Not a couple that is serious with the lifestyle yet. It is mostly me, the male half, trying to convince my girlfriend. She is reluctant, but I have seen some signs that she is actually interested in the lifestyle (actually had another couple over once but she didn't find the man attractive so nothing happened), and I truly believe she would enjoy it. I just want to get her to a swingers club, not to do anything other than have a drink to see if she might enjoy that. Anyway, from what I've read the woman is almost always reluctant at first, so I'd love to hear from the men how it should be approached, because I don't think I am approaching the lifestyle (with her in it) right.

Note: she isn't comfortable with me sleeping with other woman, but I only intend for her to (want to) have sex with other men. I think she has a lot of sex appeal and when we have gotten close to swinging, the thought of another man inside her turns me on a lot.

Any advice would be highly appreciated.