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New and keen - also a bit terrified!

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Hi hi, My fiance of five years and I (34 and 41 respectively) have been keen to get into the lifestyle - I'm pretty much an exhibitionist and Loved One is a keen voyeur, however, I'm terrified of pitching up at a party or club and being left to my own devices i.e. not having anyone to show me the ropes - and ultimately ending up where I did at my matric farewell - in the corner envying those who were having a great time! hahahha... So, my question is, are there actually chaparones or, call them, guides, so to speak who take newbies under their wing for an hour or so just to familiarise them with the vibe/people/rules/ etc? Also, how clique-like is the scene really? Are newbies generally welcomed or frowned upon? We are open minded, very sensual and enjoy the company of respectful and likeminded people - but - what exactly is the right or at least mildly successful way to embark on a first time party or club. And having said that, which is better first time around... a club or party? Yours in humble narcissism and joy at finally being FREE!!! Paige lol
Hi welcome to the world of fun, easiest is to ask questions, you will get lots of answers, for a first timer try playing with a single or a cpl privately. If you want to jump into the deep end try a club, but watch which one you try. Go look at CLUB POIZON website, you wont go wrong there.
Congratulations on taking a step outside the norm..into a wold of ecstasy and fun. Going to clubs is daunting and YES people tend to sit with whom they know, and it may seem they are stuck up and unfriendly. I would think you guys should ask /advertise or browse around and see who the people is whom always goes to parties and to the clubs you want to go to....Then write them and ask for them to meet you there and just to introduce you around for the first hour. Unfortunately I do not know anyone here on the site who goes to clubs there in Gauteng,or else I could have ask them to mail you guys. Enjoy yourselves.
Wow, thanks for the speedy replies. We're certain now that we made the right move! we'll definitely check out the club alternative and browse around for couples in our area. now... blonde question, but how the hell do i upload pics if it keeps telling me it wont upload jpegs that are the right size. lol have a super saturday, Paige and John
not my expertise why do you not ask the modurators...go into chat itself...they are the guys with the blue star next to their names.
Hallo page and welcome to the site, Your question on the size of the pics, you can shrink the size of your pics is you not knew how give my wife a shout and she will help you
Welcome to the wonderful world of orgasmic experiences, mind-blowing fun and a journey that will change your very outlook on life! That being said, the lifestyle (in our experience) can be compared to any other sub-section of society/community eg a sports club. Joining a new group is always a little bit daunting....not knowing what the procedures are; what is acceptable and what is not; hazy on the basic how-to's etc etc The folk can seem to be "clicky"until you get to know them..... Regarding clubs vs private parties: it's a personal choice. Both will be whatever you make of the experience. If you sit in a corner avoiding eye-contact, then your experience will be just that. If you go with a view to have fun regardless, then, guess what? You will have fun! We were all new at some stage....we all felt a little overwhelmed and excited....and, for the most part, we are all friendly folk who would be happy to say "hi" and have a drink with you..... We would be happy to help hold your hand or answer any other questions you may have (not that we have all the answers, however, we'll be happy to share our experiences with you). Feel free to mail us..... Enjoy!