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Jakes1980
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Hi All So my wife is extremely bi-curious and we talk about it a lot etc etc etc But she is extremely nervous and scared about doing it/bringing another women in for a threesome. I guess the reason is the way she feels about her body.....yet she doesn't have a bad body at all. So what can I do or say to convince her? Any ideas or help will be gladly accepted. Thanks J
SDM
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Quote by Jakes1980
Hi All
So my wife is extremely bi-curious and we talk about it a lot etc etc etc
But she is extremely nervous and scared about doing it/bringing another women in for a threesome. I guess the reason is the way she feels about her body.....yet she doesn't have a bad body at all. So what can I do or say to convince her? Any ideas or help will be gladly accepted.
Thanks
J

I would suggest that you take the focus off "convincing" her. The more you try and "convince" the more it is likely to feel to her that it's more about you than about her.
Let the process take it's course, maybe even consider letting her explore by herself first.
Unknown User
I know this is an old question, but ill drop my 2cents here in case she did not get into exploring.. If she wants to, let her join a dating site as girl looking for girl. Give her her privacy. She will soon be fliterd with and might go on a meet at her terms. Dont push her though. This helped with my better half.
Unknown User
what you need is a lady that takes the control out of your hands, and let the lady seduce her. that way, if the lady seduces her, your wife will feel completely sexy. trust me I (we )know.
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Quote by jackd1112
what you need is a lady that takes the control out of your hands, and let the lady seduce her. that way, if the lady seduces her, your wife will feel completely sexy. trust me I (we )know.

Solid advice.
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Quote by Jakes1980
Hi All
So my wife is extremely bi-curious and we talk about it a lot etc etc etc
But she is extremely nervous and scared about doing it/bringing another women in for a threesome. I guess the reason is the way she feels about her body.....yet she doesn't have a bad body at all. So what can I do or say to convince her? Any ideas or help will be gladly accepted.
Thanks
J

I took mine to a classy strip club, well as classy as can be expected for such an establishment. I asked the one lady to give her a little extra attention and she did. It really broke the shell and from that day on, all she wants to do is have fun with another girl in our bed. Still a bit apprehensive about what I am allowed to do in that situation but at minimum she will allow me a bit of touching and tasting but she does not think she will be happy with me going all the way, in other words, no penetration but all other playing will be allowed.
Try taking her to one of the "cleaner" strip clubs and see what she does there. Was a good "ice breaker" for us that night.
241
Warming the Bed
Maybe let her start chatting to some women on here, many women are shy, especially if they had kiddies. Nobody's perfect...
Mike_
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Maybe let her start chatting to some women on here, many women are shy, especially if they had kiddies. Nobody's perfect...

Good advise 241, introduce her to the site. No pressure, make it clear she does not have to follow through, she's in control and you simply want to explore the fantasy.
Unknown User
Thank you so much for the advice posted. I have been feeling so guilty about wanting to see my wife taken by another man, and in turn have her watch me with another woman. I think right now, given how conservative she is, i would settle for just some same room sex without swapping. But how to get there?????
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You feel guilty? Shame I wonder how my husband feels... Have you broached the subject even? I think it's got to be a process of allowing her to accept, explore and express her own sexuality. So you need to create a space where she's able to do this. First start taking her to sexy underwear and toy places, allow her to explore herself and her sexuality. Slowly but surely begin to ask "what next" for her - let her set the pace and tell you what she wants to do. There are lots of options, try to take things slow and be patient - which I know that lots of guys really struggle to go slow here it could take a year, so accept that from the start. sexy undies toys porn strip clubs naughty parties/ clubs like Rome/Poison/Pharaohs etc same room threesomes with another woman (or guy depending on the woman in question - my choice was a guy) group..... who knows where next..