Hi there all you lovely folks of the Eastern Cape.
I am aware that there are quite similar topics in the forums, but the responses were very few and far between...
Is the folks from PE and the Eastern Cape really active or are they just big talkers online?
I was actively involved whilst living in Western Cape in the lifestyle, but since moving to Eastern Cape the action came to a screeching halt.
Met one couple and after the initial coffee meet, never heard from them again.
I would like to hear other EC peoples comments and thoughts on this.
Take care.
Pieter a.k.a. FunInPE
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Hi FuninPE
you are not wrong with what you say, I live in East London and man is it difficult to find anybody, have also had a couple of coffees dates and that is how far it went, and emailed a couple of people exchanged pics and that was the last.
there are a lot of pretentious people on this site and on other sites, particulaly in the Eastern Cape area.
About a year back, maybe two, there was a huge public scandal about a couple, who happened to own a modelling company in pe, and how they were exposed as swingers in the Herald no less...
I honestly believe that that incident had a very negative affect on people's courage and made people a lot more cautious. The eastern cape is also generally a hot bed of gossip and scandaal, and that makes people, esp those with their own businesses, very cautious.
Also a lot of people online in the EC, seem to be relatively new, nervous and therefore are taking things slowly, there are a lot less people in this area too, which makes the choice to look for someone they have more of a connection with, seem like they are just here to trawl pics or they aren't serious about the idea, which is simply not true. You will also see that it's mainly the single guys that complain of not meeting "real" people here.
Thats because from a guys point of view, theres dick and pussy, therefore there should be shagging, but from a womans point of view it really isn't that simple, particularly if you are taking about married women who are not "short" of shags 
Indeed I had a hard time explaining that a big dick simply isn't enough for me to agree to shag some guy he found on the internet. I need a friendship, attraction...if I was single would I shag him? No? Then I certainly won't do so now.
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My 2c
Indeed I had a hard time explaining that a big dick simply isn't enough for me to agree to shag some guy he found on the internet. I need a friendship, attraction...if I was single would I shag him? No? Then I certainly won't do so now.
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My 2c Lee...I happen to remember that *scandal* and it was not only in the Herald......
Just for you guys that do not know about this...*A SINGLE* person was responsible for that couple to withdraw from the lifestyle.
People are a spiteful lot when they feel rejected and now we have all learned to be more paranoid and who can blame us??.
I am a single lady and I am paranoid due to that.
Fraid its not just the "scandal" there have been a number of attempts to liven up the EC scene even b4 this incident and none have been too few folks willing to put themselves out there and understandably so under the current socio stigma attached to lifestyle but that said there still plenty of folks out there.
We do find that due to current financial constraints and the high fuel price people are less able to take the chance and travel to meet and unless we meet folks within a reasonable time an online "friendship" will soon evaporate.
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We find that the lack of culture in Port Elizabeth does not allow us to develop in the culture ourselves.
I mean, we're pretty much at the beginning stages, having had some light experiences overseas, and want to ease into the lifestyle by making some good friends and going at a pace comfortable for her. Nice and easy, bit of wine, get to know each other, bit of flirting...
But there aren't so many other newbies willing to explore! I think because there is no culture to allow newbies to explore, they just don't even start.
So, Lee, let us know when you get that ranch started!
