Just checking what's happening in the scene again. Been in the lifestyle for long enough to have a T-shirt, cap, underwear, horror stories and some battle scars.

Being in the lifestyle for a while, I have 3 baseline rules I go by, and frankly what I believe everyone should go by to avoid bad experiences.

1) Don't do this to fix a problem. If you are feeling unwanted, undesired or unloved and feel some form of hook up culture is the answer. You will be unpleasantly surprised. Lifestylers do this for the kink and the fun. Funny how many single men think women in the lifestyle are easy and unsatisfied with their husbands......

2) Should never feel or be forced. If you aren't 100% sure about someone or something, pull the plug now to save yourself another battle scar.

3) Protection!! I had a scare a while back. Luckily just a scare. But I realised there and then that having endless sexual partners that also have endless sexual partners that also have endless sexual partners, without protection is reckless and stupid.

I always have a conflicting opinion I try to navigate. Sapiosexual all the way (if you can label men like that), no one enjoys some good intellectual conversation more than me. But I've also had my most awesome, sexy experiences when it's just business. Trying to thread the needle in that regard.

Anyways. Many layers to this onion. Message if you want peel them. Shit. No pun intended