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23 Jan 2013

Hi Yoga Sounds like it could be fun, we in too Regards Mike

10 Oct 2012

In Our Case, Yes After many hours of talking, the decision to try swinging was taken jointly. Our relationship is not perfect and swinging has forced us to confront and deal with some raw emotional issues. But there has always been an honesty regarding our feeling and desires. While I am in no way the authority on swinging, and can only offer an opinion, i simply cannot accept that deceiving your partner in the name of swinging, can limit your guilt as having cheated on them. while i realize that i'm upsetting many a married man the fact remains that one day when you've been found out, calling yourself a swinger, will not save you from her wrath. But of more importance to me is that by living in a community of true swingers we have made some amazing friends ( Singles and couples) and our relationship with these people is one where i don't have to hide my true colors and where we can be open and honest with each other, trusting with our partners, secrets and desires and respect each other for who we are as individuals and couples. Sure as in any community, you not going to hit it off with everyone, but we put ourselves out there openly and honestly, and expect the same in return.

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9 Oct 2012

Hi Guys, Interesting topic For me Lust is a primitive, emotion directed at a one person (not always one at a time) that feeds our instincts to mate. It's an over riding desire to have sex with someone. I can look at two woman, both sexy and wish to have sex with both, yet I may desire one more than the other, so what's this emotion, simply I lust after one more than the other, a primitive chemical and biological instinct has taken over, directing me towards my most suitable mate. Lust to me is that primitive driving force ensuring the continuation of a species. A chemically induced desire driving us to mate with a selected person. Swinging on the other hand is consuous recognition, of our primitive desires and a rejection of a suppressed society. As swingers we recognize the natural order of the sexual human, and acknowledge our own desires and that of our partner. We also have a desire to live in community and with people who understand and accept us for who we truly are. Not only a place where we can fulfill our sexual needs but a place where we can be accepted and respected. The swinging lifestyle is one of the few communities where we can truly let our guard down and relax. We can stop pretending and trust that those around us will respect us for our true self. This is one reason why friendships can become so strong within the lifestyle, the ability to trust someone and have them respect you while been aware of all your social failings. Fundamentally the sex while been the primary actuator becomes secondary to community and friendship. The ability to spend time with like minded people who like and respect you without all of society's games and false personas outweighs the simple act of sex alone. As our friendships grow and strengthen within this environment of trust and respect, our bonds draw closer and we develop an true emotional connection to those within our community, we learn to love and care for each other. I believe we build our own little community of friends where the fundamentals of true community are re-established. And that brings me to the single guy, I have absolutely no problem with the single person living within the lifestyle, but I do have an issue with the married/with someone, but playing alone guy. My fundamental issue here is trust and respect, a decision has been made to deceive and disrespect their partner, yet I as a husband am expected to trust you with my wife and believe you will respect her, me and our relationship, sorry but I find this hard to do. For me swinging while instigated and driven by sex is fundamentally living within a community of honesty, trust and respect, and this all begins in my relationship with my partner.

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