I don't kno about the rest of the ppl on the site but personally I feel these woman on here are full of shit.
We all joined the site for one reason and that is to have sex and a lot of it! Right or wrong?
And while I'm here lol. Alberton!!! Wtf ppl! There is few couples, from my count 4 females and like 500 guys!
Were are all the horny ppl! This sad! Not cool at all!
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full of shit! wtf is goin on?
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Forum Virgin
Maybe you should go read up about swinging before making stupid comments. This is a SWINGING site where couples meet other couples or couples meet singles. If you want to meet woman go to a DATING site. There are thousands to choose from.
Orgasminator
Sorry but think you on the wrong site
Sexlightened
1. If you wanted lots of sex: there are a variety of escort agencies you could try.
2. If you wanted to meet a woman: as stated previously, dating sites would probably be a better fit for you.
We (and I am speaking as a woman on this site) generally have lots of sex; however because sex is so freely available within the lifestyle/swinging; we want AWESOME, ORGASMIC, SEXATIONAL sex and are very discerning when choosing our shag buddies/friends with benefits. The fact that we openly state that we thoroughly enjoy sex and are not monogamous, should not be misinterpreted as "we will shag everyone and anyone who comes along and asks"........
Hope this helps clarify things for you?
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Long John
Not to be funny, but we are full of sh*t when it comes to guys with attitudes like yours. For some reason a lot of guys think that women who are swingers just fall on their backs with thighs spread for whomever (sometimes whatever) has a c*ck. Seldom do women have this notion- in 10 years and meeting way over a hundred people and chatting to way over a thousand, we have come across ONE woman that has this view, and that was purely because she had a fantasy to do that for an afternoon.
There are 20 000 single men, 10 000 couples and 2500 single women on this site. This and other swingers sites are chockablockwith guys that are here with your expectation, which in turn is why women and couples are so selective and so full of sh1t as you say. Some of the single men are great guys who take trouble with a proper profile and being nice to couples and single women.
Can quite comfortably tell you that we and a number of people we know from this and other sites do have as much sex as they can handle when the mood takes them. We are not here to play every single day (at least not all of us) we are here to play when it suits. Most of us that have been playing for a bit have a few regular or semi regular playmates and friends, in our case some have been friends for a few years. You have been here for two months very unlikely that you are in the same position.
Your profile needs a bit of work and look presentable in your pics, you look unkempt which means you will likely not get to many inquiries or positive responses.
Then get your attitude in order, we are all people who are here to have fun - with people that we enjoy being with and a cr@p attitude is the biggest put off for a couple and the biggest turn off for a woman.
With your attitude and your profile being what they are; why should we invest time in contacting you when we have an alternatives that have a well put together profile, don't have a misconception of what we are here for and whittle that down to one in the space of an afternoon and meet them that evening?
We very seldom don't play with or become friends with people we we meet because we make sure that we don't waste their and our time from the start. We are careful with our time and it means that we make sure that we only invest that time in people that seem worthwhile. This in turn means that over time we have a nice stock of friends and playmates (couples and singles) that we know.
Then the last bit, a swinging site is the worst possible place to meet a woman, she is in all likelihood married and if they are having martitial or relationship problems then you really dont want to be involved with them. Not many couples on swinging sites are here to have affairs either.
Orgasminator
Quote by Doggy_Dog
And from a fellow single guy: no wonder we get a bad rap
No offense, but do read up on swinging first as already stated.
And you will realise once you get the "basics" right (the biggest being respect) you might be surprised how much sexational sex you end up having!
^agreed
Swinging isn't just random sex with whoever has a pussy or dick. Seems most guys sign up thinking they get to say hello and then can take off their pants, but as said above, respect plays a big part in determining how successful you are here.
I thinlk I raised this topic last year after my first party(as sofistikitty)*some men think that the site and that the swinging parties are just to get easy pussy. Hate guys lkike this, wtf dude get a prostitute.
This is why decent single guys on the site don't get replied to, sorry good guys
Casanova
I think that when most people join this site their expectations is to find a quick fuck. Sorry for putting it blunt but for me as well as a lot of other people I'm sure are getting tired of the shit we have to put up with rude, obnoxious, arrogant, self absorbed, self centered, only thinking about themselves people joining this site. I for one mainly joined to learn and to find like minded people to have a good conversation with, share each other's experiences and if there is more then that's good. Not once have I EVER and WILL EVER send a rude mail saying "want to have a quick fuck?" Those mails I get I block those people.
Longjohn, You should rather delete your profile and join some other sleazy site that offer only sex. This is a site where communities HAVE THE OPTION to have sex. It is not a sex site only.
Quote by georgeous
I think that when most people join this site their expectations is to find a quick fuck. Sorry for putting it blunt but for me as well as a lot of other people I'm sure are getting tired of the shit we have to put up with rude, obnoxious, arrogant, self absorbed, self centered, only thinking about themselves people joining this site. I for one mainly joined to learn and to find like minded people to have a good conversation with, share each other's experiences and if there is more then that's good. Not once have I EVER and WILL EVER send a rude mail saying "want to have a quick fuck?" Those mails I get I block those people.
Longjohn, You should rather delete your profile and join some other sleazy site that offer only sex. This is a site where communities HAVE THE OPTION to have sex. It is not a sex site only.
Irony is that this is a good place to find a quick fuck, just a bit of effort is required when you join, after a few months of building a 'little black book' (for want of a better description) you''ll basically have a quick fuck whenever you feel for it, almost. Keep in mind most couples work and many have kids that need to be planned around.
Casanova
Quote by playcouple
I think that when most people join this site their expectations is to find a quick fuck. Sorry for putting it blunt but for me as well as a lot of other people I'm sure are getting tired of the shit we have to put up with rude, obnoxious, arrogant, self absorbed, self centered, only thinking about themselves people joining this site. I for one mainly joined to learn and to find like minded people to have a good conversation with, share each other's experiences and if there is more then that's good. Not once have I EVER and WILL EVER send a rude mail saying "want to have a quick fuck?" Those mails I get I block those people.
Longjohn, You should rather delete your profile and join some other sleazy site that offer only sex. This is a site where communities HAVE THE OPTION to have sex. It is not a sex site only.
Irony is that this is a good place to find a quick fuck, just a bit of effort is required when you join, after a few months of building a 'little black book' (for want of a better description) you''ll basically have a quick fuck whenever you feel for it, almost. Keep in mind most couples work and many have kids that need to be planned around.
Playcouple, you are right that you can find a quick fuck and yes effort is required. It's these other people joining today and thinking they have unlimited supply of sex buddies available immediately that irritates me.
I usually read the new peep's add under the personals to see if some one near us might have joined. Funny enough how you learn to read from the join up add which singles dudes have totally the wrong idea about the site when they join! Fortunately some learn quickly and either stay and become one of the few *good guys* or simply disappear BUT ALAS also unfortunately many remain ignorant about the lifestyle and the real reason couples and most single ladies are here for.
A guy throws his hands in the air and say..."Full of shit!..wtf is going on"
Then the so called matriarchs(cuckolds and slutwives) of the lifestyle (proclaimed by themselves) stand up arms folded onto their chests with a Bacardi drink tucked in there shouts out...."Cant you read this is a Swinger site"
I hope you guys read when you entered this site..."Swinging Heaven South Africa is the number 1 free swingers and dogging site for South African Swingers and , chat, find friends and like minded couples or singles for partner/wife swapping fun.
Guys creating small entities and orders has been proven to be selfish and discriminative and racist if you take it too far.
Lets all this site was for swingers alone its rating would not have been what it is today.
And for you longjohn89 the androcentric male,keep priming dude learn the way of the swinger or take your jacket and went.
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Sex God
Quote by Andre3000
I hope you guys read when you entered this site..."Swinging Heaven South Africa is the number 1 free swingers and dogging site for South African Swingers and , chat, find friends and like minded couples or singles for partner/wife swapping fun.
Funny how when we (myself included) respond to posts such as the original one here, we Almost Always forget to add the Dogging part apart the site . . . .
First of all - cuckolds are MALE. Secondly the next guy who thinks he can call me a slutwife is going to get a black eye. NONE of the women who contribute regularly on this forum have EVER refered to themselves as either!
and I don't drink bacardi....
Also I think what people were objecting to was the statement about us only being here for sex... and the implication that all these sluts should be falling over themselves to impale themselves on his hard-on.... which is really not at all accurate....
Sex God
This is me tip toeing across the room (well screen) in the hope that I don't catch one of those swingers (as in the hand dishing out the black eye's) :grin::grin:
Orgasminator
I hate these guys who pipe in saying that creating an exclusive group is offensive (using racism and sexusm as examples) because said group has rules. There is a big difference between rules and fair usage vs discrimination. In this case swinging has rules to protect all parties involved and often couples set rules to keep their relationships secure.
Now if your not willing to play by the rules then when people call you out it's not discrimination or exclusivity but you being an asshole and the members calling you out. If you want to have a good time here then show some respect and play by the rules. Another useful idea is to check to water before diving because it can be kinda icy. There are plenty of guys here who have had success and it has little to do with what the couples preconceptions are and more to do with how you market yourself.
Edit: also notice this is coming from a single guy and not a slutwife
Being swingers doesnt mean that there is an automatic rules out the window, it does not mean that you can walk up to a woman who is a swinger and just have your way. If you are not having positive responses to your advances then you need to either change the way that you approach people or your profile or both.
I cant believe that so many single guys have absolutely no problem getting fuck buddies yet so many complain that the couples or single women are full of shit. What I can say is those that complain have shit profiles or after chatting to them a bit an attitude that is also crap.
a single guy approaches us and his first message is good then a minimal profile is fine by us, but when your first message is along the lines of 'I'm available Monday morning between. A and b and want to play with you (or as has happend on many occasions play alone with wifey half), then sorry get a life.
do make contact with single guys quite often and we do that of their profile, so out of 20000 why should we contact you if your profile doesnt even have all the multiple choice questions ticked? Especially considering that there are a good few thousand single guys who have propper profiles
Another 2c that I've said before, look at Mike's profile and then you will see what a good profile is and that proves that single guys can do a proper profile. It will also show you what you with no info on your profile is competing against. Remember your profile on this site is your advert
Orgasminator
I think so many people would like to give there opinion on this topic but to scared to open there mouths. Looking back in the past of how many people chat here and they all about gone. Why because you cant open your mouth, or somebody will give you a mouth full.
Orgasminator
Definitly not, but why you always concern when I said something, have you a problem with me.
I am fully aware that you a Mod and would not dare pick a fight with you.
All I said where all the people giving there input in the forums.
Quote by Doggy_Dog
And from a fellow single guy: no wonder we get a bad rap
No offense, but do read up on swinging first as already stated.
And you will realise once you get the "basics" right (the biggest being respect) you might be surprised how much sexational sex you end up having!
^^^^ Hear Hear ^^^^^
Well said. Unfortunately there are too many single guys out there ruining it for the decent few.
Orgasminator
Quote by LeeEC
Adonis, it sounds a little bit like you are itching to start a fight. ...
I wouldn't say that, more a case of wanting to give their opinion but afraid it will be taken badly. Consider it a path of diplomacy to prevent war.
That is why i just read and say no more. Like they says in afrikaans "n stil bek is n heel bek"
Joyrider
Now just looking Hi every one
I do appologize for my senseless and unneccery rant, a feeble minded attempt by my self to stir the pot. I see I have done so and very well, but not exactly the way I wanted to.
So I would really like to say sorry to all those offended by my dense and narrow minded statement.
My intentions were to stir up the single females but I clearly failed horribly. And to be honest used the wrong hammer for the nail needed. Once again I do appologize to every I offended and to all couples and single females, as dense and narrow minded I have come across towards u all I feel I used the wrong words to express my view and as a result have suffered a massive bombardment of battering ( well desurved and earned). As a wise man used to tell me "u fucked up your bed! Now fix it!!!". I hope I have at least partly accomplished that
