Im pretty bad at writing about myself.... but lets give this a try.

I'm very straightforward and call a spade a spade. Not into endless texting back and forth lets meet in person for coffee or a drink  

I'm fun, outgoing, outspoken, very self assured. I consider myself as mature very sure of who i am and the type of people i want around me.

Lets see if we click and go from there.

The whole "twin bed with threadbare sheets" thing may have worked in our youth, but we are past all of that now, which means our bedroom needs to grow up too or at this stage in some of our lives, possibly requires a whole revamp.

Surrounding ourself with warmth and luxury is a catalyst for Sex - even an aphrodisiac! The difference between a roadside motel and a five star hotelGet my drift? And, your bed is NOT just the place where you sleep!

It is quite interesting that most beds are still designed only for a good nights sleep. As if manufacturers never really considered that people actually have Sex in their beds. The main problem lies in the fact that for most versions of sexual intercourse, the perfect bed base has to be hard; compared to a bed strictly used to relax and have a restful sleep.

One solution is to have two beds - one for Sex and one for sleeping in, but you have to bear in mind that the bed you have Sex on, will sooner or later fall apart. Though this solution is funny, it unfortunately is not practical for most people. There is often not enough money to buy an additional bed or enough room in the house/flat. So, you can compromise and rearrange the bed, before you have Sex, but this may reduce the spontaneity.

It is true that gigantic, oval beds look very tempting, but they do not really have the right sexual value. In sexual intercourse, people use the whole bed, including its frame, so the mattress has to be just the right height. If the top of the frame is at exactly the same level as your partners pubic bone, you will be in the right position whether you lean on or over the frame of your bed. If you like to play prison games or the game of domination, and want to be tied up, you will need a high and strong bed frame to hold your arms during your sex seven nine two four eight seven nine two one The right bed makes it easier to live and sleep together and have Sex, whenever you feel like it. If there is enough room in your bedroom, get an extra single bed/couch/divan, just in case one of you falls ill and needs a restful sleep that a double bed cannot provide, because you feel every move your partner makes during the night. Along with the bed, you will need four pillows - two pillows should be made of hard material for use during sexual intercourse and two pillows should be made of soft material and intended for sleep. You have to maintain the same temperature in your bedroom throughout the year. It has to be warm enough, so you do not feel cold or need another blankets when you want to sleep NAKED. If you cannot afford to spend a lot of money on an extra bed, you can buy an armchair. Armchairs can make your Sex life more exciting if you are creative enough and from there, you can take the action to your bed and afterwards to the floor, if you have a nice soft rug to make it more comfortable. (The arm chair is NOT a clothes horse!) It is also very exciting to have Sex in a bed surrounded by mirrors, because it is very arousing to watch yourself during sexual intercourse. A well furnished bedroom can be a real sex gym - an real erotic fitness studio - where those with less funds and a little bit of creativity can still have a great lot of fun.

[A water bed was a big hit a few years ago. You can experience very unusual feelings on a water bed; some sort of sexual resonance that dictates its own rhythm, which means that the lovers have to move together with the bed. This is not a hindrance, but more like a stimulant. Unfortunately, water beds are much more expensive than normal beds.]

The million-dollar question to ask is which is the best mattress for Sex? What makes a mattress better or worse for Sex. Some factors may not be that important to some, while others may be absolutely critical. Remember, sleep is NOT the issue here! LOL! So, please bear in mind that one should definitely also consider how a mattress feels and sleeps, in addition to how it performs for horizontal (and vertical) sexnastics.

If your sex life is a circus - acrobatic positions, animal noises, crazy stunts - you need a mattress that can handle all the action. Latex is the answer: It is the easiest to move around on, so you can seamlessly transition from one move to another and it tends to wear very well. You will not get that ditch in the middle of the bed over time. As for size: Go big! Buy a queen size bed as a minimum.

. . . Or, buy a memory foam topper if you do not want the kids or neighbours to hear you getting it on. The density of memory foam will absorb the sound of your thrusting. Although it is not the best surface for active sex, memory foam can give you a little extra traction during missionary or woman on top. If you are on the bottom, you are melded into the mattress, so if your partner pushes against you, you are not going to move.

Spring for high-thread-count sheets - a starting place: 400 thread count. But, really, the higher, the better. And please, skip the satin sheets that is just such a fucking clich (and, a recipe for serious night-sweating.) Nothing feels better on your skin than pure cotton - Egyptian cotton, often referred to as sateen, which is smoother than the standard stuff.

Stick with white sheets, because if you want to set the mood, nothing is more inviting than pure white sheets. Have you ever been into a posh hotel room and seen black sheets? Even white sheets with a solid-coloured border in navy, hunter green or brown will work. Granted, men think beautiful sheets are feminine, but the Greek Key pattern as a border edge is a very strong statement - classy and masculine at the same time!

Use unscented detergents on your linen, because if the sheets smell like a flower garden, a woman may think you anticipated getting her naked or could convey the scent of another woman. The other option is to use a linen air freshener spray to enhance the aromas.

Buy foam pillows, as although soft down pillows are great for sleeping, foam pillows are practically built for Sex, especially the ones that are shaped like a wedge. These are actually made for people with breathing or sleep problems, but they are also perfect for slipping under her butt, to give you a better angle for penetration. A subtler option: a shredded latex pillow, which you can stuff according to your desired thickness and firmness, allowing for experimentation.

If you are in the market for a new frame for your bed and want one that will not squeak during Sex - a platform bed is your best bet. If a bed is on four legs, it will probably creak more, but a platform bed is low to the ground and basically supported by itself. Plus, it is stylish and more masculine than other styles.

What to look for in the mattress:

A mattress RESPONSE time means how fast it adjusts to your body, as you move around. Mattresses with slower response times can feel like having Sex in quick sand. An ideal mattress for Sex will rapidly adjust to your change in movement and positions, so you are well supported on a stable surface.

The BOUNCE of a mattress relates to the feel when it is being compressed. A mattress with good bounce will rebound, as opposed to simply absorbing your impact. During Sex, this can help to create a consistent rhythm that works with you and not against.

The mattress must be easy to MOVE around on so that Sex can be performed with minimal effort. Ease of movement tends to be prevented by dense mattresses that are highly pressure sensitive and conforming or that do not always have or maintain a flat, level surface. The entire top surface of the mattress must be sex friendly. In other words, the entire surface remains flat, level, supportive, comfortable a partition or gap in the middle of the mattress, mattress sagging, or hard sides can limit the area that is suitable for Sex.

Lets face it, sometimes you need a certain degree of discretion. Some mattresses can be extremely loud during sex, drawing unwanted attention. An ideal mattress for Sex will help to keep the NOISE to a minimum.

The overall DURABILITY of the mattress will surely be put to the test during Sex. A good mattress for Sex should be able to stand-up (mmmm) to years of consistent amorous activities.

Many sex positions require, or are significantly improved, by a stable and strong EDGE. Mattress edges that collapse under pressure can make for a less than ideal experience. The best sexy-times mattress will be one that supports pressure and weight directly on the edge of the mattress.

And lastly, we have COMFORT. If the mattress creates pressure points on your body during Sex, it can limit your desire and amount of time you actually want to be there. The ideal mattress for Sex will be one that does not create pressure points in any position and puts minimal pressure on knees, elbows, hands, buttocks, etc. and does not restrict movement resulting in strained muscles.

NOTE: If no mattress protector is used, fluids or soiling may penetrate the mattress. Cleaning and removing such problems may be difficult. Such problems may also void the warranty.

We need to make our bedroom a place where we want to jump between the sheets - and stay there with a Do Not Disturb sign on the door.

Lets get busy in the Bedroom!!!