's appealing. Not because of race, colour or creed... But because they are in general not "good looking" in my opinion. So if we were in Alaska, I would have (no Eskimo's) on my profile. But thats just me.
I have seen some profiles of white people that say "prefer black men" or "seeking BBC"... etc. I think: "do not cross racial line" is the same as "no single men"... Preference and ones right to be selective. My advice: do not let it get to you, people must stop being so sensitive about race, stop taking offence and move on already. When a profile has a specific "no" for something that you want, close that profile and open the next one. There are many here and every pot has a lid...
Well said Stamina! I agree with you completely
Quote by Stamina
Race issues exist world wide, always have, always will. There are white people that do not like black people and there are black people that do not like white people. Racism exists! It is not pretty, but it is a reality. We are deluding ourselves (and the rest of the world) by thinking all is well here. Cultural differences will always be around.
Apartheid was abolished, not racism... If anything, I think it is worse now. The only difference is that people are now racist in secret. Most "accept" things as they are but do not agree with it. If you a given white man hated black people pre-94 election, there is no way that he changed his views the day after the election! I do not condone racism, but I do accept that it is alive and well - and not you or I will ever change that. You can only look at yourself and change what you can within you!
I have always said that you can not change a man! Change comes from within. Only you as an individual can choose your beliefs. No one can tell you to be or not be racist. So those that choose to be, let them, and those that choose not to be, let them... Live and let live.
As for the "race barrier" regarding meets. Those are just personal preferences I think. Some black people may not find white people appealing, and vice versa... Maybe not because of colour but perhaps because of features? For example: I do not find Eskimo's appealing. Not because of race, colour or creed... But because they are in general not "good looking" in my opinion. So if we were in Alaska, I would have (no Eskimo's) on my profile. But thats just me.
I have seen some profiles of white people that say "prefer black men" or "seeking BBC"... etc. I think: "do not cross racial line" is the same as "no single men"... Preference and ones right to be selective. My advice: do not let it get to you, people must stop being so sensitive about race, stop taking offence and move on already. When a profile has a specific "no" for something that you want, close that profile and open the next one. There are many here and every pot has a lid...
Well said sir.
My wife & I have been together for 7 years now and have along the way been abused and stared at continuously. If people have such tunnel vision and disrespect then that is their problem. I cannot abide small minded people.
We are open to all on this site and have no issues with colour, creed or size, but understand that some people have their own preferences. Our profiles states that we don't converse in Afrikaans, OUR choice. They only thing I find a little insensitive is the people who just put 'no blacks' on their profile, very rude in my opinion, there are ways & means. But having said that I have found that there are quite a lot of very rude people on this site.
Horses for courses is a great saying and to me sums this up. If you like something then go for it, if you don't like something, leave it alone. If we all liked the same this would be a fecking boring place.
LIVE & LET LIVE
I have a confession, my staunch afrikaans mom and dad would have my balls on a platter for this... But who gives a damn!
I find Indian ladies HOT!! They are always well dressed, have perfect skin (beautiful bronze tone), stunning features, AMAZING boobs (most often), the most gorgeous jet black hair almost always down to their bums! Generally have the perfect hour glass figure... Indian girls do not get acne! And they can cook! HOT I tell you! HOT like the delicious Masala they make!!! I go to an Indian lady to cut my hair, mostly she does not do what I want style wise... But I keep going back because she could be the next Miss Universe!!
My ultimate fantasy... Will happen one day I hope!
Sex God
Quote by Stamina
Those profiles that say "do not cross racial line"... I bet that would fly out the window if Beyonce showed up and suggested a threesome!!
hahaha, I would be willing to add ""that would fly out the window if anybody showed up and suggested a threesome""
That's another thing that always makes me smile here. You always get the ones who look so you make contact, they tell you ' oh sorry we don't cross the colour line' and then they check your profile out EVERY day. It's because deep deep down they want to taste the chocolate but don't have the balls to say so.
Sex God
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That's another thing that always makes me smile here. You always get the ones who look so you make contact, they tell you ' oh sorry we don't cross the colour line' and then they check your profile out EVERY day. It's because deep deep down they want to taste the chocolate but don't have the balls to say so.
One must also remember that the "nicer" any pictures in the gallery you have are, the more you are going to get looked at.
Quote by cuddlycouple
That's another thing that always makes me smile here. You always get the ones who look so you make contact, they tell you ' oh sorry we don't cross the colour line' and then they check your profile out EVERY day. It's because deep deep down they want to taste the chocolate but don't have the balls to say so.
You are quite right! I was in a Night Club about a year ago with some friends (or so called friends). There was a group of girls, 2 white and 1 black. The black girl was damn sexy. She was tall and slim, wearing a tiny jean short and boob tube top. Her tummy was exposed and I could count the 6 squares of her abs. Her legs were shapely like a tennis player's legs. In short, she looked far better than her 2 white companions. I stared at her, everytime she looked, I smiled - she smiled back everytime. But.. I also kept looking to see if my buddies were looking at me (2 of them were "old school").
1 of the white girls came over after a while and asked about my interest. I told her that I think her friend is gorgeous... I also added that she does not look at all South African (please do not take offence, but she had a small thin pointy nose, skinny lips, straight soft hair and not big "booty" - a white girl in brown skin basically). She told me her friend was from the West Indies. That is as far as it went because I was too worried about what my "crew" would say if I persued this. I have often wondered about that girl... She very well may be the one that got way! So yes, we hide things.
Casanova
Well said sir.
My wife & I have been together for 7 years now and have along the way been abused and stared at continuously. If people have such tunnel vision and disrespect then that is their problem. I cannot abide small minded people.
We are open to all on this site and have no issues with colour, creed or size, but understand that some people have their own preferences. Our profiles states that we don't converse in Afrikaans, OUR choice. They only thing I find a little insensitive is the people who just put 'no blacks' on their profile, very rude in my opinion, there are ways & means. But having said that I have found that there are quite a lot of very rude people on this site.
Horses for courses is a great saying and to me sums this up. If you like something then go for it, if you don't like something, leave it alone. If we all liked the same this would be a fecking boring place.
LIVE & LET LIVE
I know the feeling. I was married to an indian lady and the stares we got was very uncomfortable. It wasn't just the whites that were staring but even other indians. It became so bad that she never wanted to out anymore and it took a toll on our marraige until we had our divorce.
I don't know if you have ever noticed but it also happens where white couples have adopted black babies. People just stare. It is because it is not a norm.
We are an afrikaans family and my father was very old school. He even belonged to the police force, he never had time for black people. That is sad to say. When we moved to Botswana after a few years he left my mother and married a black lady from Botswana. I reckon it is also about being ostrisized, you don't want to be the odd one out. Peer pressure played and is still playing a big part of it.
I for one have no problem and have had chocolate, and liked it.
My wife & I have been together for 7 years now and have along the way been abused and stared at continuously. If people have such tunnel vision and disrespect then that is their problem. I cannot abide small minded people.
We are open to all on this site and have no issues with colour, creed or size, but understand that some people have their own preferences. Our profiles states that we don't converse in Afrikaans, OUR choice. They only thing I find a little insensitive is the people who just put 'no blacks' on their profile, very rude in my opinion, there are ways & means. But having said that I have found that there are quite a lot of very rude people on this site.
Horses for courses is a great saying and to me sums this up. If you like something then go for it, if you don't like something, leave it alone. If we all liked the same this would be a fecking boring place.
LIVE & LET LIVE
I know the feeling. I was married to an indian lady and the stares we got was very uncomfortable. It wasn't just the whites that were staring but even other indians. It became so bad that she never wanted to out anymore and it took a toll on our marraige until we had our divorce.
I don't know if you have ever noticed but it also happens where white couples have adopted black babies. People just stare. It is because it is not a norm.
We are an afrikaans family and my father was very old school. He even belonged to the police force, he never had time for black people. That is sad to say. When we moved to Botswana after a few years he left my mother and married a black lady from Botswana. I reckon it is also about being ostrisized, you don't want to be the odd one out. Peer pressure played and is still playing a big part of it.
I for one have no problem and have had chocolate, and liked it.
Master of Sex
Hey, what bout us mixed people (coloured). I look indian lol does that count?
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Hey, what bout us mixed people (coloured). I look indian lol does that count?
Oh don't get me started on coloured chicks! You are another super-sexy race! I would do a coloured chick hands down!... But us white boys are scared of your brothers stabbing us!
:lol: :lol: Casanova
Quote by Stamina
Hey, what bout us mixed people (coloured). I look indian lol does that count?
Oh don't get me started on coloured chicks! You are another super-sexy race! I would do a coloured chick hands down!... But us white boys are scared of your brothers stabbing us!
:lol: :lol:I would do coloureds anytime, as long as they have their front teeth. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Only kidding about the teeth. :twisted:
Quote by georgeous
Well said sir.
My wife & I have been together for 7 years now and have along the way been abused and stared at continuously. If people have such tunnel vision and disrespect then that is their problem. I cannot abide small minded people.
We are open to all on this site and have no issues with colour, creed or size, but understand that some people have their own preferences. Our profiles states that we don't converse in Afrikaans, OUR choice. They only thing I find a little insensitive is the people who just put 'no blacks' on their profile, very rude in my opinion, there are ways & means. But having said that I have found that there are quite a lot of very rude people on this site.
Horses for courses is a great saying and to me sums this up. If you like something then go for it, if you don't like something, leave it alone. If we all liked the same this would be a fecking boring place.
LIVE & LET LIVE
I know the feeling. I was married to an indian lady and the stares we got was very uncomfortable. It wasn't just the whites that were staring but even other indians. It became so bad that she never wanted to out anymore and it took a toll on our marraige until we had our divorce.
I don't know if you have ever noticed but it also happens where white couples have adopted black babies. People just stare. It is because it is not a norm.
We are an afrikaans family and my father was very old school. He even belonged to the police force, he never had time for black people. That is sad to say. When we moved to Botswana after a few years he left my mother and married a black lady from Botswana. I reckon it is also about being ostrisized, you don't want to be the odd one out. Peer pressure played and is still playing a big part of it.
I for one have no problem and have had chocolate, and liked it.
I know exactly how you feel. I am an light skinned Indian guy who constantly gets mistaken for being Greek or Italian. I have actually only ever dated white girls (maybe a preference? Lol) and with every girl we have always received "looks". Myself, after a long time I have become use to it and it does not phase me in the slightest. But I did find which ever girl I was satin at the time is the one that would get upset and make her feelings obvious. Alot of this does have to do with other people's perceptions and being worried about what others think. I have actually lost count of how many females have told me that I am the first guy that is not white that they have dated, kisses or slept with.
Ultimately it comes down to one thing. How attracted two people are to each other.
Sex God
I don't know if you have ever noticed but it also happens where white couples have adopted black babies. People just stare. It is because it is not a norm. (Quote)
White people should not be adopting black babies, black people should not adopt white babies, these people do this to try and make themselves look like something they are not (especially foreign pop stars) What they don't consider, is that the poor child is going to grow up one day, and all through life he/she will be tormented because of the selfish choices their adopted parents made.
As for people in a relationship of mixed race, they are adults, they can if they want, however I feel that those of them who are then go out in public and behave in ways which bring attention to themselves are also "in it for the wrong reasons" and are quick to blame society.
Just be yourself, most people won't even notice you!
About the adopting issue...
I think that if people talk about the race issue, and bring up the child in a loving family, the child will not have any more issues compared to any other adopted children.
When race is ignored, it becomes an issue. For that matter, when any potential problem is ignored, it becomes a real big problem at some stage.
I would rather see orphaned children in loving homes, than not being adopted at all because the parents and child's skin colours don't match.
About the racial line, its all about exposure and up bringing, and thinking about things for yourself.
As everyone has already mentioned.
But I think it is better to state your preference in a manner which is not offensive to other people. Rather say "this race only please" than "none of that race please".
;)
C
Orgasminator
Cant we sit this topic to bed please, lets have sex and leave the war for the politicians
Casanova
Quote by Adonis
Cant we sit this topic to bed please, lets have sex and leave the war for the politicians
Ek stem.
Actually, one thing we don't do is censor peoples opinions.
I think if people feel the need to talk about the issue of race, maybe here is the only place they are allowed to talk about it. Perhaps this is the only place one might be exposed to an alternative view point, perhaps some people here might be persuaded to even change their view point because of something said by someone in discussion, and that is a good thing, no?
But I do think that if we're going to have political discussions, you need to stick to the rule of respect, and refrain from partaking in the discussion if you are uncomfortable with the subject.
And be aware that you could get banned or your posts deleted if you post anything that smacks of hate speech. That will not be tolerated, and I know the other mods and admin will back me up on this. This is a public place, so behave 
Orgasminator
Hope you all listen the Boss has spoken :swingingchair:
Quote by Adonis
Cant we sit this topic to bed please, lets have sex and leave the war for the politicians
If you don't like the topic then don't read the content.
Some of us have problems and issues with people's rudeness when it comes to race and this f**king racial line that they can see but nobody else can.
I fully agree with one poster who said there are ways of saying on your profile, as in 'we prefer our own race' or ' we don't wish to play with anyone from a different ethnic background' but some on here think its fine to put 'No Blacks' . We had one couple from HERMANUS who would continuely contact us and would say things to my wife (with regards to sex) the most uncouth things and very rude, so I confronted them as to whether they actually wanted to meet, and the reply was, and I quote ' we don't do blacks'. This is the kind of kak you have to put up with.
It probably doesn't affect you Adonis but it does affect a lot of people, so for you to just poo poo this just shows some peoples lack of awareness. And as for your line about leaving it to the politicians, ha ha how funny.
Regards,
Mr C
We had one couple from HERMANUS who would continuely contact us and would say things to my wife (with regards to sex) the most uncouth things and very rude, so I confronted them as to whether they actually wanted to meet, and the reply was, and I quote ' we don't do blacks'. This is the kind of kak you have to put up with.
You don't have to put up with it... Ignore it and move to the next profile. I still say that people are too sensitive about race. You should not worry about other peoples views. Racism is an ugly thing, but it is out there. The bottom line here is: Regardless of what the laws may say about racism and descrimination, etc, you can't take away peoples rights to be assholes. So because of that, there will always be assholes! Hope that makes sense.
Orgasminator
Cuddlecouple why not report the couple of Hermanus with the evidence, then i believe the Mods or Admin will take action, but using the forum for the problem will solved nothing.
