I joined here to "explore" the whole NSA scene. I have never really been the "sleep around" type, never went out on a jol for the sole purpose of finding pointless, meaningless sex with some drunk girl at the club. I see guys that do that as "preditors"... I go out and then sit and watch these types (99% of males in the club/bar), they are actually quite pathetic!
They hang at a table or the bar or just standing around, scanning for a target. When they spot their prey, they move in... I can never hear what they say but I can see them failing. The girl or girls just stand with a blank look on their faces, the "preditor" thinks he is achieving his goal... Once the inevitable rejection occurs, they move to a new target with the same plan. These idiots actually believe that each time they go out, they will meet a girl and chat for a short while, then end up in the back of a car with her that very night... I can watch these dorks for hours. Walking penises! They make me think of dogs with thier "pinkies" hanging out, panting over a bitch in heat! These men make me sick!
My point here is: I have never done that. I went out alot in my twenties and yes, I too chatted up the ladies (as I still sometimes do)... I never intended banging them that same night though. For me, a phone number was the ultimate achievement, just her digits. That way I can make contact and arrange a proper date. Dinner, drinks, whatever... A chance to court. Courtship is very important I think. It is also quite enjoyable, working hard to gain a ladies affection makes it all worth while when sex finally happens. I believe that just like in the animal kingdom, a male must impress the female. Be it with wits, charm, success, good looks, whatever... A man must work for it! The thrill of the chase!!!
I have been thinking lately... I am not a "horn-dog"! I prefer a ladies company to her vagina. Spending time with an intelligent and beautiful woman is the most amazing thing... Beats sex by a mile! Don't get me wrong, the sex is more than welcome but not instantly. Once the chemistry has devoloped and that so called "click" happens after spending time enjoying each others company, then the sex that follows is so much more amazing. The best scenario for me: Meet a great girl, get her number, call her the next day and set up a date. Take her out within a few days and spend the whole date just listening to her... Then a second date, then a third... Then maybe a full day together for a picnic or something along those lines... Then finally after a few weeks, she may be ready for the next step, she must suggest that we spend a night together, not me. Then the preperation... Clean place, candles, air freshener, dim lights, music... She MUST be impressed, very important to make her feel that she is not being used that night, she must feel wanted and not have any regrets. Never take from a girl what you can't give back! And that night must be absolutely special... Slow, intimate, passionate! The whole night until the sun rises! She must go home the next morning with a smile from ear to ear! Happy that she slept over and not leave with doubts.
Call me old fashioned, but that is the best sex ever!! For both involved!
So I wonder if I belong on this site or sites like these? Just a thought...
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Not looking for a partner no... Have one that I am concidering serious commitment with (but not decided yet)... What I mean is that sex should not be thrown around like a hobby... I sometimes just feel a bit guilty for being here, like I should not be searching for sex this way. I just feel that women should be treated with respect and never be expected to just "give it up". Believe or not, there are still some "nice guys" left on planet Earth. What I said above does not mean that a relationship must develop, the sex at the end of the courtship can also just be a once off, but the courtship must happen, the man must put effort into getting the lady to give up the forbidden fruit. My point is that women are not "prey"...
I guess my point above was missed... :sad:
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I think some off the best sex is when know some one drunk or not drunk .
Even on the back seat of a car or not
Exactly... I do prefer if I know the person, a deeper connection then and also easier. Difficult to try something "open-minded" with a stranger - you may just offend her with a "weird" suggestion.
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I have been thinking lately... I am not a "horn-dog"! I prefer a ladies company to her vagina. Spending time with an intelligent and beautiful woman is the most amazing thing... Beats sex by a mile! Don't get me wrong, the sex is more than welcome but not instantly. Once the chemistry has devoloped and that so called "click" happens after spending time enjoying each others company, then the sex that follows is so much more amazing. The best scenario for me: Meet a great girl, get her number, call her the next day and set up a date. Take her out within a few days and spend the whole date just listening to her... Then a second date, then a third... Then maybe a full day together for a picnic or something along those lines... Then finally after a few weeks, she may be ready for the next step, she must suggest that we spend a night together, not me. Then the preperation... Clean place, candles, air freshener, dim lights, music... She MUST be impressed, very important to make her feel that she is not being used that night, she must feel wanted and not have any regrets. Never take from a girl what you can't give back! And that night must be absolutely special... Slow, intimate, passionate! The whole night until the sun rises! She must go home the next morning with a smile from ear to ear! Happy that she slept over and not leave with doubts.
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Interesting approach, let the rest of us know if it works . . .
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I just feel that women should be treated with respect and never be expected to just "give it up". Believe or not, there are still some "nice guys" left on planet Earth. What I said above does not mean that a relationship must develop, the sex at the end of the courtship can also just be a once off, but the courtship must happen, the man must put effort into getting the lady to give up the forbidden fruit. My point is that women are not "prey"...
I get that you are trying to be respectful to women, and that is appreciated.
But I also get the impression that you think that women shouldn't "give it up". Did it ever occur to you that maybe she WANTS to? That is why she is on this site? To decide who she wants to give it up to? With or without forming a meaningful relationship.
Women have sexual needs just as men do. You may be the prey.
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C
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I just feel that women should be treated with respect and never be expected to just "give it up". Believe or not, there are still some "nice guys" left on planet Earth. What I said above does not mean that a relationship must develop, the sex at the end of the courtship can also just be a once off, but the courtship must happen, the man must put effort into getting the lady to give up the forbidden fruit. My point is that women are not "prey"...
I get that you are trying to be respectful to women, and that is appreciated.
But I also get the impression that you think that women shouldn't "give it up". Did it ever occur to you that maybe she WANTS to? That is why she is on this site? To decide who she wants to give it up to? With or without forming a meaningful relationship.
Women have sexual needs just as men do. You may be the prey.
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C
Agreed. That is why I say that the female in the deal must not have regrets. Then I am ok with it. Aslong as she does not feel used and abused after. Both perties involved must feel that what they just did is ok and not wrong - thats all. My main point is that women MUST want it 100% and not give it up just because it is expected of them by the male.
How many females have you heard of that are rapists? Paedophiles? Sexual harrassers? etc? Face it, a big chunk of the male population live for the sole purpose of boning!
My first above comes a few weeks after something extremely bad happened. It made me realise something and made me greatful that I was never a "perv". When your 9 year old daughter is molested for years under your nose by her own grandfather, you wake up and realise that sex can quickly become a very evil thing... A topic for another forum though.
How many females have you heard of that are rapists? Paedophiles? Sexual harrassers? etc? Face it, a big chunk of the male population live for the sole purpose of boning!
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*Boning* and a horny man/woman who has a high sex drive,has nothing to do with Sexual Harassment and and Pedophiles.
All three *conditions are more a case of someone who wants to physically and mentally dominate and abuse. can be a long discussion as this is a complex situation ,but in short rapists mostly resent women.
The words sexual harassment, covers so many situations that it is also a discussion on its own, in short men(used to) believe a woman can be physically and verbally abused as the women *MUST* enjoy this treatment surely, mostly in a workplace.
Pedophiles are clinical diagnosed, other child abusers/offenders are not always pedophiles.
But yeah,mostly men are culprits but you do get your females predators just sort of hide the fact that they were or gets sexually harassed.
PS just a short note...I used the word dominate here, but please note that in Kinky(BDSM) dominance is NOT the same!!!!
Er if I may... Mr K and I met on this site. We did the whole date and court thing and discovered besides the awesome sexual chemistry, that we are good together been an amazing time and we still going strong. But we are together as in serious no-t "partners". The only crap thing is lol we don't want to share each other lol go figure!
I reckon it happened for me Stamina might just for you. So I don't know if you ARE in the wrong place?
