This is a sex site right? Members on here have one but one purpose ...that is to find someone or people to have sex with. In the adverts sex is basically offered on a plate. My question then is...if sex is available why does one struggle to get people or couples to respond.
Because people don't just want faceless sex with random strangers. That's obviously a dangerous idea when you say that out aloud. People want to get a feel for the idea - this place doesn't let you list your 'level' achieved in the swinging realm - many newbies are just chillin and figuring out what they really are into - message from super eager veterans can be scary. Secondly we are NOT all here for SEX - see the checkboxes?
Those are very different 'looking for' options there - you'll notice LOTS of people are looking for very different things. When you pay attention to the contents of the profiles, you can sort through the people who aren't looking for you, thereby eliminating a great number of the sure-fails 
Look for people who don't say they are newbies - or say they have been active for years - that's a good place to start :) Or try hitting a club and meeting people like that.
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This is a sex site right? Members on here have one but one purpose ...that is to find someone or people to have sex with. In the adverts sex is basically offered on a plate. My question then is...if sex is available why does one struggle to get people or couples to respond.
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I agree I sent over a thousand mails and got one reply...no thanks and I had good manners never vulgar etc. Now I ask is that a sex site
The reality of the matter is we get bombarded by single males and bud sorry to say you are to old.
FYI this is a sex site:
Sites like swinging heaven, kiwiklub etc are swinging sites.
To someone without a swingers lifestyle mindset the difference is blurred slightly but the difference is vast. People within the lifestyle look for a variety of things, however sex is an objective, it is not the sole objective. True swingers look for a thing called "a click", they chat, get to know each other and if they click then they shag like rabbits. Same thing at a club, you share a drink, chat, dance, flirt and look for a click, if it happens they run to the back and practice kamasutra.
So although sex is goal you can't look at a profile, say that's cute and shag her after saying Hi. You need to play the field a little, say hi and share something about yourself (besides a dick Pic) and show yourself as someone they want to get to know.
So if you are looking for a quick shag, you might mind it here, some couples are into that but don't treat that as the norm. Don't treat this as sex site because it is not. If you are looking for a sex site try sextrader, if you are cheap then naaibuddies. But don't confuse a lifestyle with a hookup.
