"I DO NOT CROSS THE RACE BARRIER LINE"

Can someone please bring some sense, especially the folks with the tittle on their profiles. When I see that for me its a clear instruction and a specific preference, now at what point do I get a Private Message from such profiles and how am I supposed to react to it?

You are supposed to be flattered that you are that special;  that the couple is curious about crossing the colour line with you.

You are then supposed to meet them and put on your Best performance to convert them for good. That's all

You must understand that what people put on their profile might be for a lot of reasons. The biggest one being "what others may think"

We have made huge progress forward but it's not there yet. 

Out of interest Would you put on your Facebook profile that you loves Afrikaans music. What would your friends and family say? 

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You are supposed to be flattered that you are that special;  that the couple is curious about crossing the colour line with you.
You are then supposed to meet them and put on your Best performance to convert them for good. That's all
You must understand that what people put on their profile might be for a lot of reasons. The biggest one being "what others may think"
We have made huge progress forward but it's not there yet. 
Out of interest Would you put on your Facebook profile that you loves Afrikaans music. What would your friends and family say? 

 Mhhmmmm interesting POV, well on the last part it doesn't apply to me as I went to an Afrikaans school.......

Really put your best performance for them while they approached you Hmmmmm.  

I don't like the sound of that at all. 

That's because you are taking it to serious... it was meant to be light hearted 

if you say so but it's serious topic. Just we have to get all full facts and feelings from both side. 

Trust me it was light hearted. I try not to make swinging a serious topic seeing that everything else In life is serious.

SNAP! That was the best reply I could of expected. But on a semi serious not... I wouldn't take it personally that people are contacting you even though they have said they don't cross the interracial line.

In swinging things change. Things you are into now might change down the line.

Also Couples might have NO single guys written on their profile but they still contact single guys. They just dont want 10 000 guys contacting them. 

Take it from where it comes. I would just enjoy the experience but that's just me.

Honestly I don't see why one "black guy" should be putting a best performance for anyone who says they don't cross race barrier, this sounds like favour is being done when you say one should be flattered & feel special being approached by such. 

My opinion is anyone curious of crossing racial lines must be the one putting an extra effort & going all out to prove they are ready and not just wasting one's time. What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? 

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Honestly I don't see why one "black guy" should be putting a best performance for anyone who says they don't cross race barrier, this sounds like favour is being done when you say one should be flattered & feel special being approached by such. 
My opinion is anyone curious of crossing racial lines must be the one putting an extra effort & going all out to prove they are ready and not just wasting one's time. What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? 

IT WAS SAID AS A LIGHT HEARTED JOKE. NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE  A SERIOUS ISSUE.

What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? About 40% from the people I've spoken to.

@ speedybxxx   You ask what you are supposed to do when an ill-matched couple contacts you... 

I know what I would do, if in your shoes... which I cannot, due to me being white or pink as someone once told me and of course  I do not have the right equipment...  wellllllllllllllllll  thinking of it..I do have some equipment just not large enough, (it is in hiding lately and in disuse)   or it is made of rubber....... sherbet also not the right colour...also in disuse.....

Anyway,  I would take a NICE colourfull photo of said equipment, covered up in a nice tight whitey underpants show casting your legs and tummy, asking them if they are colour blind...cause if you read right, they are so NOT LOOKING for that colour....I really think that will shame them.

AT least you are READING the written profiles of said profiles, which most  people do not do....

Here is my 2 cents on this topic.... Don't go for it... It has happened to me many times before. 

You find that these profiles are not even sure of what they want. 

It becomes and endless inbox talk of how they would like to experience this or that with us...which is all well and good but come time to meet for coffee/drinks to intro each other......ESKOM!! No where to be seen and it becomes excuse after excuse.

So personally, I stick to those singles/couples that are specific and know what they want. 

Welcome back pussingboots1! I missed you

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Honestly I don't see why one "black guy" should be putting a best performance for anyone who says they don't cross race barrier, this sounds like favour is being done when you say one should be flattered & feel special being approached by such. 
My opinion is anyone curious of crossing racial lines must be the one putting an extra effort & going all out to prove they are ready and not just wasting one's time. What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? 

 

IT WAS SAID AS A LIGHT HEARTED JOKE. NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE  A SERIOUS ISSUE.
What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? About 40% from the people I've spoken to.

 Interesting conversation and something we often discuss. With being an interracial couple especially. When we browse profiles, as soon as profile has a statement of such, out of respect for the the person or couples preferences, we pass. After all, if we as a couple don't meet the requirements of the other party, there is no point. 

On the flip side, we are contacted by numerous (well over 40%) people (couples, women and men) who have this listed on their profiles and want to chat and meet. Now we are not sure if this is because we would be "the exception to the rule" or what the reason is. But as part of our requirements we don't engage with profiles who have this statement. 

Similarly to these profiles, we have a statement of, if race is an issue please pass us by. 

We don't take offense, we have our rules just as others have theirs. Two tit bits of advice

1. READ a profile

2. Respect the the profile

If you are offended, agree or disagree with the content of the profile is irrelevant. I am sure many disagree with our profile content and could be offended. 

Our 2c worth 

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Honestly I don't see why one "black guy" should be putting a best performance for anyone who says they don't cross race barrier, this sounds like favour is being done when you say one should be flattered & feel special being approached by such. 
My opinion is anyone curious of crossing racial lines must be the one putting an extra effort & going all out to prove they are ready and not just wasting one's time. What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? 

 

IT WAS SAID AS A LIGHT HEARTED JOKE. NOT EVERYTHING HAS TO BE  A SERIOUS ISSUE.
What is the probability of those saying they don't cross racial line ever crossing it?? About 40% from the people I've spoken to.

 Interesting conversation and something we often discuss. With being an interracial couple especially. When we browse profiles, as soon as profile has a statement of such, out of respect for the the person or couples preferences, we pass. After all, if we as a couple don't meet the requirements of the other party, there is no point. 

On the flip side, we are contacted by numerous (well over 40%) people (couples, women and men) who have this listed on their profiles and want to chat and meet. Now we are not sure if this is because we would be "the exception to the rule" or what the reason is. But as part of our requirements we don't engage with profiles who have this statement. 
Similarly to these profiles, we have a statement of, if race is an issue please pass us by. 
We don't take offense, we have our rules just as others have theirs. Two tit bits of advice
1. READ a profile
2. Respect the the profile
If you are offended, agree or disagree with the content of the profile is irrelevant. I am sure many disagree with our profile content and could be offended. 
Our 2c worth 

Thank you 

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Can someone please bring some sense, especially the folks with the tittle on their profiles. When I see that for me its a clear instruction and a specific preference, now at what point do I get a Private Message from such profiles and how am I supposed to react to it?

I assume you are getting messages from folk who state that they don't cross the colour line or barrier or some such reason. My response would be on the lines of, " Sorry, we are not a match due to conditions stipulated by yourself. Should you have a change of heart please feel free to contact me."

I believe that those who have the label of not crossing race line are just RACIST period

It is not a question of being attracted or not, there are attractive people and unattractive people in all races right across and equally there are repugnant people across all races

I don not think skin color should be a prerequisite for playing as long as there is some kind of attraction be it physical or intellectual.

Astonishingly it is 99.9 percent of one race that does not cross the race line, go figure it out

Like someone here said there is no need for a label just a no thank you would be polite and the most humanly thing to do

I think this site should also banning those profile who have labels