People who know me and my writings,must surely by now have accepted the fact that when the words *coffee date* appear in a blog from me they will almost immediately read the words *disastrous*, *horrifying* or *bad enough that my soul tried to crawl out my opposite ear.*
Some is so awful that I almost prefer to stay in that state of early relationship grace which exists where anything is possible and no one`s been pissed off.
But hope springs, as it does, eternal, and in the fullness of time I succumbed to the desire to meet up with a new man.
This is a mistake, I will think while dressing for the date.
*You should have left it at mails*. I usually lecture myself all the way to the coffee meet.
Why couldn't I just be happy with the interesting conversations alone, which will surely be extinguished once we meet and realize he is a big freak — or he MOST LIKELY he will decide the same about me ,more likely me, I have to say!!
It always crosses my mind to scurry away.
But before I lose my nerve ,they are always there of Just arrive as I start to get up or turn around to leave.
So this last week , I had 2 coffee meets,One with a friend
and then one .......*OH BOY*!!!!!!
An hour's worth of face-to-face conversation showed him to be as attractive in every way as I`d expected.
When at some point during the second hour he took my hand to make a point.
I wanted nothing more than for him to keep on holding it.
Where do we go from here?
I have no idea, but frankly the future matters not nearly so much as my overwhelming joy at getting through even one coffee date without wishing to go burn off my skin in a to warm shower.
He might JUST be the ONE....a NSA & FWB,
A Friend With Benefits, whom I have waited for so long????.....Jay!!!!!
We will see, We will see.......
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Update on the above blog.....
PLAY did NOT happen, HE, did not happen!!!!!
Like many men they meet and say the right things, look you in the eye and say completely something else as to what they mean.
After the meet I did receive a phone call for a *play date* WHAT A WASTE of his and my time.... he never confirmed nor showed up...
WHAT a douche.... I have to say I am so mistrustful with people I hesitate to really make appointments.
Can anyone really blame me????
If you do not like what you see, say so....we are all grown ups and would prefer to hear that play will not happen. do not flirt and do not get any ones hopes up if you know what I mean.
Thought I would let you guys know what happened ....
Master of Sex
Oh my Goodness This is old..... Can not even remember the gent himself!!!!! Makes me wonder if he ever got to playing in real life??
Sexpert
pussinboots1 A bit off topic but With regards to the *Coffee Date*
This is from our profile intro...
"We DO NOT want to meet first & go on "The Worlds Most Awkward 1st Date!" To see if we click .... We are all Adults & are on this website for the same reason. (This is not Christain Love match Connection) The reason why we also don't like to meet first is in case we might like you... We would also prefer if you didn't like us at all when we get together & swop orgasms.
After that we can become pen pals or whatever."
We try our hardest Not to meet people before we play. I'm not sure what is the expected out come supposed to be from that "Date". It has to be the most Awkward thing about swinging.
We have met up with couples and singles that have spoken their way out of a deal and any chance of us playing together just from us meeting them before we played.
The reason why we are meeting people to play is for our Physical enjoyment, the Emotional side is between my wife and myself. So we don't have to see if we CLICK first. We don't have to click at all as long as the physical side is good.
We have had a few coffee dates. Enjoyed everyone of them. Absolute no awkwardness,even the one's that we did not want to play with after meeting them in real life. For us we have to click and feel comfortable with the person. There has to be some chemistry between my wife and the man . She will let me know right there and then (prearranged signal ) and things progress quickly from there. Either straight from there to go and have fun or we will politely and honestly decline and end the date.
The pornstar weirdo's we get rid off on already mostly. Those that we feel comfortable and excited about we meet for coffee close to our home at a mall. Some nice guys we have talked to on also decided we are not their cup of tea
and walked away which is also for us and them a good thing.
We met a man for my wife a month ago and last Sunday was their second playdate. Real fun guy that left us feeling very positive about our swinging adventure so far.
Soos ons in afrikaans se "elke pot het n deksel erens".
To the couples that get discouraged our advice will be to tread with caution,be picky,quality is always better than quantity.
For sure your "diamond" is out there you just have to get in contact :-)
Master of Sex
@PoohC I do not mind if you go off topic...as long as the Fora gets some active ideas and comments flowing. Thanks for always participating.
@Seeman Thanks for your input it is always a pleasure to read.
General...When I wrote this 8 years ago...I was actually looking for a FWB.(someone to call for a booty call, so to speak) I however made so many friends and some playmates that I never connected to only the one person I was looking for.
I always however tried to meet up first, I, like Seemans lovey, have to had a *connection* before committing to play. And I know being me that not everyone likes me on sight!!! I am/was however an acquired taste...
Sexpert
pussinboots1 where can we acquire a taste... 
Master of Sex
@PoohC LMAO..... you might need a LOT of mouthwash!!!!!!
Sexpert
pussinboots1 It wouldn't be the first time I've had my Dirty Mouth Washed out with soap!
