Quote by BrattyKitty

I like your advice very much. Hope you are heard. More charming Gentleman like you needed. 😘

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So i've been dipping my toes into the lifestyle over the last few years, but I've never fully leaped in with both feet. As a single chap, you're more often than not dealing with the disrespectful bullshit being committed by a large percentage of the single guys out there. In my adventures so far I have had a few epiphanies along the way.

1. If you manage to get through the door. Be bloody respectful!! I cannot stress this enough. We as single guys are there as the third wheel. We're there to help fulfil a couples fantasies. But by being arrogant, pushy and disrespectful, all you're doing is putting the couple or potential playmate off of you and potentially off single guys entirely. In my experience.... we are the wingmen, her husband knows what makes her tick much better than you do. So respect that. Also you'll never go into a conversation with hi... would you like to see my dick. Nothing has changed here! Politely and respectfully introduce yourself with a face pic in a message and you've done right by the entire swinging community.

2. Pitch up to meets. The point of a meet is to check the chemistry and if it's not there that's also okay. But by not pitching, all you're doing is giving us all a bad name and trust me I'm sure people talk and it will be noticed. So don't be a doos.... pitch up if you've agreed to a meet.

3. Communicate and listen to what THEIR needs are. People in this community are excellent communicators and will tell you what they want. Remember it's YOUR privilege to be invited into their inner sanctum. from what i've experienced, your needs will most definitely be taken care of in the process.

If any couples want to add to this or feel I've left something out, please i'd like to learn more and be well educated.

I definitely agree with your hubby. Lingerie with a bit of skin really gets me going.

Quote by BrattyKitty

Boobs for sure, love mine and they get a lot of peeks when I’m out. 😈

They are a beautiful pair for sure @brattykitty

I’m going to give Fetish havens day play party a go on the 28th. Who has been? Is it a good jol? Or who is also going?

For myself I would say photography (which is also my job but hey I love it), nature and wildlife, sport primarily rugby and cricket ( playing a little as well, but not as well as I used to😂) and traveling ( also again for work but love it)

Quote by MootCPL72

HI HI all We are a OPEN minded couple from Pretoria
Just want to have Fun and more

Welcome. I hope you find the fun you’re looking for.

Quote by CuriosPair

Amen to that! Time wasters are rhe worst. My favorite is, "hi love your profile, can we chat perhaps?"

"Sure, heres our number/ " ....... silence.

Or when people just ghost you. You send a message or two andyou get the "sorry, just quickly busy with something, will reply shortly" ..... silence. A day or two later you send another message....... silence. Good lord thats annoying!

Absolutely agree. Anyway!!!!

So totally agree with this. My pet hate is, you reach out to someone and send a message. They read it, look at your profile and it ends there. The reality is someone took the time to send you a message, if you’re not interested then tell them that, rather than ignoring them. I find it blatantly rude. It’s like you’re putting your hand out to shake, and the other person looks you up and down and just ignores you. I think common decency is lacking with plenty of people on this site.

Goed en daar by julle

Hi hgd

I am a married man in a conservative and sexually uninspired relationship. I love my wife dearly but hey the sex is boring. We are so often villainised on this site, if my wife was open to swinging, I guarantee you I’d be happy to swap. She isn’t, so here I am. All we want is a bit of excitement in our sex lives again. Sadly very misunderstood.