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First time couples Pta
lol. as Im about to right to you, ive got a silly little smirk on my face. hehe.. not anything bad towards you of course.
the first time is basically like every time. you never get use to the idea of meeting new people for naughty fun. the butterfly feeling never goes away, and that is what I think is worth all the hassle. when it comes to playtime it basicly gets worse, more butterflies and all. but some alcohol realy goes a long way to calm the nervs a bit. it would be better to not just march into the bedroom and start doing the big nasty's. play some games before hand, flirt and so on. that's a huge icebreaker and realy relieves a hole lot of tension. but ones you start playing, everything just feels right.
hope I answerd your question
No it's not just you.
But contrary to jackd1112's comment - I found that after the initial meet, things are chilled and relaxed if you've chosen well, or if you're lucky enough to find people you instantly become great friends with... then there's no problem.
Though I will say, we generally don't play unless we really like the people in question 
But first meets are always a bit nerve wracking for the "shyer", or the less extroverted people - and I admit I'm not what you would call shy or introverted :)
If your plan is to go the "circle of friends" route, collecting the friends is the hard part, but after that it's much easier.
If you're into dogging, masked parties and clubs, well then the trepidation is likely going to be a constant companion, but as jackd1112 says, it's also part of the thrill for them. To be fair and to paint a realistic picture it's taken almost 10 YEARS for us to settle in and still I have moments where I wonder why I make the effort, but when it works it works REALLY well, so there's the pay off I suppose :)
But first meets are always a bit nerve wracking for the "shyer", or the less extroverted people - and I admit I'm not what you would call shy or introverted :)
If your plan is to go the "circle of friends" route, collecting the friends is the hard part, but after that it's much easier.
If you're into dogging, masked parties and clubs, well then the trepidation is likely going to be a constant companion, but as jackd1112 says, it's also part of the thrill for them. To be fair and to paint a realistic picture it's taken almost 10 YEARS for us to settle in and still I have moments where I wonder why I make the effort, but when it works it works REALLY well, so there's the pay off I suppose :) 